Should I Be Worried?

First of all I just wanna say I am not worried, but I couldn't think of a better title right now perhaps I'm a bit tired.

Anyways my for those of you that know me n my girl have been going steady now for 3 months and after the first month with a bumps in the road, things are going great. My question is simple though, I have found out that all of her friends are cheaters, like one of her closest friends is getting ready to marry her bf whom she has kids with but has slept around on him like 4 or 5 times. Another one is always on and off with her bf, stalking, and in the beginning filling my girls head with paranoid thoughts like if i want some space its so I can go see another woman. and its pretty much the same story with the rest that I know of, its amazing how everyone of her friends she knows of uses men and or sleeps around on their boyfriend.

If I know anything about life it would be that people always judge you by two things, who you hang around with, and past choices you have made.

Anyways Post you thoughts and discuss.

I wouldn't worry about who she hangs around with. I would pay more attention to her.

Those were some good answers I think she said about the same thing.

Posted by cappysweetie
I wouldn't worry about who she hangs around with. I would pay more attention to her.

Iam not worried about her things have been good between us.

I just pondering that a thought a little bit in my head, I know sometimes we are similar to the people we hang around, she hasn't shown me indication of that kind of behavior, although she has made a few puns about how I better not cheat on her.

The only thing I could think of is maybe that little bit of insecurity on her part + influence from her friends might lead her to do it.

^ but then I'm thinking too deep into things 🙂

Posted by cappysweetie
I wouldn't worry about who she hangs around with. I would pay more attention to her.

fail your friends are a reflection of you and your judgment on morals and character.


noe thy self and thy friends.


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how are u tho lol

birds of a feather...

It depends on what her process for "friending" people is, really. Does she only let a select few into her inner circle, or is it a free-for-all? What does it require to become her friend? Things like loyalty and trust, or is it more "we like to shop at the same places"?

I'm the type that only allows a select few into my inner circle, and they only get there if they're the real deal. Still, my friends have done some really stupid shit that had nothing to do with me. Especially in their 20s. I did too, I was just better at not getting caught. 😉

Posted by LovelyScorp
King_with_a_Sting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I missed you babe! How the hell are you?

Is this the girl with gem friend that causes mayhem?

As a woman who doesn't keep many girlfriends (because they create a lot of problems with relationships), I have to say tread lightly with women who have these kind of so called "friends". Self-centered, cheating, insecure friends can bring down a relationship in a new york minute. you have to tend to constant jealousy, sabotage, etc.

If she is a strong woman, you will be fine.

If not, be prepared to deflect a lot of shit throwing from the friends and constant reassurance to her of your intent.

I've been busy. Yes she is the same girl, things have been going good, after the first month. Except her sisters hate me (her two younger ones, but the older one who is married likes me) so they cause drama too, like one acted like a little child and threw a tantrum cause she didn't get her way, and when that didn't work she tried to emotionally manipulate me and her sister. Her other sister says I talk ghetto and has a bad feeling about me, which cannot be described by the way, so she acts like a bitch even though she is not.

Its pretty pathetic and gives me a headache. Not to mention she always tells me about her friends and all the bad shit they do. Come to think about it I never really heard her talk about her friends in a positive light, except for one and then when I met that one she kept smiling at me every time I looked at her like she wanted to jump my bones.

I've pretty much tried to stay relaxed and very complacent. I don't really have any reasons to be suspicious yet, unless they are there and I just can't see them.

To answer your question though scorp, she isn't a very strong woman, she always tells me how she use to get pushed around by her friends before she met me.

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Posted by cappysweetie
I wouldn't worry about who she hangs around with. I would pay more attention to her.

Iam not worried about her things have been good between us.

I just pondering that a thought a little bit in my head, I know sometimes we are similar to the people we hang around, she hasn't shown me indication of that kind of behavior, although she has made a few puns about how I better not cheat on her.

The only thing I could think of is maybe that little bit of insecurity on her part + influence from her friends might lead her to do it.

^ but then I'm thinking too deep into things 🙂

I don't think you're thinking too deep into it. If she's always been surrounded by people who aren't trustworthy in this respect, chances are she's naturally going to be wary of people. I wouldn't judge people based on their friends either. I had a group of 'friends' a number of years back who turned out to be cheaters - apart from one or two of them - and I ended up cutting them out of my life. I had to. But I was alot more wary of that kinda thing at that time.

