When is it time to let go of an scorpio girl?

I took back my scorpio ex girlfriend, just when I was about to commit to someone else. She reappeared randomly (as if she knew the exact time to do that) and got back into my head.

The first time we broke up we did it because she got scared of the commitment apparently and because she had some 'baggage' to take care of many days passed by and they became months...I was moving on with my life, then she was back again, winning me over saying all those things that she knows she needs to say.

I gave her a chance again.

This time, I gave her time. I didn't ask for anything, but honesty. I didn't even care about a definition yet and was taking things very slow.

She stayed over the other night at my place, which was a surprise since she acted really strange when we bumped into each other at a bar with our own friends.

She did showed me affection and she did come home with me even after her strange distance that night, she is now becoming distant even in her words now and she dissappears randomly making feel that she is hiding something.

She also acts different with me around her friends, as if she wanted to pretend she is completely single, which she is not, and she and I know that. We haven't defined our relationship, but we have agreed to stay honest and that we aren't seeing anyone else, yet her behavior is strange, her communication cuts randomly like tonight in the middle of the conversation very late at night, while she is at home. Her distance comes and goes throughout the days and she is not as affectionate in her words as she used to be when we just started getting back together.

Some people told me that she is afraid of commitment, but I have taken things so slow and didn't define anything this second time around and was willing to wait for as long as it was needed, until it felt right.

Some people told me she is too immature but we are only 3 years apart.

Some people told me she doesn't seem to know what she wants, but when she is with me, is like she opens up completely and lets me be so very close to her.

She talks about picturing me in her future, so I asked her one time if we should date other people while we get there, and she said no. But the way she is acting lately, makes me want to run away and leave her alone...to just move on with my life or at least try to. Is she letting me go slowly, if so, I rather leave first or is this a common pattern of behavior scorpio girls show when they get back with someone?

I agree. Let her go. There is something going on with her and it doesn't involve you. She's using you as a safety net.

Hmm...guys these is all so good!

Okay, so, I told her how I felt...and told her that I am willing to let her go if its time again. However, she said that we needed to meet to talk...and she says she understood my concerns.

Also, I should mention this, I am not at a place to be after her loving me...I just wanted us to start things again slowly to get to know each other even better (since we dated for few months before, intense months, but good months). I had heard somewhere that you need someone to slow down your emotions or your impulses...so I did that I tried, but now the distance seems a bit more than what was needed.

The only reason why I was hanging in there is because these are her last 2 weeks at school and she has a lot of stress and things to do, including a team she leads, so in my mind...I wanted her to have any time she needed.

Sometimes, she still seeks for my support, like last night, when we chatted about her being really stressed and angry sometimes....so that was nice, perhaps a sign that we are still connected somehow.

When she said that we should talk sometime, she also said that few days ago...so I really am hoping that it will happen this week or weekend, if it doesn't then...I will be done on my part, even if I don't say it right away....because that would be too long.

The last time I saw her was last weekend, but we still texted everyday (except for one day when it lasted over a day) because we I had gotten concerned about all this and needed to prepare...deal with these things....

I guess the only thing to do left will be to talk to her face to face. If its done, then I am ready, I just wish she would be better at communicating things (she is not very good at it yet...sadly) and that she would just be honest...but although I had said this over and over she hasn't said goodbye...as if she was waiting to meet in person for whatever reason.

Meanwhile, I can't see myself doing anything with anyone else, because I don't want to regret anything this time or blame my actions in the last bit...I want to at least say "I really tried"....

Something that a friend has been helping me to realize is this though....if she is still not good at communicating with me...would that even work for a friendship? That was such a good point. I think I will all this to the table when we meet...if we do (if we don't, then I'm done and gone) but if we meet I will say everything that I feel I need to say.

Let it Be, Scorpio Chic, candlz:

Do you shut down with people you like when you go unders lots of stress?? She still texts me everyday, but shortly, as usual, but sometimes she does try to get my support, like last night. That is why I am waiting, I guess hoping that this distance is only temporal....given the school timing and big things going on...am I being too silly to think that?

DyTryn:

Could you expand on what you said...do you mean we should let go when they stop holding us tight?
She still texts everyday...reaches me in the morning and sometimes afternoon and night...I know it doens't sound enough, but that is how she usually is...the only difference is that she usually is/was way more sweet in her words. I just don't know if she isn't being that way because her mind is under stress of because she really is unsure and letting me go...is hard to tell. She got a letter I wrote for her asking her to tell me if she needed me to let her go again...because she knows I would....but the only response I got is that we needed to meet to talk sometime soon....and that school was a prioroty and a tough thing for her right now.

Also, when you say its time to let go when they do that, do you mean...that helps them realize how they truly feel? Because chances are people always drift apart sometimes, so were you saying that as a way to help her make her decision and clear things up for me or as a way to simply say goobye?

Tasha:
I understand the thought of fear of commitment...I actually think it is real. It happens when you are coming out of a bad experience and fear getting to close to someone again OR know you aren't ready to do that. I myself have said that to other people at times in the past...not so much like that, but more so "I am not ready for a relationship" and I meant that, because some of these people did have things I liked and could see myself going on dates with them...but I just didn't want to lead them on because I wasn't ready for the type of relationships they wanted from me...

