ConfusedBull
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Scorpio woman confusing the hell out of me
I'm going to dissect your post and try to bring you back to reality so let's rewind and work through this.
I met scorpio woman on a dating site a couple of weeks ago.
*Correction, you didn't actually meet, this is a dating site.
Things seem to to be going very well.
*That's subjective and your view point only. Just because she responds to a message it doesn't mean things are going well. What things are even going well—
She took down her profile.
*That's her choice. Things happen in people's lives and sometimes they may want to take a break. She's going on holiday so won't be around to date anyway.
I told I was taking it seriously and had taken my profile down as well.
*That's your choice but you are putting all your eggs in one basket and you are missing out on another great woman who might come along in the meantime, bearing in mind you haven't even met this woman.
We've exchanged lots pictures, she sent me some just yesterday. She sends me wink/kiss emoticons all the time and I have sent them to her as well.
*Thats how dating works. This is nothing special. Anyway, winks and emoticons, how old are you? 12?
We had decided to meet for lunch this week and the of she canceled said something had come up.
*That is a shame but also dating can be quite fickle. People aren't always serious and they don't place as much importance on dates as they should.
She is going on vacation tomorrow for 2 weeks so we decided to meet after she gets back.
*That's a good plan. Nothing you can do with her in the meantime.
I told her I think about her all the time and that I was really into her.
*Hmmmm, that's a bit over the top regarding someone you have never met. You do not know this person yet you are putting her on a pedestal and she may feel unable to reach your expectations. A well placed, genuine compliment is always appreciated. Gushing or clingy behaviour just reeks of insecurity and is not what a Scorpio will appreciate.
She has thanked me or said it was sweet, normal type responses but not really reciprocated directly.
*She is being polite. Why would she reciprocate? Does she know you? No. Does she think you're the best thing since sliced bread? No. You're feeling disappointed as she's not making you the centre of her world and/or being equally gushy. If she's got her head screwed on and is secure then she won't fall over herself just because some bloke off the Internet sprayed his pants over a few photos of her. Remember, there's about ten blokes to one woman on these dating sites. We have our pick. That's just how it works.
But I noticed she put her profile back up on the dating site today.
*That's her profile and she'll do whatever she damn well pleases with it. Her choice. You know you're disappointed with this as you wanted her to declare her undying love for you immediately, and by emoticon, and ride off into the sunset with you to live happily ever after... anyway, if your profile is off, how do you know she did this?
Everything feels the same she was a little busier today getting work done ahead of time and packing I guess. But I got home from work and she was on the dating site. I have another dummy account just to check up on women I'm chatting with just to see how serious they are being with me.
*Oh look, we have a stalker... an insecure stalker too. You have another account which you use to stalk women on and to lay traps to trip them up (before you've even met them) which you will justify to yourself and others by saying you want to ensure they're being serious about you, then when they fall you will lay blame at the woman and say she was a fake, liar, not serious etc. This is not a good way to be. By all means use social media to check out a person to ensure they are who they say they are, to see if their story is straight (not married etc) but there's a fine line between doing that and using a fake profile to catch people out before you've even met them and before you're in an exclusive dating situation.
She has never stated that she took it down for me or anything and frankly I've never let these things bother me before if I haven't directly discussed it.
*Exactly, it's her profile. You're jumping the gun with taking a profiledown before you are exclusively dating. From my view point and experience, women tend to multi date whereas guys tend to focus on one woman and if that woman doesn't work out then they will move to the next. Men can't always multi task well so they are unlikely to multi date. If they want to multi date then that's fine. It's good for women to keep their options open. If they don't then they can fall into giving one man all their attention far too early on in the dating process, getting far too involved far too quickly, often rushing sex, and then when that man isn't interested after a few dates it can devastate the woman, it is how we are built. Better to take time dating then narrow down the pool before commuting to exclusively dating one man. At that point she can remove her profile.
But I really like this lady and I want to take it the next level.
*You do not know this lady. You want to take it to the next level— So you basically just want to go on a date with her. ?
I don't want mess everything up, but with this lady it is bothering me quite a bit. I'm not sure what to do. How should I feel? What should I do?
