Need help w/ a Scorpio Female (major help)

So I recently started dating a Scorpio girl rather quickly and we got pretty comfortable fast.. Things were going well until one day we had planned to go out on a date, but she ended up changing plans and invited her friends over (i've never met them) and essentially was inviting me to her place with her friends there.. where as I'd prefer it was just us two.. anyway things got pretty turbulent that day onward.

I'm a male gemini (may 22 with many taurus characteristics), I've dated a scorpio woman before (with great experience) but I can't seem to get to this person, I noted that scorpios like straight forward communication.. today we were texting away and wanted to see each other but than she changed plans again.. it's slightly an ego thing with her (not sure if it's a control thing) but given things have been turbulent i'd really like to be in a relationship with her without coming off needy/or intense about it.. she knows I like her I kiss her all the time but things are just not what they used to be

I told her via text blatantly that I'd just like to see her face (after she went through a short period of mind games via text) I'm not a games person, I'm just wondering how can I win a scorpio female, or win her back (not even sure if thats' the right hing) and what am I doing wrong, am I coming on too strong? (I feel as if I did)

Basically I care enough to seek help, but I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong - I feel like she's gaming me but I'm not into playing games..

Posted by girf123
So I recently started dating a Scorpio girl rather quickly and we got pretty comfortable fast..

How long have you been seeing her?How old are you both?

I'm 27 and she's 23 I know it may sound funny but it has only been a few weeks now

I turn 23 this year, i reckon just back off for a bit and let her come to you.. if i like a guy i wouldnt change my plans on him...twice, maybe you could be coming off a bit too intense for her (kissing her all the time) In the past, if a guy is too keen for me i sometimes get a bit put off, just back off a little bit I think and let her come to you.. and when she does still be a bit offish and she will probably come on even stronger.. 🙂

No it doesn't sound funny,relax.

When you started dating,was it mutually agreed upon that you would both be dating with the intent of a serious relationship or was it just casual stuff?Have you told her you are serious about her and seek a relationship?

If she was genuinely interested she would be contacting you and not breaking/changing these plans. I believe she would be more available. I would back off, live your life man.

Thanks scorpio24 I'm just naturally friendly and I've always been a bit of a stiff dater in the emotional side so I figured i'd change things up (though I do most of the breaking up in relationships)

svenus we went on a few dates and within the last few dates we went all the way at her place, I always very careful not to go too far too soon but she was pushing for it. We were texting back and forth with smiles and out right acknowledging we are seeing eachother.

It's weird we kinda made plans earlier today and she was very happy very sweet and smiling non stop saying that I make her laugh non stop but now she's acting like something came up and we're no longer seeing eachother. This happened recently when the turbulent issues began where i mentioned in the op: the recent issue where she essentially changed plans on me (in an almost attempt to show me off? to her friends... long story short I didn't end up hanging out with her when our plans went from us two on a date to me and her friends at her place... I opted out and she was asking for a picture of me later... obviously to show etc)

Tell her directly one more time that once a date is planned, you hope to see her and don't like it very much when plans are cancelled/changed unless it is an emergency.

Give her time to reflect on what you said and hold your ground.

Stay in touch with her and let her know you think of her periodically but don't smother her/act too needy(yes it would be synonymous to giving her power over you) even if she ignores you for a bit.

Continue to communicate in a straightforward manner,tell her to share with you if anything about the relationship is bothering her/is not quite right according to her,don't be ruffled by the games(ignore them,they will stop once she knows they don't affect you).

So,in summary, you will have to be firm,direct,show you care without acting too needy.Tricky,but doable.

Good luck.

thanks very very much scorpvenus