Stung by the Scorpio

Am I being stung? Yes, I do believe so. But can someone clarify? Is he posting pictures with another girl that obviously throws herself all over him and wants him because he wants her too or to make me jealous? He tells me she is just a friend, however, I don't take nor post pictures like that with my friends. He is usually looking away or looking unhappy but all the same still with her. He has chased me for years and now that I have finally given in and fallen for him, now this! He is away at school so we are not physically around each other all the time...I have talked to him on the subject of this to no avail, he just came back with more! So my dilemma, does he really want her and pushing me away, or is he just trying to get to me? Maybe I should push him away, block him out for awhile, or just leave him alone all together? I have no clue about any sort of mind games or what the motivation behind them is, but I am seeing that it does sting and hurt like nothing else. Any advice appreciated!

Posted by Taurua2013
Am I being stung? Yes, I do believe so. But can someone clarify? Is he posting pictures with another girl that obviously throws herself all over him and wants him because he wants her too or to make me jealous? He tells me she is just a friend, however, I don't take nor post pictures like that with my friends. He is usually looking away or looking unhappy but all the same still with her. He has chased me for years and now that I have finally given in and fallen for him, now this! He is away at school so we are not physically around each other all the time...I have talked to him on the subject of this to no avail, he just came back with more! So my dilemma, does he really want her and pushing me away, or is he just trying to get to me? Maybe I should push him away, block him out for awhile, or just leave him alone all together? I have no clue about any sort of mind games or what the motivation behind them is, but I am seeing that it does sting and hurt like nothing else. Any advice appreciated!

have you always commented on the pictures when you've seen them? have you tried not making any comment and see how he reacts to your not commenting. but you should do this and not act normal to him like everything is ok. show your displeasure by not being available, by acting cold to him and see if he gets it? if he sees that you are not saying anything about the pictures but also that you are distancing yourself, maybe that will bother him. if he truly cares, he will stop doing what he is doing, and put more effort to gain your attention. i know it hurts, but sometimes not reacting works.

yeah it sounds like mind games. i would fall back and not get caught up.

Thank You guys! I have done both as a matter of fact. When it first started, I did bring it up that it bothered me only because in these particular pictures she was all over him as if they were a couple. He said no she was just a friend, but then it kept going more of the same type of pictures and I would say nothing but did notice that one night he posted one and then like 5 minutes(or less) later he called me and I was stewing but said nothing of it. I did get the feeling that he was just calling to see if I had seen it. The convo was very short, I said nothing about it and he acted as if he couldn't wait to get off the phone bc he wasn't getting the reaction he thought he would get. After that though, more kept coming and now it seems as if he is keeping her around and shunning me. In these pictures though I get the feeling that he is not all that into her or just maybe using her for money or sex as he met her a few weeks back in a club. He told me awhile back that I was and would always be #1, whatever that means but in some of the pics I notice that he will be looking away from her holding up a finger as if that is suppose to be a subliminal message to me or something, same with his eyes and facial expressions. Am I reading into this to deep? I'm just thinking that initially it might have been to get me jealous but we are all adults and the more time you spend with someone, well the more you begin to want that person especially if they want you too. I have blocked him out now because I am unsure what he is up to but I want no part in any of that or getting my heart broken, however at the same time I don't want to do anything to push him to someone else at all.

"I have blocked him out now because I am unsure what he is up to but I want no part in any of that or getting my heart broken, however at the same time I don't want to do anything to push him to someone else at all."


Well blocking him is a start, when you get to the part where he is dead to you, then an enormous amount of self respect wraps you up like a big warm blanket. He has no respect for you at all. Why would you care if you pushed him..the key IS to push him OUT and away from you. To sit home and wait for someone like this would make you a muddy doormat.

Thank You...You are exactly right! And your response just confirms what I already thought. Again, Thank You🙂