That negative phase

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Posted by Whatu
Nothing really, its like the tides. I know it will pass and I wait it out. I know when the flood resides it will have left fertile soil in its wake, so Instead of wasting my energy fighting I sit tight until its over and I can grow.



That's exactly how I am too.. Its like a passing by phase and then i wait till i feel back to normal.

I've been doing gym to channel my energy and focus on that..

At the moment Its the lonely phase I'm going through. Both younger sisters are in a relationship. Once of them is at the point of leading towards marriage and I'm still far from it. 😢
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Posted by starlover
((((Angel))))

I used to feel like you...i was envious of people being in r.ships and *perceived* everyone to be happily ever after

And now, the irony is, i am one of the happiest people i know lol ~ single, spend lots of time with myself, travel by myself and go out alone. Okay i have been through the marriage thing, but nobody ever told me that i could be very happy with myself



I'm glad you are in that stage of your life you feel most positive. I'm happy for my sisters they have had rough times too but at the same time its like, when will my turn come. I've always been single and I??ve had times where i am so happy being single and that freedom to do my own thing. At the same time it scares me that am i going to still be alone? I haven't even done the basic relationship stuff like going out shopping with a guy, going on a date where I can hold the guys hand and just feel comforted. I've never been referred to as someone's Girlfriend/partner. So it get that feeling where I feel out of place/lost or question myself. :S
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Posted by Angeleyes17
I get like this every year, few months-weeks before my birthday where I reflect on my life and start to feel low.

Does this happen to you guys too? How do you get out of that feeling to distract yourself?



I get this way around October. Usually lasts throughout the winter. I turn to making music. I try to take the things in my life I'm not proud of and make it better. I wanna do better in music? I practice more. I wanna get a better job? I start applying or studying more. I wanna fix relationships? I get hold of my balls, bite the bullet and admit my mistakes to salvage what I can. This time period used to make me feel sad. Now I almost look forward to it. It's a time to really look at myself and make positive changes from negative things. By doing this, come spring, your life will be a whole lot better.
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I'm a Libra/Pisces moon and I get like that too. Especially if i'm single or life is feeling mundane. Something about the weather that makes me feel a bit empty inside although I LOVE fall. The thought of winter is worse...cold, dark and a bit lonely since I tend to be a hermit in the winter months. Glad I have a room mate this year. (I'm such a fucking typical Libra, lol.) Wonder if it has to do with being fall babies.
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I also have this happen to me yearly, it begins in November (birth month, yes I understand irony), and lasts till March(yes, basically winter). I call it "Five Months of Darkness", and usually it is the "darkest" time of the year for me. Since I am aware of it, and know it's coming, I can usually plan things beforehand in order to make it through. I think also it has to do with a lot of the holidays contained in this time frame as many of them have to do with family/friends/lovers. Thanksgiving - all 3, Xmas - all 3, New Years Eve - usually friends/lovers but can be all 3, Valentines Day - lovers.