Love Lost

I have been in love with a Scorpio for five years. The relationship is going anywhere and it's stale. Should I hang in or cut the losses??

PS: How does a Scorpio become boring?

that should read the relationship is going NO where!!

when you do all day is sit in the house

spice it up... go places even if he does not want too

I am not trying to be rude, what are you talking about? He and I don't live together?? How is me going any where going to spice anything up? I am away from him all the time. But when I do see he never wants to go out. He just wants to stay in and pull the blinds down. Maybe he just wants to spend some time alone with me?? I don't know anymore. If he says no, then I don't bother him about it...

yikes girlfriend, that sounds scary! If he pulls the shades when you're there, maybe he doesn't want anyone else to know you're there, i.e. maybe he's carrying on another relationship.... also if he doesn't want to go anywhere, maybe that means he doesn't want to be seen with you in public.... i.e. maybe he's having another relationship. Give more info please. Are there any suspicious things going on like 1) he doesn't answer the phone when you're there 2) he says "no" to going out more often than "yes"; 3) is he out of reach alot, i.e., doesn't return cell phone calls, or you get his answering machine alot when you call his house?

On the other hand, is there something going on in his life that could have him worried.... say, he's lost his job or a close relative has died or something that might temporarily be depressing him.

We'd like to help, but need jore info.

204.167 has hit the nail on the head... my only added comment is this -- it does not take 5 years for a scorpio to commit (move in -- marry) remember we are all or nothing so if this scorp was into you this scorp would be consuming all of your time, space, and energy

Were both unavailable, but this was agreed upon before hand!! And we use to do stuff together...

He and I have dependents(children and such) and this would not be approprite to flaunt in their faces.

He is newly divorced and I have a relative whom I take care of, and we cannot just go faunting considering our circumastances.

PS do you need more??

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but.... it sounds like he is losing or has lost interest. I take it by your comment that you're both unavailable that it means you both have other emotional commitments— That is never a good formula for a lasting relationship. I know it's difficult when you get involved with someone and just can't seem to let go, but be strong, seek ALOT of advice. Remember there is wisdom in counsel. It won't mean that you'll necessarily like or accept much of anything that is being offered, but at least you'll get some different perspective.

Good luck.

Okay, you must have been composing your response at the same time I was. Have you tried just simply sitting down and talking with him about it? Also, some good advice on another post listed here is to check out the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". It gave me some insight into how men and women look at things differently. There are also websites that will give you a synopsis of the book if you don't feel like going out and buying it. Maybe your relationship is just in a lull.... I don't think any relationship holds a high luster forever, it takes work to keep it going most times and a real commitment. Try to find out what he's thinking before you make any decisions.

Good luck.