Scorpios: How do you learn to let go of the past?

Its a given that many of us tend to hold grudges, cling to past hurts, lovers etc. way longer than the other signs. I'm no stranger to that saying. Couldn't get over an ex for 2 years. Still not entirely over the girl. I just want to hear from you guys who've had some experience in maybe... letting the love of your life go, or a family member who passed away. How did you overcome it?

Thank you ladyscorp for your input. I have to say I agree with you 100% . I have risen from certain downfalls but some become too much to handle and you are right about the vices. I was diagnosed with depression, turned to drinking, and even was suicidal at one point in my life. Not wanting to be seen as vulnerable and weak has driven me to bottle up my feelings and i'm unable to speak with anyone in my present life apart from the computer screen. Its pretty sad huh? Any tips on staying strong? Or a morale boost maybe?

I agree with ladyscorpio as well.. We are very strong we always rise... And once we say it's over it's over... We usually dot think about it and we try not too bc we know how intense it can be if we do... I also focus on other things to get passionate about it like work or school when I'm hurt that's the time I work and study the most so my mind is busy... But we generally have to hit the bottom so we can rise stronger... I take everything as a life lesson nothing is bad and what is I look with good eyes... I also don't do revenge I believe karma is already bad enough... And I feel sorry for the people that hurt me and push me out of their lives c they are definitely the ones losing...

I guess that IS one thing great about scorpios. Btw ladyscorp, when you were experiencing your lows, who did you turn to? Family, friends? What if one doesn't have much of those?

When I have my lows I actually don't turn to anybody... I prefer to be alone... Like ladyscorpio sayid you evoke wiser and I feel that way too but I need time tonout everything Ito place and space to figure out how..and the only way to do that for me is alone

Thanks again ladyscorp and escorpianas! Feel free to continue discussing this thread guys!

You're definitely right about that. Life becomes that much easier when you can accept yourself for who you are.

lol Elle.

I don't really ever get over anything completely. Time deadens the pain, and understanding the lesson deadens any hope of rekindling anything.

Posted by Iamnobody
Its a given that many of us tend to hold grudges, cling to past hurts, lovers etc. way longer than the other signs. I'm no stranger to that saying. Couldn't get over an ex for 2 years. Still not entirely over the girl. I just want to hear from you guys who've had some experience in maybe... letting the love of your life go, or a family member who passed away. How did you overcome it?

For me because of venus in scorpio I have never been able to let go of the past. After 10 years the feeling is still the same good or bad. I am very good at mentally slapping my self, and that means that I tell my self enough is enough stop it. And that helps in my being able to go on with life but the feeling is still there just not on the surface. Probably the reason why I am done with long term relationships, it took me 5 years to get over an ex, so I just figured I don't have the energy for that. Death is another thing. Oddly I don't have a problem with getting something positive out of something negative like death may be to some. My dad passing has probably forced me more to think about what his trains do I have and how can I make them better, and how can I turn the negative personality trains in a positive one, which is something that I am not sure I would think about that much if he was alive.
Talking to a close friend helps but at the and of the day only I can face my demons and try to destroy them. But it definitely can bring a new perspective on things.

Posted by ellessque
i have scorpio in mars and that comes standard with a "switch" that clicks when it's time for me to get over things.

no lie. it's like a light switch.

it's a pretty great thing to have. the only bad thing is you can't "click" it at will. you have to suffer thru all the bullshit first and then when it's time.....like a turkey in the oven...it POPS.....and then it's over and i can move on. no residuals.

Elle could you help me polish up on this?

Lol