Also, I think it is okay to take someone back again...we all make mistakes....but I think the second time around we need to really observe things. I never gotten back with someone after a second time...I think for me the second time it's it...or at lest it has been this far. Thank you for your thoughts.

Thanks to everyone for every input.

Truthseeker.

Truthseeker

Let It Be,

Yes, you are so right. You know, I've been reading some post someone made about some scorpio who just left and never explained what happened. This is what she did the first time. She emailed asking a break...saying she thought she was ready for a relationship, but she was not and that she had baggage... Later on, once we got back, she said she just got scared because things were too serious yet she had gone back to her ex temporarily and ended things before she came back to me...I think she was afraid to lose me because she knew I was moving on with my life.

She and I have a really special connection...I know this might sound crazy, but I knew I could love her the first time I saw her. I feel she felt the same way. Nothing has been the same for me ever since....with anyone...and I think she knows this partially. She has also said repeteadly that she sees me in her future AND she has done/shown very sweet ways towards me...more so at the beginning of our relationship last year, when everything was intense, but even today, in the middle of her randomness, she offered to get me a shirt I wanted and she does tell me (even though she isn't so sweet anymore) how her classes are going. It's like, she fits me in the midst of her busyness, but very briefly...sometimes in a sweet way...sometimes a little bit cold. Sometimes I wonder if she is trying to figure out what to do with me...

See, we Virgos observe everything (which is great and sometimes not so great) so I know something is up, but I can't point out what that might be. The first time, when she run away (one of those few traits I hope one day she will grow out of it) things came out of the sudden when I sent a long email about some concerns I had, but my concerns were silly...she said she had thought about it for a while, but who knows, it was so confusing because she was still VERY sweet all the way until the day of the break...and even then she struggled with letting me go...

I moved on with my life.

This time around, she and I didn't make anything official (because of her fears) which I was okay with, because I wanted to take things slow to and get to know her better...be open to fall in love again or continue this falling in love process...to perhaps move to something deeper and lasting...but wasn't hoping for anything big, I am well aware that we are both still young and couldn't rush into marrying each other or anything. We both want/need freedom. The difference is...

If I was under pressure because of school or job, I would want someone there who could help me to unwind at the end of a stressful day. As was stated above, when Scorps are into someone, they are totally into that person. From everything you have said in your posts, she isn't demonstrating that kind of behavior. I wouldn't be surprised if you came back on here and reported you never had that conversation. IMHO, she is leading you on.

I am still willing today to show her my feelings...even in the little interactions we have. She shows me some, but not as much as she used to...first I thought, oh she met someone or she wants to meet some new people she is not ready, but then I thought maybe she is just super busy/stressed...since she doesn't explain herself better then I am left to always assume or try to understand her ways....which is not cool sometimes. I am patient because I care about her so much and I am true to my word...and loyal to the idea of us...I like working throuhg it, not giving up.

However, no one can be too busy to not respond at least few hours after...if you really liked someone too, you know? My last message was at 4 p.m for example, it is 11 p.m. If she doesn't respond tonight or even if she responds really late (since she started cutting off from conversations not too long ago sometimes) then I think I know what I need to do...

Maybe she is saving me for last...as she does her own things at her school...but she is losing me on the way, sadly.

I made her CDs, wrote her a letter, gave her honesty and trust...she knows I am real about the things I say.

Perhaps what is going to come to...it's her inmature ways and lack of communication once again...which irregardless of any sign and level of hotness shouldn't be something that should hold me back from doing what is good for me. What I mean by inmaturity is the "playing" part...the "seeing other people" part, the "dishonesty" part of things...when I know of people doing that I see that as a sign of inmaturity, I don't hurt because of me, but because of what it could have been but was ruined...and sometimes those choices aren't worth it in the long run you know (cheating, dishonesty, etc).

By the way, thank you for replying to Scorpiochick.

I think part of me gives lots of space too because I dated girls in the past (some of them were aquarius) who needed lots of space and time and that didn't necessarily meant that they didn't like you or love you anymore (I didn't know this back then) but for what I hear from you guys, YOU scorpios (for the most part or at least in your personal experience) don't operate that way....basically when you like/love someone you show it, you stay in touch, true??

Hmmm....I have lots to think about tonight.

Thank you for the continuos help...

Truthseeker.

