Scorps, do you wallow?

When you've had your feelings hurt, or you're sad about something involving another person, do you feel the need to wallow in your sadness before you can put it aside and move on?

I've always been a wallow-er, but not in the pity-party sense. I think my mouth is quite good at denying that anything's wrong even if my face says otherwise, but in my own head, behind closed doors, I have to allow myself to get really, really depressed, cry about it, work out all the emotions attached, and reason out all the how's and why's before I can come out of whatever's eating me. Basically, I have to dive all the way down to the bottom of my sadness before I can resurface. If I don't, I end up in some sort of bitch-purgatory for way longer than I would have spent just going through my wallowing-getting-over-it process.

I've always wondered how people managed to either not care, or to push things so far out of their head that they ended up forgetting all about them. It'd be nice to be that kind of person, but my brain won't ever allow it. I'm just wired to be slightly obsessive about everything, including emotions.

I could have written that myself...just not as well as you have.

I do the exact same thing. Sometimes I even think I'm over it only for it to come back up in the future...even years into the future it could still get me down. My moon is Cancer though and I've heard they do that as well.

I made my own post here a few weeks ago about being too sensitive and it looked to me like most scorpios have this same problem.

I actually envy people who look as though they can forget about things that have happened...or just seem to not care...but then I realise that at some point down the track they are going to have a poo load of emotions come up out of nowhere because they've bottled them up. They will have to deal with them all at once; we won't, because we tackled each one as it came up. They might even go to people like us for advice! 😛 ok maybe not but I know for sure that I would not like to have a whole bunch of emotions bite me on the backside all at once!

There is always a positive side to a negative in my opinion.

May I just point out that the world may view you as you view some other people? How you said it would be nice if you could be that kind of person... Not everyone can fully interpret peoples body language so by you being able to verbally pretend you're ok you may have people thinking you too have the ability to 'not care' or to 'forget all about them'. Maybe others have managed to convince us of the same things about them.

Posted by TypicalScorpio

May I just point out that the world may view you as you view some other people? How you said it would be nice if you could be that kind of person... Not everyone can fully interpret peoples body language so by you being able to verbally pretend you're ok you may have people thinking you too have the ability to 'not care' or to 'forget all about them'. Maybe others have managed to convince us of the same things about them.

I have thought about that too, and up until recently, I thought that maybe I was one of those people that had everyone fooled, but then I came across a Virgo who read my face like I had words written across it. It was unnerving. But f*ck him, and the horse he rode in on. Lol.

Hahaha! Virgos are analytical so of course he read you! Hopefully he wasn't like my brother who thinks telling you why people do mean things to you and how it's your fault is helping 😛

Actually a virgo might be a good person to ask for advice on how to get over some things that really bother you... If you trusted them enough that is.

I understand how it could feel unnerving though. If it were me it would have probably made me feel worse.

Funny you should say that. I have a Virgo guy that's one of my best friends, who I go to for advice on this sort of crap all the time, and the person who's causing my emotional, wallowing, sh*tstorm, also happens to be a Virgo.

They're great for advice. Maybe not so great for dating, for someone as intense as I have a tendency to be.

Posted by DapperDon
No I don't swallow! WTF?>~

Hah! I'm the one who started this thread, and even I have to admit that more than once, I glanced at the title, and thought it said "swallow" too. Filthy. Just filthy. 🙂

My Scorpio son wallows big fucking time. He's a strong guy emotionally and will eventually pull himself out of it .. but, at first, during the initial stages, he sinks very low into emotional depths.

I don't know how that blue happened ^^

Posted by exoskeleton
yes, i swallow 'cause i love it.

and i wallow 'cause i love it. i've realized every time i've been in a negative state or getting over someone, i actually enjoy the pain. i thrive on it. it helps me creatively through my art, my words, and makes my dreams more interesting. sometimes i need that solitude to just dwell in my subconscious. but, i don't truly get over something until something i feel is better comes along to take its place. i really can't just move on.

I find the part about not being able to move on interesting. Historically, that's been me as well. If it's someone I loved deeply, I need, yes, NEED a rebound in order to get me over it, even when it's me who ends things. Essentially, I cannot let go of the failed relationship without one, regardless of how much I try. I used to think it had something to do with possibly relying on members of the opposite sex to validate me, but I've thoroughly rooted through that entire theory in my head and my heart, and it doesn't fit. I have yet to figure out what, exactly, the reason is though. Maybe it's just that I need a reminder that I can physically feel happiness with someone other than whoever it is I'm trying to get over. In my case, it's never for anything better than I what I gave up though, lol.

None of this applies to the people I rebound onto though. Somehow, they always wind up falling for me way too fast, and I have never felt emotionally tied to any of them enough that I felt anything other than guilt for hurting their feelings when ending our short-lived "relationships".

I do it 🙂...infact when something major has gone down and i'm hurt like hell over it, i always get the friends (mainly me leo firend) coming in to comfort me saying ?? know what fixes this ...PARTYING!!!!" though for me that doesn't work in the slightest. I seriosuly tell them that i have to go and have ?_lone time" so i can process every thought/ emotion there is and find the answer to what caused it. My friends (particually leo) don't understand this part of me because as soon as something happens to them...the first thing they want is company and sympathy. Someone they can spew all there frustration out on...and although i do this for them (i just sit there and watch/listen) i don't want them doing this for as it feels pointless. They don't know whats running in my head much less the situation the way i have seen it and processed it.

I defer the wallowing and experience of pain
to the day when I can take my revenge.

Example:

There's this dude from my kindergarten class I intend to
chop off at the knees and elbows at some point.

I am just waiting for his life to be *almost/nearly* perfect.

However, so far, his life is a better punishment.

It's so much better that way.