Scorpio Men Baffle me. The initial talking phases...

Help me keep my head above water ya'll.

So I just started talking to this Scorpio guy, the details are a bit particular. If you want the backstory I will give it.
But we had seen each other around and then bumped into each other in my office (which was weird/surprising). He immediately went online and messaged me saying it was nice to cross paths. I said I agree. I asked him what his "real" name was- I only knew his stage name (musician) and he responded with his phone number. This joking went back and forth for a while and he's all text me if you wanna know. Well I didnt! My number isn't that easy to get. A few days and several cat memes later we agree to go out. So we hung out, had a great night.

Then we had been texting for a few days, then he asked me to hang again. I said i was working and he was persistent. He's like I wanna see you at work. I was like I can't (but in a more joking way). Then he's like can I meet you after u get out? My friends are playing down the street. So he did and walked me over which was sweet. He got my drink, gave me his jacket when I was cold. We talked a bunch ( he knows I'm fresh out of a relationship- he knows my ex) and he shared that he had a rough upbringing. And honestly, some personal stuff. But somehow I feel I know nothing about him. ?! The next day (yesterday) he follows up with " I had a nice time with you" I responded. He sent me a pic of him and said "trying out a new look" it was him glasses- cute. We texted silly things for a bit, then I asked him for music to listen to at work. He told me. I said thank you. He said nothing..er ok.
Then radio silence all day today.


So it's the radio silence I don't get. THE ONLY other scorpio I dated was like this. It was like, I knew he was into me, but he would go silent. What is that? And should I be asking him out or what. Honeslty, I enjoy his company, but I probably not ready for anything with anyone. I don't want another broken heart. I find myself being ridiculously curious about him....I have two off days and I would like to spend some time with him. Scared to break the silence though. Am I being tested?

It's like me to reach out, but it's weird he came on strong then was silent.
I guess honestly I'm unsure of what I want and I'm scared. I like him, but I don't wanna be hurt/not sure if I'm ready.

I looked back through his communications, and came to the conclusion that this is just how he is. I notice he doesnt respond to everything on fb. There were a few fb messages he didn't respond to. I remember feeling confused then too, but he'd pop up in a few days. He just takes stuff in sometimes, or who knows...it's kinda up to me to decide if I can stand that. Honestly I like more communication, but I like him too. I will let it rest and maybe pop him a message tomorrow and ask him to hang. It's not the end of the world either way (: And I don't wanna play games either.
My scorpio ex was kinda like this too. It's very scorpy tbh. I just honestly don't get it, and I didnt with my ex either. . . .

Ugh I never post on this board bc ppl barely respond...

Posted by underwaterthing
Then radio silence all day today.


Honeslty, I enjoy his company, but I probably not ready for anything with anyone. I don't want another broken heart....Am I being tested?

Probably? You don't even know what you want, but you're focused on what he may or may not be doing?

He can probably sense that from you. I hear men don't like to get their hearts broken either....I could be wrong.

Why is it that people put so much emphasis on needing a response on everything? And texting back and forth constantly? Its fucking exhausting. Don't people have anything else to do except camp their phones for messages?

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Posted by scorpx3
Just be yourself. If you want to say something, then say something. Who cares if you're being tested or not? Are you trying to have some artificial relationship? If not, then be yourself and reach out to him. Or, if it's unlike you to reach out to him, then don't. Lol.

So much awesome in this post. SO MUCH AWESOME...

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I agree, I text my babes whenever I just want to connect. He is Libra Sun, Scorpio Rising and seriously enjoys his time outdoors hunting and fishing and well, just doesn't have the need, time, or want to always text me back. I'm talking maybe 3 or 4 texts a day of mine to his one or two or he'll just call me later at night when his day is done and he's home - whatever, I am Taurus so I do not have that need to always be connected at the hip - I seriously enjoy my alone time too so maybe that is why we work. I trust him completely - he tells me his stories of his adventures and he's home every night. Go to your own thing and don't be joined at the hip. When my babes gives me one on one attention when we both do fully connect, it's so intense I can't breathe sometimes - omg ...

I am a Leo/Virgo cusp. I want to spend time with him and get to know him better, but I'm afraid of being hurt, or that it's too soon after a bad breakup.
It is the dichotomy between being very intrigued/excited by his company and just wondering if I should take some time to myself cause he's so much in my headspace already.

I am truly over thinking it. And yes he may *SENSE* that. Ive been wanting to ask him to hang on my off day tomorrow. I'm just trying to find the words. He is playing a show friday, I could stop in after work, but I might just catch the tail end of it.

:/
Everything was going so well and he was coming forward...
Then we both went silent.

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Posted by underwaterthing
Then radio silence all day today.


Honeslty, I enjoy his company, but I probably not ready for anything with anyone. I don't want another broken heart....Am I being tested?

Probably? You don't even know what you want, but you're focused on what he may or may not be doing?

He can probably sense that from you. I hear men don't like to get their hearts broken either....I could be wrong.

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A keen point.

My Venus in Cancer always messes me up..

Meh. I just texted him a cute little msg with our secret agent code names we gave each other asking him to hang out tomorrow. That felt the most authentic. With holding felt fearful/manipulative. He said "sure i'm available" lol. That was relatively simple...

Posted by underwaterthing
Meh. I just texted him a cute little msg with our secret agent code names we gave each other asking him to hang out tomorrow. That felt the most authentic. With holding felt fearful/manipulative. He said "sure i'm available" lol. That was relatively simple...

Imagine that.

Keep it simple. Have fun and slow it down until you get yourself sorted. Scorps are very observant, so if you said anything that made him feel you aren't ready to move forward he's gonna back it up. No pre-bad breakup required for a Scorp to be guarded with his or her heart. No one wants to be someone's rebound or "test the waters" (pun intended) experiment. I've been known to tell a guy "come check me when you get your heart sorted" when I felt he wasn't ready to date me. A Scorp wants to know your heart and mind in clear and ready for him/her. If you're worth it, he/she will wait.

He may also just want to bang 😈. Regardless, if you take your time, just have fun with him, be honest with yourself (and him) about where you are emotionally, it will unfold as it should. Naturally.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by underwaterthing
Meh. I just texted him a cute little msg with our secret agent code names we gave each other asking him to hang out tomorrow. That felt the most authentic. With holding felt fearful/manipulative. He said "sure i'm available" lol. That was relatively simple...

Imagine that.

Keep it simple. Have fun and slow it down until you get yourself sorted. Scorps are very observant, so if you said anything that made him feel you aren't ready to move forward he's gonna back it up. No pre-bad breakup required for a Scorp to be guarded with his or her heart. No one wants to be someone's rebound or "test the waters" (pun intended) experiment. I've been known to tell a guy "come check me when you get your heart sorted" when I felt he wasn't ready to date me. A Scorp wants to know your heart and mind in clear and ready for him/her. If you're worth it, he/she will wait.

He may also just want to bang 😈. Regardless, if you take your time, just have fun with him, be honest with yourself (and him) about where you are emotionally, it will unfold as it should. Naturally.

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Thank you. This is helpful. He's very private I gather and like. Same for me. I'm being careful not to rebound either.
"he may just wanna bang" yea, that doesn't happen with me. I only have sex in serious relationships. I'm just not that way so that won't go down. We will see what happens tomorrow. I didn't respond and he pushed a few texts through. I sense some insecurity/caution within him. Like he needs some coaxing. I will take it slow and try to resolve my expectations.

I'd like to be at peace. Grounded.

I'm not looking to hurt or be hurt. Just following my intrigue and also being cautious for myself and for others.