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Well we spend alot of our free time together, but when we aren't then she hangs out with them. So I don't know

Posted by King_with_a_Sting

Come to think about it I never really heard her talk about her friends in a positive light, except for one and then when I met that one she kept smiling at me every time I looked at her like she wanted to jump my bones.

To answer your question though scorp, she isn't a very strong woman, she always tells me how she use to get pushed around by her friends before she met me.

Well, this answered my question, then. lol These are friends?! Sound more like enemies to me.

Posted by seavixen2
I don't think you have anything to be worried about, you picked her so she must have qualities you admire ie: strong, independant..etc
I can't see you picking a follower instead of a leader...
But you should discuss your fears with her...keeping the communication lines open, is half the battle

It depends, Yeah I like strong women but that usually ends up in a clash of who will's the strongest. She seems like a strong women but once she became attached me now she is the more passive one and I am the dominant. Which is fine with me, now when you speak of a follower, I am assuming you mean someone that you always have lead around, which isn't fun at all it becomes more like a chord, I like them slightly passive with a strong personality but not to strong it will clash with me, cause I am more stubborn than a bull :/

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Posted by King_with_a_Sting

Come to think about it I never really heard her talk about her friends in a positive light, except for one and then when I met that one she kept smiling at me every time I looked at her like she wanted to jump my bones.

To answer your question though scorp, she isn't a very strong woman, she always tells me how she use to get pushed around by her friends before she met me.

Well, this answered my question, then. lol These are friends?! Sound more like enemies to me.

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Yup she is a socialite alright.

Posted by LovelyScorp
I think she means like someone who will follow what other people do instead of having a mind of their own.

oh well she is a follower then, at least in my book, Like I said she has shared stories of how she usually gets pushed around by her friends. I got pissed at her once cause she helped her friend cheat on her boyfriend.

One of her friends wanted to go to a bonfire with some 300 and a bunch of guys she hooked up with without her boyfriend, so she had my girlfriend go with her because the girl's family trust her. Well at the bonfire sure enough she hooked up with one of the guys there.

My girl was pretty much being used as a means for this girl to be able to escape her family and bf so she could go fuck another man. I told my girl how much that pissed me off and that she needs to tell her boyfriend that that girl is cheating on her, she won't do it, despite the fact how she tells me that she feels bad for the guy and he treats his girl so nice, spends all his money on her stays at home and takes care of their kid while she is out partying and screwing other guys blah blah.

She is afraid of losing that girl as a friend, but its like who the fuck wants a friend like that. I dunno she has poor taste in character and still transitioning from 17-18 even though she is 20 going on 21. At least in my book.

Posted by King_with_a_Sting
First of all I just wanna say I am not worried, but I couldn't think of a better title right now perhaps I'm a bit tired.

Anyways my for those of you that know me n my girl have been going steady now for 3 months and after the first month with a bumps in the road, things are going great. My question is simple though, I have found out that all of her friends are cheaters, like one of her closest friends is getting ready to marry her bf whom she has kids with but has slept around on him like 4 or 5 times. Another one is always on and off with her bf, stalking, and in the beginning filling my girls head with paranoid thoughts like if i want some space its so I can go see another woman. and its pretty much the same story with the rest that I know of, its amazing how everyone of her friends she knows of uses men and or sleeps around on their boyfriend.

If I know anything about life it would be that people always judge you by two things, who you hang around with, and past choices you have made.

Anyways Post you thoughts and discuss.

Hmmmm
"Chose your friends wisely, for you will become them."

But you could just ask her how many guys she's been with.
Scorpio to Scorpio, that will tell you more than anything
about how much will-power and value for commitment she has.

Then, of course, when you get a chance, you get rid of
her friends by MOVING AWAY. lol

PS.
When "I" ONCE said "I need some space" it was because
I needed TIME ALONE to do my own things, away from one of my gfs.
I had heard "that phrase" and thought it had a nice ring to it.

When GIRLS say it, it means "I am already seeing another guy".

SO ...when "I" said it ... " not knowin' " of course the
little ho friends of one of my gfs told her the same thing.

Doesn't matter, she was a Sagittarius ANYWAY, but I still
felt horrible about it (because I hurt her UNintentionally)
...so chose your words carefully, my son.

"I need space" is much different to a girl than "the truth":

"I'm introverted and need some time JUST BY MYSELF, nobody else"
or
"I need to go hunting/fishing with the guys, pee on bushes and stuff"
or
"My friend(s) are starting to forget me, gotta get with them b4 I lose them, k?"