Scorpio women: Scorpio male needs advice, please

I have yearned for the day that I came across another Scorpio female and when I did, as Colbie Caillat would say, "Lightning struck my heart".

Here's my story:

A female friend (Virgo) took me to a bar near her home. I'm not into bars but they had a band and there was dancing so I went. There were beautiful women everywhere. Dancing, sitting at the bar, etc. But my eyes went immediately to this one woman, I couldn't stop myself from looking at her. I swear it did feel like lighting struck my heart. That night, I didn't go up and talk to her and just tried to put her out of my mind. But, for the next month, I would go to this same bar with my friends, including the Virgo female.

It wasn't until a few weeks ago that I discovered that this woman was actually a bartender there on the nights that I normally did not go to the bar. One night, I went by myself so I could spend some quiet time talking to her. The weird thing is that on the radio in my car I happened to hear the song by Colbie Caillat called, "Brighter than the sun". When I parked and got out of the car, I was singing one of the verses from the song that says, "We could be the stars, falling from the sky...". A moment later, as I approached the outside of the bar, a woman sitting outside the bar looks at me and says, "Do you realize that a shooting star just went blazing over your head and blew off into a bunch of pieces?" I looked her and laughed and said no. But I took that as a favorable sign for me. 🙂

When I got inside the bar, my lady of interest was of course bar-tending. I sat and talked to her for 6 hours!! We talked about so many different things but most incredible was the fact that she, like I, is a Scorpio. Nothing could have made me happier.

We ended up closing down the bar together. I walked her to her car and without me asking, she gave me her phone number.

So far so good, right? That was a Monday night.

I didn't call her or see her again until Thursday when I went to the bar again, I said hello to her and sat away from the bar talking to a couple of guys. Playing it cool, right? I stayed a while then said good night to her and left.

I went back on Friday night and sat at the bar and she seemed happy to see me and she told me that she felt like a "new woman" after our talk on Monday. Still good?

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Now here's where it gets difficult:

That same night, I got a text from my Virgo female friend asking me to come to her house and pick her up and bring her to the bar. OK. So I told my Scorpio friend that I would be right back. I went to pick up my friend, and she's already been drinking and is in an amorous mood. (Background on her: We dated years ago but stayed friends. )Yeah, she's grabbing at me and wants to have sex. I told her that we're just friends and besides, she has a boyfriend. She tried to entice me with her usual female charms regarding my abilities to please her vs. her boyfriend's inability and all that crap, but I wasn't going for it. Yeah, she's beautiful and we're both single and we know each others pleasure points but we're supposed to be friends and I didn't want that to get messed up. So, I left and went home instead of going back to the bar.

It turns out that she drove herself to the bar, and went up to my Scorpio friend and told her that I was in love with her and wanted to marry her!! Of course not true but my now ex-friend was intent on destroying my relationship with the Scorpio woman before it even got started. She paid me back for spurning her drunken advances in the worst possible way.

Another female friend of mine went to the Scorpio female a few days later and cleared up the situation.

So a day passes and I go see the Scorpio female again.

We talked a while and she thought that my Virgo friend was a "trouble-maker" and didn't fall for her crazy story.

Sadly, though, that's kind of where the story ends. I tired texting my Scorpio friend but she never texted me back.

I'm really not sure how to proceed from here. I don't know what she may be thinking. Should I call her, text her, or go see her again? Or, give it up? I never like to surrender but I also don't want to look like a stalker or nut job. I'm trying to maintain an iota of self-respect.

Ladies, please share your thoughts on what I should or should not do. I would really appreciate your thoughts, positive or negative.

Thank you for reading this long post. 🙂

Not everyone is into texting. I'd go and visit and ask her out on a date away from the bar. She probably gets chatted up all the time - you need to go the extra distance and take her out somewhere. You want to stand out from the all the other men who fancy her.

My thoughts anyway.

yeah, i would have retreated after the virgo's antics too although it could be redeemed by a face to face visit to clear things up, texting's not enough in this situation.

Scorp here....just to reiterate the majority so far......if she spend 6 hrs talking to you from behind the bar, chances are the interest is mutual & she let you walk her to her car....instead of calling security on you! I too agree with your virgo throwing a monkey-wrench in the mix, Miss Scorp most likely dont want any part of what could be drama in her life.....or her workplace. I say, if you got a good vibe from her keep pursuing....if we are "into" you persistence pays off....if we are not our silence at every attempt you make should tell the story. Keep trying, but not at the workplace....its her place of business and she maybe more of whats notoriously known as a "private" scorp.....meaning....even though its a bar, she may not want her associates knowing with whom she speaks to on a personal level. Call! If she dont answer, leave a msg! Let her know you thoroughly enjoyed her company, your conversation & would like the opportunity to meet for some starbucks/frozen yogurt....whatever in attempt to get to know her better....wait and see....if she's interested she will let you know ......make sure you summarize exactly who you are...I really doubt she would have given you her number had she not been interested ....if you dont hear anything....maybe shoot her a txt.....if she is at all interested.....she'll come around.....sometimes we just need time...

Thanks for all the sound advice, ladies. I really appreciate your thoughts and I will move forward appropriately. 🙂

she might be in a place where she's wary of such circumstances your Virgo friend created. don't think she realizes herself she actually stepped back, however this is a good sane sign because this is regrouping; it's pausing since nobody wants to start something major in such drama; she probably craves the same romantic start and follow up as you do, so stepping back while you court her is much better. you got good advice above, return to the buying flowers step 🙂

true, such a good story for the 95% population who's miserable since not in love on Valentines day 🙂) thank you

Its true w/scorpio women....we loved to be pursued....and yes! Your persistence with us does pay off when interested.....

As a scorpio myself...i would read the situation as i know you're interested but have some drama issues with a close "girl" friend that will never change until you cut all ties with her. I would wait for your bartender to contact you. The ball is in her court. and yes texts are very impersonal. good luck

Its VDay.....today is the perfect day for them flowers! Scorps love romance 🙂 lotts o luck & keep is posted!