Seeking Advice On A Scorpio Firefighter I Met :)

Hi Everyone! I've posted in the Libra board, but haven't posted in here yet...been doing some reading around here the past week or so though, and it sounds like the Scorpio I met is a typical Scorpio...but let me know what you think! 🙂

a little background info...

*I'm an Aries with Sun & Moon in Aries, but my rising sign is Aquarius...i'm 24 years old.

*He is a Scorpio with Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Aries, and his rising sign is Capricorn. (although these signs might change since I don't know what time of day he was born...)..he's 29 years old.

Anyways, we met back in mid-May. I was out getting lunch with a little boy that I babysit for and he just started striking up a conversation with me and asked me for my number. He invited me to his friend's birthday party that night, and I was planning on going but couldn't find any friends to go with me and didn't want to go alone since I didn't really know him. Right off the bat though, in the five minutes or so that we chatted, I could tell he was really outgoing, funny, and totally easy to talk to which is awesome. AND he's a firefighter, which is so hot, haha. Our first date didn't happen until about 3 1/2 weeks after we met because I was so busy and stressed out. He texted me almost daily though, asking me to come to his station, asking when we were going to hang out, just random questions or jokes, etc.

Our first date was typical...went to dinner, chatted, and rented a movie. nothing happened...but i had a lot of fun. looks wise, he isn't my exact "type" but for some reason his personality makes him so much more attractive to me. he is super funny, playful, likes doing his own thing, isn't too needy. I was with a Leo for 5 years and this Scorpio is so different...i love it!

we hung out a few more times (sometimes alone, sometimes with his friends & friend's girlfriend..on our first date he said he "hates" dating and thinks it's awkward), and then around the middle of july he totally started getting flaky on me...but like, HE was the one asking me out and then flaking. i guess i was making myself too available, i don't know? he knew that i wasn't looking for a boyfriend...anyways, i guess you could say he was also "testing" me perhaps? i read in another board topic that Scorps tend to do this?

well, i told him i wanted to talk about everything in person...that i wasn't into the "game playing" and wanted to know what was up with him and he agreed......

....continued....

we finally talked a few days ago and came to the conclusion that we??re both super attracted to each other, both of us don't want to be in a relationship/want freedom to do whatever, both are confused about how dating works, and we both still want to continue hanging out with each other because we have so much fun together. He also admitted to the game playing and flakiness and said he was being a wuss and isn't usually like that. but he says he doesn't want to kiss me because he thinks it might ruin what we have or make things weird, and he's probably right. I'm pretty sure he's into me though and doesn't just want to be friends??_like, he??ll always find ways to touch me and stuff and is definitely pretty flirty. Ugh! This is all so confusing.

I read in another board that Scorps like to be friends first and don't really like to —date?? and that maybe he??ll open up to me more once we??re better friends or whatever?

I guess what I'm wondering about is: 1. Does he really just want to be friends/not that into me? 2. I really like him and definitely don't want to scare him away because I think eventually it could lead to a relationship??_so what wins over Scorps usually? Should I play hard to get/not be too needy? Keep things uber friendly, but a little flirtatious? 3. What are some turn offs for Scorp men?

Any help/advice/opinions is greatly appreciated!! 🙂

oh, and i also read about Scorpios that obviously they are very sexual people, which he has actually told me: "i am very sexual when i'm with someone", but i also know that Scorpios have pretty good willpower as well? Any thoughts? Thank you!

Posted by starsapphire91
Hi! haven't seen you in a while, after that immature libra boy you were into... glad you left him alone!