*Why so much pressure? I think you need to put your profile back up and keep your options open. I think you need to be clear with why you're on the dating site. What are you looking for? If it's a relationship then are you ready and available for one? You need to find someone who matches what you're looking for too. What's this woman looking for? For this woman, I would not contact her until she returns from holiday. Leave her alone. When she returns from holiday, drop her a message to ask how she is and ask her out directly on a date. Something like you would like to take her to dinner, I'm free most evenings, which evening is best for you? If she's interested she'll accept and give you a date/time. If she's not interested she'll ignore you, make excuses, and avoid you/string you along. At this point you thank her for her time, wish her well, and delete her number. Then you move on to your other options. No need to stalk her. People will tell you everything you need to know by their words and actions if you just ask them and keep dating simple. Find your balls too.
I'm a Scorp female who met a male bull from internet dating, been together 18 months.
You're welcome.
I met scorpio woman on a dating site a couple of weeks ago.
*Correction, you didn't actually meet, this is a dating site.
Things seem to to be going very well.
*That's subjective and your view point only. Just because she responds to a message it doesn't mean things are going well. What things are even going well—
She took down her profile.
*That's her choice. Things happen in people's lives and sometimes they may want to take a break. She's going on holiday so won't be around to date anyway.
I told I was taking it seriously and had taken my profile down as well.
*That's your choice but you are putting all your eggs in one basket and you are missing out on another great woman who might come along in the meantime, bearing in mind you haven't even met this woman.
We've exchanged lots pictures, she sent me some just yesterday. She sends me wink/kiss emoticons all the time and I have sent them to her as well.
*Thats how dating works. This is nothing special. Anyway, winks and emoticons, how old are you? 12?
We had decided to meet for lunch this week and the of she canceled said something had come up.
*That is a shame but also dating can be quite fickle. People aren't always serious and they don't place as much importance on dates as they should.
She is going on vacation tomorrow for 2 weeks so we decided to meet after she gets back.
*That's a good plan. Nothing you can do with her in the meantime.
I told her I think about her all the time and that I was really into her.
*Hmmmm, that's a bit over the top regarding someone you have never met. You do not know this person yet you are putting her on a pedestal and she may feel unable to reach your expectations. A well placed, genuine compliment is always appreciated. Gushing or clingy behaviour just reeks of insecurity and is not what a Scorpio will appreciate.
She has thanked me or said it was sweet, normal type responses but not really reciprocated directly.
*She is being polite. Why would she reciprocate? Does she know you? No. Does she think you're the best thing since sliced bread? No. You're feeling disappointed as she's not making you the centre of her world and/or being equally gushy. If she's got her head screwed on and is secure then she won't fall over herself just because some bloke off the Internet sprayed his pants over a few photos of her. Remember, there's about ten blokes to one woman on these dating sites. We have our pick. That's just how it works.
But I noticed she put her profile back up on the dating site today.
*That's her profile and she'll do whatever she damn well pleases with it. Her choice. You know you're disappointed with this as you wanted her to declare her undying love for you immediately, and by emoticon, and ride off into the sunset with you to live happily ever after... anyway, if your profile is off, how do you know she did this?
Everything feels the same she was a little busier today getting work done ahead of time and packing I guess. But I got home from work and she was on the dating site. I have another dummy account just to check up on women I'm chatting with just to see how serious they are being with me.
*Oh look, we have a stalker... an insecure stalker too. You have another account which you use to stalk women on and to lay traps to trip them up (before you've even met them) which you will justify to yourself and others by saying you want to ensure they're being serious about you, then when they fall you will lay blame at the woman and say she was a fake, liar, not serious etc. This is not a good way to be. By all means use social media to check out a person to ensure they are who they say they are, to see if their story is straight (not married etc) but there's a fine line between doing that and using a fake profile to catch people out before you've even met them and before you're in an exclusive dating situation.
She has never stated that she took it down for me or anything and frankly I've never let these things bother me before if I haven't directly discussed it.
