Need Scorpio's Help and Advices

I'm new in her so pardon me if I don't know any rules in here. I recently been going out with this scorpio lady and things has been working out at a slow but steady pace. She has been sharing with me her pass secret each time with meet and I'm very pleased that she is sharing that with me. In return I shared my secret with her too. Being a Cancer guy, when I love someone, I do not mind giving her all the best and if within my limit, presents like handphone, handbag and etc, that she asked for. Althought I can be generous, I need to find out if she is making use of me, I decided to do a test by putting up a long face when we went shopping and continue with the displeasure face till I send her home. The next day, things took a drastic change and she starts being distance to me and in the end I asked she, she told me that she was scared that I would expect something in return for all the caring, the presents that I am giving her. Testing her could be one of the dumb thing to do but I really love and cares alot about this gal. Scorpio out there, please give me your advice and opinion and how can I save this. Thanks.

Welcome Cancerman!

Sorry about the curves that you are experiencing in your new relationship and then again, I feel that all relationships will go through "growing pains" so that we may discover what works and does not work.

First of all and I hope you don't mind me being blunt but this is the only way I know how to express what I am feeling at the moment. I am a woman and absolutely distest games or testing. What I don't understand here is, if you love someone why are you testing them? Are you insecure? do you have feelings that they are not trustworthy? do you doubt her or you? When I am with a man and he pulls this on me, I will call him on it and share my feelings about how I feel regarding his actions. I have been in this situation before and what has ulitmately happened is that I do not trust him. I wonder when the next game is going to be played....makes for a very unsettling experience. Why is it so hard to be honest and say what we feel? I know, it is because we are afraid of being hurt...

All I need to say is, games do NOT work, they do NOT inhance a wonderful relationship, they will destroy it. What are you looking for in a relationship? honesty or game playing...the neat thing is you are fortunate enough to be able to choose and then you will deal with the consequences of your actions.

Tell her how you feel from your heart, this is what we woman like and respect in a man...I do anyway.

I have been through enough experiences with men and if a man tests me, I am gone. I need to not go any further....

I wish you the best Cancerman and I apologize if my post sounded a bit harsh...I was venting as I have heard of so many men and women testing in relationships...it is life but I desire REAL for now or nothing at all.

Keep us posted and I am sure that others will also share their thoughts with you as well.

Thanks for your true and direct comment and I really appreciate that. Testing her was the dumbiest thing for me to do. After the change of her atitude, I did told her about my feeling for her and it is then that she told me she was scared of that I would expect something in return from her, she didn't want to expect any further. I regret my action and I'm in open ear to know why she reacted this way and what I can do.

Hi cancerman,

I think Freebird pretty much hit the nail on the head. No-one likes to have games played with them.

One point though - it may be that your generousity is making her suspicious. Of course you are not intending to 'buy her love', but it could appear that way if you are often buying her things when you are out shopping. I am very independent, and would never expect that from someone. The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Why not just offer that and keep the 'gifts' to buying her lunch or an ice cream after a walk - stuff like that. Then you are both sure!

ScorpGal5

Hi again Cancerman and ScorpGal~

I agree with what SGal has said with regard to buying things. I have a male "friend" who insists on buying me things. Yes, it is nice and I do appreciate his thoughtfulness however.....he is just a FRIEND to me and I have told him this many times. He has a lot of money so this is not a problem for him but in all actuality it can be a problem. He may feel that the way to a womans heart is through buying her things..this may have worked for him in the past...we repeat what works. What I feel when he does this is this may be his way of having a hold on me...me thinking that, oh gosh - he has spent so much money on me I can't just walk out of his life...I may feel guilty!!!!!! For some woman this may be their truth...for me, it is not.

No one can buy my love....as SGal said, the best gift we can give someone is our time and I would like to also add to that...honesty and respect.

I am not saying that this is what you are doing because I do not feel that you are. I was just relating an experience that I was blessed with to learn from.

Freebird....

Again I thank both of your comments and feedback, it possible could be the case as descibed. I don't believe in buying love, and buying her things was actually not initiated by me but she had asked or hinted to me, that is why I am so puzzled and confused about this scorpio.

Hello CM.. I to am a new member for this site and even though the conversation is a little out of date my advise is still relevant.. Though I to disagree with the test, I think you heart was in the right place.. about her reaction,I don't think she belives you were trying to buy her with love, I'm a Scorpio woman myself and to make a comment based on my opinion after reading the whole Incident.It would be,that you two really need to talk.. obviosuly she has been in a situaion like that before, for her to let "you want something in return" be the first thing on her mind.. Now material things have never been somehting I was vey intereted in for I think real love is the greatest gift you can ever give or recive, and it Cancerman, is priceless... The love of my life is a cancer and when we were younger, we often did little test like If We were at a park what wuld you like to do? A. Cuddle under a tree and talk about the Future and day dream about the past, B. Play hide and go sesk etc. My point is there is nothing wrong woth doing little tests as long as both parties agree with it and if your doing a test to see if your mate is using you or if she loves you than you two seriously need to talk. Being a scorpio/cancer realtionship I know you can't keep your hands to yourself and you spoon on the couch and watch t.v a lot or often, just simply cut off the t.v and let your "heart" do all the talking I wish nothig but the best for you and your mate. Take care of my Female/Scorpio sista for once we are in love the whole world knows it and espcailly you!