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Hi everyone,
This is going to be another long post?
The last time I posted here I was in SF with my future ex-husband and now I?m back to my fellowship in Brazil. The scorp guy I had a fling and fell in love with received me very well, and began telling me about his 3-week trip. Oh boy, that's when I felt like a bloke. He told me about his sexual adventures with a couple of girls in Rio and one in special with whom he spent a whole week of ?wild sex?. He said that when he goes to Rio, he goes "hunting". Told me about his encounter with his very recent ex (who he seems to care a great deal for, they were together for a year, but she lives in another country and they don?t have any hopes of being together). How when he opened his hotel room door, they didn?t even say hello and got right into bed. How the girl from Rio wants to come visit him, how he?s not sure about her although she?s beautiful and hot, how he likes his ex better and was thinking in asking her to come for a week, on and on. After all that, he asked me about my husband and I and I told him we were separating, and he gave me a surprised look. I talked about it a little bit, said good night and came home astonished. I never had a man talk to me about other women like that, not even my male friends, it was as if he forgot I?m a woman. I found all that talk very womanizing and in very bad taste. I got out of there quite disappointed and disgusted. Oh boy. I don?t think he cold have given me clearer ?hints? that his not into me at all. My question is, as a scorp, did he do this to push me away, to hurt me or because he really thinks of me as a friend? To tell the truth, I don't even care anymore cus it did push me away, even if it wasn't his intention..

that would make me very angry..lol

friend category. and i think you should have stopped him early on in his rant. unless there was a part of you that was curious to know... well now you know. be happy you got that part out of the way cuz it seems like you can move on completely unscathed.

I figured I've been bluntly put in the friend category. Perhaps because I'm still married, perhaps because he's simply not into me, even if I was completely free, it doesn't matter anymore.
But, is it a thing with scorps to be sooo open with their women friends and ex flings on their sexual escapades? I was indeed curious, as the true gemini that I am, so see how far could he go.

It is our birthright indeed! I have had this scorp in my mind for 3 months already and it feels like an eternity. Mind you, I stayed with my husband for 15 year though.

This scorp does seem very comfortable around me, way too comfortable and I'M not comfortable with it.

okay if it were me, would nod my head to everything that he was saying..then never return ANY of his phone calls and tell him strait out that i wouldn't be interested.. tell him how you really feel..if it's too problematic for him to listen to..then have one night of good sex with him...then LEAVE HIM..it will drive him crazy..and you can possible get him to get rid of all the other girls *hopefully* i play hardball and i do enjoy games..men think i'm a beauty/pushover..until they realized that i can beat them in any emotional game

i'm not telling..but it has to do with using your "internal muscles"

?then have one night of good sex with him...then LEAVE HIM..it will drive him crazy?

Thank you for the advice Leoscorp, I?ve thought of that possibility. I'd have to wait time enough to get him out of my system. If I do that while I?m upset, it?ll show and will probably have the opposite effect. He knows I like him. I told him before because he asked insistently one night. After he got it out of me, he told me he liked me as a friend, but that it could change. We both traveled in the meantime. When I returned I noticed he was eager to talk to me, he kept trying to meet and I kept pushing him of. He calmed down now that he told me what he wanted. He?s either perverse (mean, really) or just another womanizer and I wonder about the advantage of playing any kind of game with someone like that. I think I'm going to ignore him and take time on my own to sort my life out.

i don't know if thats the right way to drive a guy crazy in this situation...lol

she might end up driving herself insane..

Precisely! I?m already driving myself insane with this story. It?s ridiculous. The problem is, he sends me what I think are contradictory messages. When we meet by chance at a common friend?s home (another of our neighbours), or when he comes to visit me, he always gives me a compliment. Tells me I?m more beautiful than normal that day, that my hair looks great, that I?m funny. The other day, when he came for a beer with our other neighbor/friend and another friend, I couldn?t help being a bit aggressive towards him after all he told me about his other girls. I realized how silly I had been and went to make peace with him the next day. He told me he thought I was upset at him and received me with a big smile and open arms. I said I wasn't feeling good that day and was being a pain with everyone, not only him. That same night, after I said something, he told me I sometimes looked like a little girl, meaning it as a compliment. When I left his house he said: ?when I?d get upset with so and so (his ex) she?d tell me that it was too late, I already liked her and had to forgive her. It?s the same with you, I like you and can?t get upset at you.? Now he?s disappeared for three days. It feels like he wants to let me dangling. Part of me still wants to believe there?s a chance, the other part tells me to stop it.