Scorpio sun Aries moon too intense

There is this guy at my work who for whatever reason, has taken an interest in me. I won't say romantic interest because he's never asked me out or flirted with me. He knows I have a boyfriend. I'm a very introverted person and I do not like to draw attention to myself. He's a very difficult person to work with and he's already made enemies out of our co-workers. He has a really crazy temper, that just seems to come out of nowhere. He constantly interrogates me and ask really personal questions. He follows me around and doesn't seem to respect my personal space. He finds excuses to touch my arm or my knee or like will casually brush his hand against my stomach. Sometimes he will just stare and stare and stare. Although now that I think about it I probably instinctively stared back at him, which I'm sure encouraged more staring. If I'm talking to a co-worker about work, he'll cut in and physically try and "guide" me away from the co-worker. Normally I would ignore and avoid someone like this, but were animators and were going to be stuck working together for at least a good 9 more months. What worries me is that he's started popping up in my life outside of work. Maybe I'm paranoid, but suddenly he's showing up at my gym and the cafe my brother owns. I'm pretty tolerant and laid back, but now I feel like I should have been more clear about my boundaries. For the past two weeks he's taken to calling me really late at night or really early in the morning and as expected my boyfriend ended up completely exploding on him. Specifically, my dilemma is- How do I have a conversation with him, explaining that I want to be just coworkers- nothing more nothing less- without him totally losing his temper? I cannot work in a tense environment and the dude is way too intense. lol

I do realize my part in escalating this. I'm a live and let live kind of person. So I sort of just shrugged at his almost stalker tendencies and didn't let his "intensity" phase me, because at the end of the work day I could always escape to "my world". But the situation has gotten too crazy and he won't back off. He still calls and randomly shows up where I'm at. I don't know how to get him to back off without completely ruining my work environment. And truth be told I'm afraid of the stinger.

When working on a new project, each team exchanges phone numbers.

Posted by ellessque
"I won't say romantic interest because he's never asked me out or flirted with me."

"He finds excuses to touch my arm or my knee or like will casually brush his hand against my stomach."

These are contradicting.

"He constantly interrogates me and ask really personal questions"

How do you answer? DO you answer? Do you TELL him you are not comfortable with such questions?

First of all, the next time he calls you at home and it is not in regards to work....clearly state that your "personal time" is important to you and you would prefer to not be bothered. Once he crosses that line again, TEXT IT...so you have it in writing.

You HAVE to be direct and honest. NO beating around the bush because he'll read into shit that isn't there.

Do you have his whole chart?

The temper thing IS an aries moon thing. However, the over the top affection is not. Something in his chart is bringing that to the forefront and the aries moon is exaggerating it.

Doesn't sound like libra venus, I am a LOT more subtle...even though I flirt like a bandit.

Yeah I guess those two statements are contradicting. I'm just hesitant to call the touching flirting, because he'll do it after a joke or to emphasize a point. It's too ambiguous.

In the beginning, when he would ask a personal question- I would be so shocked and flustered that I would just answer. Unfortunately, I didn't make clear boundaries from the get go. That's how this situation escalated to the point that it's at. What I don't want is a confrontation in the workplace. I was thinking of writing him an e-mail clearly expressing my feelings and then hoping we can keep it professional from there.

His chart- Scorpio sun, Aries moon, Scorpio mercury, Sagittarius Venus, Scorpio Mars

i don't get why i don't have obsessive stalkerville syndrome. i'm not a proper scorp 😢

i think this scorp sounds like one of those awful spineless puppy-eyed scorps who are on the immature side. they get very nauseating after a very short while cos they don't recognise any boundaries between work and someone else's PRIVATE TIME and also they show scant disregard for whether the object of their obsession has a partner in their lives or not. i had a similar issue with a scorp i worked with and even though i've not actually seen him for two months, he STILL messages randomly asking 'what i'm up to' and stuff.

good luck shaking him off!! might have to shoot him!

btw...how cool being an animator!!

Posted by ellessque
good Lord, he's all fire and water.

well, I'm not THAT familiar with Sag venus on a scorp, but I imagine with the venus and moon he's seeking "reactionary"...probably feeds off the attention. Quite honestly, he "plays too much" and doesn't have much as far as boundaries go.

So, as long as you "react", you are personally feeding grapes to him right off the vine.

Let me go out on a limb and ask....are you maybe being hypersensitive to his attention? *ducks* There is ALWAYS a weird air around scorps and taurus. I've had my own experiences with that. We are opposites.

What about your chart? Perhaps you have some crazy synastry there that you could flip to a platonic friendship vibe (will take some focused work and energy on your part to accomplish that)

How would I stop reacting? Do I just ignore him? Give him the cold shoulder? I feel like that would make the situation worse.

I don't know if I'm being hypersensitive or just paranoid. But the constant phone calls aren't imaginary and showing up in my life outside of work isn't imaginary.

So I did a synastry chart and we have some pretty "intense" aspects. lol We have - Sun trine moon, venus trine pluto, sun conjunct pluto, moon trine mars, sun trine venus...haha

Hmmm maybe I was just being hypersensitive. Maybe he was simply just trying really hard to be my friend and I felt threatened by it, especially since he seems so unpredictable. I mean if he were a woman doing all this, I would think...nice new friend.

Posted by scorchedearth
rose, why did you do your synastry? you seem a little "focused" on this guy tbh. is there a little taur/scorp attraction thing going on there but you're not wanting to mess with it since you're taken? 😛

Haha I did it because ellessque brought up synastry and I was curious. But I'm so not going there. I won't let my Gemini venus get me into trouble! lol