*Exactly, it's her profile. You're jumping the gun with taking a profiledown before you are exclusively dating. From my view point and experience, women tend to multi date whereas guys tend to focus on one woman and if that woman doesn't work out then they will move to the next. Men can't always multi task well so they are unlikely to multi date. If they want to multi date then that's fine. It's good for women to keep their options open. If they don't then they can fall into giving one man all their attention far too early on in the dating process, getting far too involved far too quickly, often rushing sex, and then when that man isn't interested after a few dates it can devastate the woman, it is how we are built. Better to take time dating then narrow down the pool before commuting to exclusively dating one man. At that point she can remove her profile.
But I really like this lady and I want to take it the next level.
*You do not know this lady. You want to take it to the next level— So you basically just want to go on a date with her. ?
I don't want mess everything up, but with this lady it is bothering me quite a bit. I'm not sure what to do. How should I feel? What should I do?
*Why so much pressure? I think you need to put your profile back up and keep your options open. I think you need to be clear with why you're on the dating site. What are you looking for? If it's a relationship then are you ready and available for one? You need to find someone who matches what you're looking for too. What's this woman looking for? For this woman, I would not contact her until she returns from holiday. Leave her alone. When she returns from holiday, drop her a message to ask how she is and ask her out directly on a date. Something like you would like to take her to dinner, I'm free most evenings, which evening is best for you? If she's interested she'll accept and give you a date/time. If she's not interested she'll ignore you, make excuses, and avoid you/string you along. At this point you thank her for her time, wish her well, and delete her number. Then you move on to your other options. No need to stalk her. People will tell you everything you need to know by their words and actions if you just ask them and keep dating simple. Find your balls too.
I'm a Scorp female who met a male bull from internet dating, been together 18 months.
You're welcome.
I strongly disagree with AgentP's sentiment, but I'll admit that she's replying exactly like a Scorpio would.
I had a similar relationship with a Scorpio woman once, and hope to never do it again. She played games, she was hot one minute and cold the next. She liked to make sure I was interested, but that didn't mean that she was actually interested in me... she really just liked knowing she could do it. She feigned shyness so that she never actually SAID she liked me; I would say that I liked her, and she would just claim to be too shy to say it back.
In her mind, talking online and chatting all day was completely meaningless. Flirting and exchanging sexy pics, perfectly harmless fun. And when, after several months, she just stopped talking to me without warning and it hurt my feelings... well, in her mind that was just stupid, she'd made no promises to me!
My advice to you is that your instinct is probably right, she's grown a bit bored with you and now she's just keeping you on the backburner for the fun of it. I wouldn't recommend investing any more emotion in to this until she reciprocates in some real way, and even then only give what you're given.
One thing I agree with AgentP on, though: you haven't met in person, so keep your emotions in check and protect yourself. You really don't know if there will be a real connection in person.
I had a similar relationship with a Scorpio woman once, and hope to never do it again. She played games, she was hot one minute and cold the next. She liked to make sure I was interested, but that didn't mean that she was actually interested in me... she really just liked knowing she could do it. She feigned shyness so that she never actually SAID she liked me; I would say that I liked her, and she would just claim to be too shy to say it back.
In her mind, talking online and chatting all day was completely meaningless. Flirting and exchanging sexy pics, perfectly harmless fun. And when, after several months, she just stopped talking to me without warning and it hurt my feelings... well, in her mind that was just stupid, she'd made no promises to me!
My advice to you is that your instinct is probably right, she's grown a bit bored with you and now she's just keeping you on the backburner for the fun of it. I wouldn't recommend investing any more emotion in to this until she reciprocates in some real way, and even then only give what you're given.
One thing I agree with AgentP on, though: you haven't met in person, so keep your emotions in check and protect yourself. You really don't know if there will be a real connection in person.
Let us all take a breath here. There haven't been any dates yet. Back burner? Have you even got to the stove yet? Probably not. You've been talking. It's okay.
I agree with agent. Slow down.
She's got 30 messages waiting every time she logs onto the site and she's sifting through. That's how these online sites work. The fact she's had more than one or two chit chats with you might actually indicate interest.
The possessiveness this early would kind of creep me out though. Some guys on dating sites can get pissy if their expectations are not met--like the expectation of being exclusive before an actual date happens. It's one of the hazards of online dating.
