Relationship is done.

Posted by Librascorplover
What is the most powerful and clear way to really get at a scorpio? He used me, treated me like crap and took me for granted. I want to do what's right but clearly makes him realize what he's lost? Should I just let it be? He caused me a lot of pain, tormented me and was mean.

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Why would you want to prove yourself to or gain the approval of someone that treated you so poorly?

You're presenting this as though it's about revenge for being treated poorly, but read over what you actually wrote.

Posted by Librascorplover
What is the most powerful and clear way to really get at a scorpio? He used me, treated me like crap and took me for granted. I want to do what's right but clearly makes him realize what he's lost? Should I just let it be? He caused me a lot of pain, tormented me and was mean.

Posted by Librascorplover
I feel like a failure and loser.

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This^.

Perhaps you should figure out why you' are owning his poor behaviour. Just because someone treats you badly does not mean there is something wrong with you. You accepting it and going back for more is another matter entirely (not saying you're a failure or a loser).

Unless you're a captive, or he's a psychopath/stalker, how does one torment you, treat you like crap and take you for granted exactly if you're not sticking around for it?

^^^Yes, I just read the OP in her other thread. I don't usually go through other people's posting history (ain't no one got time for that). I just take them as is, but it was right there.....

It makes sense now. My response still stands though.

First I would like to say congrats on getting out of a terrible relationship. Hopefully now you'll be much happier (even though it doesn't feel like you will be right now). Honestly, I say that even getting back at him is not worth it. I would just move on. However, if you must still come in contact with him, my grandma taught me that if someone treats you wrong, just kill them with kindness. 🙂 Good luck. Best wishes to you.

I've always found that forwarding naughty pictures to parents really gets even quickly.

In all seriousness and as cliched/passe as it may sound, the best revenge would be living well. I'd go find someone smarter and better looking and fuck the beejezus out of them to start.

Posted by MellyMel909
He's married.

Damn.

You've got the game all wrong, honey

The best revenge is to let go

If this man truly loved you, he wouldn't have hurt you or been so mean to you. So what makes you think that hurting a man who never truly loved or care, is actually gonna work? People have to love you and/or be invested in you in order for your "revenge" to actually hurt or hit home.

He hurt you b/c he figured you were the kind of person that would take it. He figured you didn't have a spine & that you weren't worth better. You def. WERE worth much more, but it doesn't matter what we think since HE didn't feel that way.

So the best way to surprise someone who thinks you deserve bullsh**t is to up & suddenly stop taking it one day! Being unpredictable always goes noticed by a Scorpio or anyone really. Move on. Doing so will show him better than you can tell him that he wasn't as important as he thought

Men like that not only wanna hurt you but they like knowing that you're still hooked on them & put them on this emotional pedestal even after the relationship ends. They have this sick desire to still be desired & chased when they've done nothing to deserve such king treatment

So when you go from making a man feel like he's super important (letting him treat you like crap) to suddenly standing up for yourself, they look like a deer in headlights. He'll wonder where all this newfound strength comes from. And even though he may not regret treating you bad, he'll at least finally have an ounce of respect for you

And that my dear is all you really need. Getting back at him won't make you feel any better nor will it change what all he's done to you. Moving on to someone else & much BETTER is the best way to get the point across to him AND yourself that you are superior & much better than the bullsh**t he put in a pot that he tried to call "love." THAT my dear is how you allow the tables to turn =P

Posted by Librascorplover
I feel like a failure and loser.

I totally know what you mean. Here is the reality though. You did everything you could, he did nothing.


Someone who has an external relationship when already in one doesn't love themselves or other people. That is his fault for not working on his inner game to enjoy life to the fullest.


You need to work on you inner game too but I think you have a greater chance of being stable. Your not stuck in the fucked up situation he dug himself in.


So take the blessing n that and be better!

we all get the wool pulled over our eyes at some point 🙂

i agree with others, the best revenge is moving on to a better life. besides, i dont think your the first woman whose had issues with him. He's probably been called every name in the book and been told off repeatedly, but its what he wants to do that matters.

Posted by Rabbit
Ignore him completely.

This would work if he was unique. But he's not. He's just a result of what she allows. The results will always be the same. Same ol' shyt, different day, if she doesn't change. Hers is a self-esteem issue.

Posted by Librascorplover
Thanks. I vowing never to let him have me again and never be with a married man again. Thank you. I want to work on myself. I need to love myself and not go for the torment. Thank you again.

Thanks for wasting my time. Next time stay consistent and add the little disclaimer that you are screwing around with a married man. Some of us could care less what "torment" you are succumbing as a result of your desperation and poor choices, although you both deserve each other imo.