Scorpio just cut me off with no real explanation

I have been with this scorpio for two years. He is a divorced father of two and the relationship is long distance. We did break up last year because he was having a hard time balancing me with his new job and being a single dad. But he begged for me back and things have been really good. I just went to see him two and a half weeks ago and we had a great time. On march the 31st we spoke for a few minutes in the morning and that was it. His phone was off for 5 days and I left numerous messages and text and nothing. Then on the 6th day he texts me and tells me he has had a family emergency and that he is sorry if he hurt me and sorry if he made me worry but that he would call and explain. He never called so last weeked I tried him serval times and he wouldn't answer but texts me and says that he can't talk and that he is with his family. I asked him what was going on and why he wouldn't tell me what was going on and he sends me this text saying that he will talk to me when the time is right for him and that was it. I have never in my life had someone do this or just stop talking to me and not tell me why. I am devasted..and feel like there is no way this man could love me like he claims. Also any time we have had drama its alawys been about his x but now I am thinking maybe he is cheating but at this point he has hurt me so bad his behavior is unforgivable..this is just so bizarre to me. I know that I may sound silly but we always promised each other that if we wanted to date other people or explore other options we would be honest with each other but I don't know what to think.

so its been 10 days since we spoke

Comunication is very important in a relationship. I know Scorp males get a bad rap for going silent, but I know Scorps who dont do that. If they really want someone they arent going 10 days without talking to a person they are genuinely interested in. So if he wants to do that then let him have his way. Dont call him. And even if he somehow manages to smooth things out with you dont talk to him unless he calls you or contact you. This will curb your insecurity (which btw he has already sensed). So focus your peace of mind right now. Not him. Do things you enjoy. Take a salsa class or something fun. Spend time with people who truly love you like friends and family. So basically just get a life outside of him and no matter what happens keep it that way.

Thank you for your advice. It has been difficult becuase I am shocked he would do something like this. And also i just keep thinking he is cheating. I just don't understand why he would do something so hurtful. I went from feeling like he adored me to... I don't even exist.

I have read and heard that Scorpios are loyal but this behaviour is so bizarre I guess I am starting to think the worst.

Posted by buttercupSG
send him a txt saying it is very rude, hurtful inconsiderate of him to keep you in the dark. you are not a kid he can tell you what the emergency/crisis is so you dont' worry and then you will leave him alone until he comes begging.


if he does not respond that'd be a goodbye. make yourself unreachable after that.

Butter is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT on all counts (including the next reply)....

Look, if you don't have trust you have NOTHING with him. Trust in my experience, is even more important that communication. I don't even make FRIENDS with people I don't trust. Why would I have a relationship with them?

Seriously, just move on...You tried it in the past and stupid issues came up. The definition of insanity is to try the same thing over and over expecting different results....

Sorry if I sounded harsh, but I hate to see good people waste their time on the WORTHLESS....

"I have been with this scorpio for two years. "

Has he ever done this before?

pathfinder, he was distant when they were sorting out the financial settlement and custody arrangements last year. But he never just cut off communication so I guess no..he has never just stopped talking to me . It will be three weeks tomorrow and I can't lie and say I am not really hurting over this. The hard part is i just saw him and everything was fine (so I thought). i don't know if he just decided for some reason to end things without telling me but he usually is very honest and blunt and I begged him to tell me ..and his words were "he has family things going on that need his attention and he will call when the time is right for him". I told him was selfish and being hurtful and that he was a horrible person for handling this ..this way. at that point it had already been two weeks of no phone calls when I said that ... and he said that if he was so horrible then to leave him alone. so after that ..i haven't tried to contact him since. its been over a week now since i tried to reach him....I just wanted to know what was wrong..him doing this makes me believe he never loved me and our whole relationship was a lie. I really loved this man and whats crazy is when i went to see him last month he was on the phone with my mom giving her encouragement to get her knee replacement surgey done because she was scared and his mom had already had it done. they also talked about him coming for dinner and he asked her to make his fav food.

this is really diffcult....but I know that he is the one that should be calling ..not me.

oneoffour8888 , its hard not to think its someone else..because is clearly not concerned about me. I am trying really hard to focus on me but its hard because I keep thinking why would he just treat me like i don't exist.

Noel ~

this is just a specualtion now of what I am going to say...

I believe that your SCORP man is emotionally still entangled to his wife/ex. He has to sort those entanglements out first, before he can make you any promises.

YOU being 'officially' in the picture before things get sorted out, will weaken his outcome he might be planning for. It WILL make matters worse.

Especially if it is for custody of children, your presence will make him lose them.

