vivid nightmares and their aftermath

do you ever have nightmares that don't leave your mind for some time after? i had the most awful one last night in which my son died. i woke at the point where i knew he was dead and it won't leave my mind now. the subconscious issue that was in my head at the time was the fact there's a chance i won't be seeing him this summer and he lives in england with his dad. i've not seen him since december and skype is no compensation. every single day since he left last september, i think of him and i cry. he's nearly 17 and he's becoming a man and yet, he's over there and i'm over here. yeah, it's pathetic i spose cos all kids leave home at some point so perhaps i have underlying guilt that my marriage didn't work out and now our family is spread across two countries 😢

i just can't get the image of the nightmare out of my head....i hear him crying out and then i see him lying there lifeless and twisted.

when i woke up i was so scared of falling asleep again and resuming the nightmare, i had to consciously stay awake and rid the image before i was able to drift off....even so, the first thing that was in my head when i woke up was the awful image from the nightmare. it sucks 😢

Those dreams are awful, and that energy does stay with you for a while!
I am studying dream analysis, and Sigmund Freud states that our unconscious mind in dream state reflects our inner thoughts which may be taboo subjects to our conscious mind...we also have a filter for distressing images, which is then translated as weird and cryptic instead to block it out.
Maybe this so called filter wasn't in place?

Death is dreams normally translate as an end to his old life and a new beginning for him.
I say get happy for your son! Change that energy into excited energy ( envision white light around him)
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thanks madam. i know it's representative of something. it's just left me with a heightened sense of missing him. i probably have hidden fears about him growing up and us becoming strangers or something. can't seem to stop blubbing about it though...probably pmt in the mix 😢 it was so vivid and awful..perhaps it was the filter that finally ejected me from the dream at that point.

Pmt = extremely deep and vivid dreams ( well, me anyway 😉 )
I don't blame you for missing him, that's such a long time to be going without, and they still seem like babies at that age!

yeah...he's a manchild but he's changing so fast and becoming more of an individual with opinions i respect and want to know more about. fucking pmt...i'm an emotional wreck today!!

Hey Rig,

I once stopped abruptly taking an anti-depressant. I did not know you are supposed to withdrawal slowly. Anyway, I had something called "night terrors". I did not even know what they were but I was not going back to sleep under any circumstances. I was so up on current events because the news was the only thing on the tv 24 hours a day.

They go away after some time. I don't know if you eat right before going to bed but I have heard that can trigger nightmares.

Get well soon and sleep with all the lights on. It helps.

hi nala! thanks for that. to be honest, i don't generally dream that much. well, obviously i do but i don't remember them. the issue of seeing my son this summer is all i'm thinking about right now and so i guess it was in my mind last night. i was also quite weirdly thinking about his birth yesterday, prompted by something i saw on tv. i was remembering how overwhelmed i was to meet him for the first time and about how i never knew i had that much love in me to feel the way i did about him. i have a younger daughter too and obviously feel the same way about her but there's something about the firstborn..that whole experience....couldn't believe i'd grown a child when all i'd managed to grow before was a spider plant.

i guess i was kinda feeling grief of some sort when i fell asleep and it unravelled in a horrible nightmare. i've spoken to him on skype now though and of course, he's just fine, lol.

it's hard being a yiddishe mama!!!