Well, i think you should sort out your feelings first, and figure out what you want from this. If you want a relationship, then you should sit down and tell him. If he wants to take the plunge and be exclusive with you, then great, but if not, you have to decide whether you want to settle for friendship. Considering he's so "confused", there might be a good chance that he is too scared to enter a relationship with you, but he does want to have sex with you. At the end of the day, he might just want friends with benefits. I think if he wanted you from the beginning, he would have pursued you more vigorously, so he might just interested in you sexually. Either way, you should figure out what you're feeling, the lay it all out on the table. BTW, how old is he? Is he young, or older, like in his thirties?

hi SS91!! yes, TOTALLY done with that immature Libra boy...deleted his #. i have no idea what i was thinking. i am SO over that, haha.

so he is 29 years old (30 in nov!) and i am 24 years old. yeah, i guess that is what makes this tough...that i don't know what i want and neither does he, but we both really like each other, at least i'm pretty certain he's really into me.

and i guess if he just wanted sex and to not be in a relationship, don't you think he would have tried to kiss/hook up with me at this point? what do you think? we've hung out a total of 9 times so far! some of those times were with his friends though, not all 9 were official "dates." I would say that he did pursue me pretty vigorously, but maybe he thought i was playing hard to get because i was so busy in the beginning and he just liked the chase, i dunno! so i feel like either he is really into me and wants to take things REALLY slow and not hurt me, OR he really just wants to be friends even though he says he's really attracted to me, thought i was "so hot" when he saw me and was "totally stoked" to get my number, and along with other comments he's made makes me think otherwise. ugh, this is all so confusing! :-/

thank you for your help!! 🙂 i appreciate it!

you're an Aries just tell tha person you want your flames put out end of story lmao

"put out my fire"— i wish! we haven't even kissed yet! hah. i like him a lot and definitely don't want him thinking i'm slutty/easy...which i think he already knows. i've only kissed 7 guys, but yeah...what to do about this darn Scrop?!

lol careful member Scorpios can read your feelings like how virgos reads tha mind he already seen thru you and probably playing all cool like he doesn't.

Posted by unsure_aries
"put out my fire"— i wish! we haven't even kissed yet! hah. i like him a lot and definitely don't want him thinking i'm slutty/easy...which i think he already knows. i've only kissed 7 guys, but yeah...what to do about this darn Scrop?!

**darn Scorp, not Scrop, sorry!

why are firefighters so damn hot?! seriously! i wanted my ex-Leo to dress as a firefighter for Halloween every year and he never did!! hahah. i don't know what it is but it's such a turn on!

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo


lol careful member Scorpios can read your feelings like how virgos reads tha mind he already seen thru you and probably playing all cool like he doesn't.

Hi LV! Thank you for your help 🙂 I really appreciate it! Talking it out with others in this board totally helps and i love reading about other people's issues and how they figure things out as well.

and what do you mean that he's already seen through me? like, you think he already knows that i'm not slutty/easy? or do you think he thinks i AM like that? just a little confused 🙂 haha, thanks!

no problem i love Aries people ma oldest brother is one but at times i want to kill him but other then
that they're cool i have a few Aries friends.

what i meant by that he can probably can see thru you like your feelings that y i tell all ma Scorpios peoples
that they will make great spys because of that ability they have.

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo


no problem i love Aries people ma oldest brother is one but at times i want to kill him but other then
that they're cool i have a few Aries friends.

what i meant by that he can probably can see thru you like your feelings that y i tell all ma Scorpios peoples
that they will make great spys because of that ability they have.

awesome! glad to hear you love Aries people 🙂 hehe.

yeah, i don't know what's up with this Scorpio...maybe he just wants no commitment whatsoever, but also likes me and doesn't want to hurt me...i don't know! hah. i'll keep everyone posted 🙂

thanks for all your help!

update:

so we talked about a week ago how he's into me and loves hanging out with me, but doesn't really understand the difference between dating/relationships and he wants to be free to do whatever...and i sort of feel the same way actually. so he wants to keep hanging out with me but doesn't want things to get weird/ruin what we have by kissing me.

thusday night: we are drunk texting eachother, he really wants me to come over and cuddle/spend the night and says "i know you think i want to hook up but i actually just want to lay next to you" so on and so forth...we didn't see each other that night.

friday night: he texts me at 1245am "why haven't we made out yet" - i don't respond because UHH, he didn't want things to get weird?! why is he messing with me like this?! hahah. it's so dumb!

...as of today i still haven't heard from him. should i text him something or let him come to me? not really sure what to do at this point...

THANK YOU! 🙂