If He hasn't ended with you, it is for the reason that he is in this dilemma of not knowing how matters will turn out. His wife/ex might be insisting on things... like still having strong feelings for him, threatening, etc. We usually choose the 'OLD' instead of the 'NEW' one if we still have feelings for you. I also explained this in my post about "I thought I knew Scorpio Men..".

HOWEVER, once we decide it is truly over, nothing can stop us. It will be a matter of time... as long as it takes.


Scorps ARE loyal to a degree that we will continue the OLD NOT WORKING way -- even for years.... We may not necessarily be 'loyal' to our partner anymore...in a traditional sense, but we will be loyal to the ARRANGEMENT we have. Our kids, bills... duties that need to continue being taken care of.

When he says, *HE IS WAITING FOR THE RIGHT TIME*... HE himself is trying to be utmost patient. In the meantime, if you decide to move on... that will be your choice. I am sure he cares very much for you.

He sure is in a big MESS... He tried explaining that to you. And you are much right in hurting, because the way I would feel would be being involved in his fight.


In Theory.. we want the guy to explain us... to ask for our help, but in practical terms... unfortunately, no guy likes to give us an open explanation of why they do things the way they do...

Move ON... and don't get mixed up in his FIGHT, Noel!

Let him come back to you in CLEAN terms. When that time comes... you can rethink your emotions and willingness for him. Usually by then, you don't feel the same anymore.

Don't offer him friendship. He may tag you along, you may find yourself always waiting for him, and you will get hurt even more.

Just cut loose... perhaps tell him.. once he has sorted things out, he knows how to find you.

He will respect you for that.

Once in a while, you can still make the friendly call... SHORT and SWEET... to see how things are for him... but don't get back physically until you feel strong of what you want from him.

oh sorry... I just see he IS divorced

hmm... there might be another lady in the picture, noel

darn I feel so bad saying this. 😢


Long-distance NEVER works out for me. It's just surreal, unless I'm married to the person. There were times in my marriage when my ex used to be away due to work, even 6 months at a time... never had any issues. It used to be fun to get him back... it was always like a fresh love and very romantic communicating and waiting for this phone call he was looking forward to as well....

But long-distance relation?? Not sure ... not practical, most of all...

three weeks is too long. Unless he is dead!

don't give him the benefit of the doubt. He has made himself an ASS obviously. Don't feed his ego anymore, hun.

Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
three weeks is too long. Unless he is dead!

don't give him the benefit of the doubt. He has made himself an ASS obviously. Don't feed his ego anymore, hun.

Fum, I always say unless he is dead or in a coma!

🙂 thank you Vixen...


True, Peach! Dead or coma... lol.

I didn't use coma, because some ladies may take this literal and start wondering about the guy's health... as nuturing as we are...


I used to think about my Virgo man perhaps being somewhere in hospital and suffering, when I didn't hear from him. ::: rolling eyes today:::

Imagine a passionate sign like Scorpio

Imagine this Scorpio not talking to you for 3 continuous weeks...

THAT would be torture!!

Unless I tell the man, I am done with you... then I will PASSIONATELY try sticking to my words... even that would be hard if I'm truly into you...


ok i will stop now. don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings.

His Distance and him ignoring you and blowing you off is a sure sign he's moved on....He's hoping you catch the hint and do the dirty work of breaking up, hoping you just fall right off the planet...Poof he's gone and it's over without having to verbally come clean....He's being a coward right now, doesn't want to face you with the reality that he's most likely working it out or attempting to work it out with someone else.

Hugs to you, Noel.

"But he begged for me back and things have been really good. I just went to see him two and a half weeks ago and we had a great time. "


How long were things really good? How often did you guys see each other during the entire two years?

How long was he divorced before you two became involved?

Were you guys exclusive?

(I meant to type) How long were things really good -- after he begged for you to come back and when did you go back to him?

You mention you just saw him two weeks ago. Just wondering if that was the first time you guys were together after you reconciled....

I think it's one of the most cruelest cowardice things people do in relationships, these revolving door type of men are weak, they don't want to break up officially because he wants to rely on always having someone around if something doesn't work out with the other woman/women and his agenda is to always have someone around when he's ready to PLAY AND PRETEND to be someones boyfriend which means he needs to keep his foot in the door so he can be able to walk back into her life whenever it's convenient for him and if she happens to say I thought we were over because I hadn't heard from you in so many months he can say I never said it was over, I never dumped you in thus go into a LAME reasons why he couldn't call and maintain contact, the usual lame lies are my dad died, i'm stressed out, I'm in jeopardy of losing my job or I lost my job, my ex stole the kids, my dog ran away but if you pay close attention to his movements online you will see how stressed out he's been, most likely he's laughing it up and giggling it up with other women and hiding post and pictures and what not and he's not answering his phone when it's clear he's available b/c you can see him online...Once they break routine it's a sure sign something is up and it's not good.