Scorpio guy confusing Capricorn grl ADVICE NEEDED!

Hey! Okay so I met this Scorpio guy who is in the navy (I'm a Capricorn). He is stationed in VA and I live in FL, so we communicate through the internet. We've been messaging each other for almost 3 months now. From his messages he seems to be a man of few words and he says he's more of a face to face type of guy. Nonetheless our messages continued with asking questions about one another and a little bit of flirting here and there (like him hoping to be able to come FL soon so he could see me). This past Tuesday, I decided to ask him what his type of girl is(physically and mentally), because even though sometimes he would say something flirtatious, I still don't know what he thinks about me (but I'm assuming he has to be somewhat interested because he keeps messaging me back). I seen that he read my message and it's now Friday and he hasn't responded. It's really weird to me, because I don't know what would make him stop all of a sudden. I'm thinking maybe I'm not his type so he doesn't want to offend me, but why message me for that long? It just make no sense to me. I don't know much about Scorpios, but from the little reading I've done, it seems that they take a while to open up and let you know how they feel. I am interested in this guy, and would like to know what anyone thinks about him not responding to that question, or if I should say something back or just let it be.

Well he still hasn't responded back, so I guess I got my answer. It's just really annoying, because I wouldn't waste my time messaging someone if I wasn't interested in them or expected anything to come from it, so I don't know why he kept up with it for so long, but it is what it is.

It might have just been something for him to do. He prob wasn't taking it seriously. Maybe u aren't his type and he didn't want to hurt your feelings so he backed off. I don't mean to sound negative but scorps can be like that sometimes.

And then on the other hand maybe he really does like u but doesn't want to be the first one to open up and say what he's thinkin. Scorps can be like that too.

"I decided to ask him what his type of girl is(physically and mentally), because even though sometimes he would say something flirtatious, I still don't know what he thinks about me (but I'm assuming he has to be somewhat interested because he keeps messaging me back)."

Do you show interest on your end? besides the flirting, did you tell him, what you think of him?

Scorpios tend to only release freely in a trustful setting. Scorpios aren't the best at releasing information for the sake of conversation. They release with a purpose. He needs to know where you stand and trust you in that stand, in order to have an idea of where the information released will land and what it's impact will be.

At this point you should worry more about getting his trust, if you're interested and see him as a potential life partner. You won't get to a relationship without getting his trust first.

If he trust your nature, he'll release freely not having to worry about how the information will be used. If not he'll hold back and release what he feels comfortable releasing to you, when he feels comfortable releasing it to you.

Well I gave him my number and he text me the same day (but now he won't contact me unless I hit him up first *annoying). Yesterday I was straightforward with him and told him that I am interested in getting to know him but I need to know from time to time that this is all not in vain. He said he would like that, but was worried about our distance and he asked what are we going to do about it, I said I am very open minded and can find ways to make it work and I asked him what he thought about the situation and he said he can do it but he would like to see me. I reassured him that if we really grow to like one another, we will be able to see each other (I'm willing to make the trip and I hope he would be too, until (if) another option presents itself). He told me he would call me the next day because he was working all night, but the day is over and he hasn't called me or text me. I really don't know what to think about this or how to go about it, I'm use to a guy chasing me and always letting me know how he feels. This Scop not letting me know how he feels all the time, I can deal with, but not contacting me is adding insult to injury. He says one thing and does another, if he wants to get to know me or likes me whatever it is, why avoid me or make me feel like I'm the only one that has to put forth the work. I feel like a pest and may give up, I'm not contacting him anymore until he contacts me.

Sharonda,

You should do what's best for you, always but I don't believe that his behavior at this point is in connection to you, I don't think it reveals how he feels about you.

As a Scorpio myself, I'm more of a face to face type person. Even though I can connect with someone from online conversations, her presence is really what makes her real to me, I have to at least hear her voice to consider. He said that he's going to want to see you. Believe him. It's true. It will be what makes you real. It's what will tell him about you.

So it's not that he likes you or doesn't like you. It's that he doesn't know You. No matter what your online exchanges were, he doesn't know You. Your walk, moves, touch, voice ect, is really what will either attract him or repulse him. Though Scorpios aren't all about body connection, I believe it to play a big role in assessing a partner.

Time is the only thing that will reveal how good or bad he is for you. I understand that you could have a need to know what the relationship will be like prior to going through it. You don't want to waste time and energy on a bad thing. I can understand the assessment to prevent a heart break. I say there are some things in life you can't control and people's nature is one of them. The only thing you have full control over is your nature. So no matter what, if you keep your heart is in the right place and remain mostly driven by it. It's no time wasted. It's never time wasted.

Hi Sharonda,
I'm a Gemini. I feel your pain bc I am going through the exact same thing with a Scorpio man. We have seen each other and spent time with each other...but then he moved away about 7-8 months ago. So now he's about 8 hrs away. The communication was touchy at first, then stopped altogether for about 3 months. Then I contacted him, and we've been communicating regularly about 2 times a week for about 2 months (although I'd like more). I definitely feel like he's THE ONE...but it is sooooo hard understanding him because

But I get the same thing: Sometimes he will say he will call, but then he doesn't - and me, being used to being pursued, doesn't want to seem needy or clingy...so I won't call him...immediately LOL...usually if more than 4-5 days go by I will call him or sometimes he will call me. I did address it with him, telling him that it's a matter of consistency and keeping your word. So now, 95% of the time he will follow thru. Of course, it's taken us a several months to even get this far.

The one thing I've noticed for sure, and recently I've started anticipating it: Whenever we have a really intensely intimate or revealing moment where he opens up to me (emotionally, sexually), it is a surety that he will pull away for a few days. It's like 10 steps forward, 5 steps back LOL. That's where we are now. We've NEVER really talked explicitly about sex before. But on Monday he called me and told me that when he woke up I was on his mind, he wanted to see me and he could "absolutely ravish me"...it was certainly sexual, but not all sexual...there was definitely a lot of 'mind' intimacy going on as well as the physical. I think that considering the distance between us, that's the only way he can express himself. He's never expressed himself to me like that before...and now he feels vulnerable, so he's pulled away.

I don't know how long it will take for him to completely trust me with HIM. I don't know how patient I can be either LOL I don't know what to do (or not do) to get him to trust me more. But I want to try because I feel like he's worth it in the long run.

Hi Sweet Poetess,

I def. agree with you about them taking 10 steps forward and 5 back, my guy opens up a little and then there's no action (like calling or texting me first to let me know I am also on his mind). From some of the feedback that I've been getting it seems that these Scorpio men just need constant reassurance. They need to know that we are truly there for them and mean what we say and say what we mean (and that they can trust that when they finally open up we won't back out on them). I believe the distance between you two now started that process all over again. Patience is truly a virtue when dealing with Scorps. It's just kind of hard because you have to step out of the old school days, where the guy did all of the pursing, and actually become the pursuer, and how do we know it will pay off in the end and they will be this dream lover that we hope for? Guess it's a risk we just have to take and find out. My Scorp is just so intriguing to me because I can't quite figure him out or know what he wants from this like I would already know with other guys. I want to know what will come of this and I feel that once he finds that "trust in me" that he needs, I will know how he truly feels. It def seems that your Scorp likes and cares you because I don't think that he would still keep communication with you if not. So if you do feel that he is the one, I wish you luck and hope that it turns out to be everything you wanted with him plus more. 🙂

Keep me posted!

So you never met this guy in person? um...