I agree with agent. Slow down.
She's got 30 messages waiting every time she logs onto the site and she's sifting through. That's how these online sites work. The fact she's had more than one or two chit chats with you might actually indicate interest.
The possessiveness this early would kind of creep me out though. Some guys on dating sites can get pissy if their expectations are not met--like the expectation of being exclusive before an actual date happens. It's one of the hazards of online dating.
Thanks for the responses and advice.
Agent: I didn't spell out every comment in every conversation so I understand your sentiment. If you didn't go out of your way to make me feel stupid for following my heart (I thought women dug that shit), finding a guy that can tolerate you for 18 months wouldn't seem like such a huge accomplishment.
How about them nuts? 😉
Flame on no one is interested in your opinion
Agent: I didn't spell out every comment in every conversation so I understand your sentiment. If you didn't go out of your way to make me feel stupid for following my heart (I thought women dug that shit), finding a guy that can tolerate you for 18 months wouldn't seem like such a huge accomplishment.
How about them nuts? 😉
Flame on no one is interested in your opinion
Posted by ConfusedBullI read your post OP but the only thing that went out of my way was the time I bothered to take out from my day to write the sound advice to you.
Thanks for the responses and advice.
Agent: I didn't spell out every comment in every conversation so I understand your sentiment. If you didn't go out of your way to make me feel stupid for following my heart (I thought women dug that shit), finding a guy that can tolerate you for 18 months wouldn't seem like such a huge accomplishment.
How about them nuts? 😉
Flame on no one is interested in your opinion
If you feel stupid then that's because you are hurt because you have been an idiot. By all means follow your heart but in the meantime, please remember that you are on an open forum ASKING FOR OPINIONS.
Please continue the search for your balls.
Posted by ConfusedBullNo matter what the sign, meeting girls online is a long shot. It's not real, and they will flake easy.
I met scorpio woman on a dating site a couple of weeks ago. Things seem to to be going very well. She took down her profile. I told I was taking it seriously and had taken my profile down as well. We've exchanged lots pictures, she sent me some just yesterday. She sends me wink/kiss emoticons all the time and I have sent them to her as well. We had decided to meet for lunch this week and the of she canceled said something had come up. She is going on vacation tomorrow for 2 weeks so we decided to meet after she gets back. I told her I think about her all the time and that I was really into her. She has thanked me or said it was sweet, normal type responses but not really reciprocated directly.
But I noticed she put her profile back up on the dating site today. Everything feels the same she was a little busier today getting work done ahead of time and packing I guess. But I got home from work and she was on the dating site. I have another dummy account just to check up on women I'm chatting with just to see how serious they are being with me. She has never stated that she took it down for me or anything and frankly I've never let these things bother me before if I haven't directly discussed it. But I really like this lady and I want to take it the next level.
I don't want mess everything up, but with this lady it is bothering me quite a bit. I'm not sure what to do. How should I feel? What should I do?
I'm not starved of female admirers in person, but there was this European girl I have been penpals with for four years. We could even be considered real good friends. During that time, we found each other attractive, flirted, and at one point really wanted to see each other. I'm finally going to meet her in a couple of weeks, except I honestly have the feeling she could take it or leave it.
I'm exactly her type: dark, exotic, mysterious, brave, and yet she's dropped hints that she's seeing local boys who she never was really attracted to. But the physical proximity and real exchanges make all the difference.
So the point is, don't put all your baskets in the online dating game. I've never been good at it (or Tinder), and the quality of women I've attracted online aren't great compared to what I'm used to in person. I think a lot of girls use it as a vanity hobby anyway.
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But I noticed she put her profile back up on the dating site today. Everything feels the same she was a little busier today getting work done ahead of time and packing I guess. But I got home from work and she was on the dating site. I have another dummy account just to check up on women I'm chatting with just to see how serious they are being with me. She has never stated that she took it down for me or anything and frankly I've never let these things bother me before if I haven't directly discussed it. But I really like this lady and I want to take it the next level.
I don't want mess everything up, but with this lady it is bothering me quite a bit. I'm not sure what to do. How should I feel? What should I do?