Posted by candlz
If I was under pressure because of school or job, I would want someone there who could help me to unwind at the end of a stressful day. As was stated above, when Scorps are into someone, they are totally into that person. From everything you have said in your posts, she isn't demonstrating that kind of behavior. I wouldn't be surprised if you came back on here and reported you never had that conversation. IMHO, she is leading you on.

candlz,

it's confusing a bit for me, because she does let me be there for her...but only sometimes. like last night...i was the one she spoke to last and i encouraged her for a little while. BUT you are right, i wonder who is there for her, or she lets in the rest of the other nights...like tonight, when she stays silent.

all your messages are helping me to think...

i am very good giving advices to people, especially about relationships, but can't be objective sometimes about my own world, my feelings/desires come in between so i tend to need greater help in this area of my life.

scorpio chick, let it be, and candlz,

i honestly think she likes me and cares for me for many things she has done...BUT her lack of communication right now is ruinning things a bit...I had asked her to be honest with me and she hasn't told me so much yet, i have been waiting patiently because of these last days being the last days of school...but you are right, perhaps is now more than ever when she shoudl reach me, look for me, even if it is a distance, in more continuos basis...

you know what was the first huge change? when she stopped saying goodnight to me...that was a big change, because she was getting back into the good mornings and good nights, like we used to do it when we had that amazing dating time last year, but now its' casual....random...at any time and sometimes it doesn't have an ending...as if she wants to keep me around BUT yet at the distance you know?

which may mean, she doesn't want to lose me yet...and somehow can't be fully with me...for whatever reasons other than school...it has to be someone else or the thoughts of someone else right? unless, she was trying to drift apart because she isn't sure what to do with me yet...and thus she keeps her distance to not hurt me too much in case she decides to let it go...

lots to think about tonight. thank you again.

truthseeker.

She's giving you crumbs and keeping you in her sights.

*****I couldn't agree with Let it Be more. Even if this girl is super busy, which I don't know if she is or if she just wants you to believe she is, when Scorps are into you, they find time to communicate with those they care about. In this age of technology, I don't buy her excuse.

that's why i wanted to ask this, to make sure i wasn't just reading her the wrong way you know?

i was going to send a break-up message last nigth, but decided to sleep over and make sure i would feel the same still today.

i sent her a message this morning, since she didn't send me one back since yesterday afternoon...she replied briefly and in a friendly way...but that was it. no info of when we would see each other or how things were for me.

yep. i think its time to let go. maybe she will explain things better then.

i was trying to be gentle because of her last days...and i think she knows that, but perhaps may be taking advantage of it too.

i have other girls who have been wanting to date for a while here, but i'm not doing this for that and doubt i would rush into dating anyone, that would be silly (she and i don't see this the same way) i believe i healing time is necessary after every separation, so that we can be full of things again for the next time around, my ex scorpio and i approached that a bit different too...i truly was/am into my scorpio girl BUT i know when to walk away, i did it the first time, thanks for her silence, and i'll do it again because of her lack of communication. i just don't see other way aroud this.

as far as friendship...i don't even know that i want or should want that right away to be honest.

when i like someone, i meant it, i don't just "think" i do, i really do put my hear into it, so i can't change that quickly.

plus, a good aries friend helped me understand this yesterday...if communication isn't good right now or hasn't been the best ever on her part...if trust hasn't always been there, is that what i would even want from a friend? good questions...because i think communication and trust are key for any relationship...so i wouldn't know....

thank you again for everything!

Posted by Let*It*Be
Again (and without knocking her) consistency and attention is something we give when we are truly in love with someone, the only time that's held back is when a conflict, if any, is not resolved, & even then we are anxious to get that out in the open and over with. At least that's how I am. As you can see some of us here differ in dealing with stress, but when it comes to a love, ignoring is not an option unless pissed off. (cool down time required) She's giving you crumbs and keeping you in her sights.

Let it Be and Candlz,

When do you guys give crumbs and keep someone in your sights then? Is this something you think I should mention whenever I am ready to tell her exactly how I've been feeling?

As far as the stress, yes I think she is going under a lot of stress right now, but I agree with you...I don't think that justifies her inconsistency. She could work a bit on that...make it a bit easier for me.

I know she gives crumbs, but her crumbs are sometimes more like short conversations when she opens up...and she says things that are so confusing.

I gues, I am being patient (and she knows this) because these are her last weeks of school...and I don't want to be a bad person and end things during this time for her...or tell her exactly how I feel. I don't want to give her overwhelming feelings or sad feelings...since she is in finals and has some big finals games...this is her last semester ever in school and although she is only 3 years younger than me, I understand her fears and concerns...

I am trying to be the big person I guess, but sometimes I don't know to what extent you know?

We were supposed to meet tonight (well, she said maybe) after some important stuff she needed to do (which I know of) but she never cared to text to say "Hey sorry I won't make it" or anything like that...but I am sure tomorrow she will text at some random time (could be morning or afternoon) and say "Hey"...and then be sweet on and off throughout the rest of the week or weekend...

Perhaps she might even try to see me this weekend, knowing her...

Meanwhile, I keep on staying here, committed (although I don't have to) to whatever crazy thing we have. I am going out with my friends and I am always busy, so she doesn't know how often she is in my thoughts...but I cannot see anyone else at least romantically, because I am waiting for her...I just don

We were supposed to meet tonight (well, she said maybe) after some important stuff she needed to do (which I know of) but she never cared to text to say "Hey sorry I won't make it" or anything like that...

*****Sorry to have to tell you this, but this girl does not respect you or is she into you. When we say 'she is giving you crumbs', what we mean is she is giving just enough of herself to keep you hanging on. As previously said, when Scorpio is into you, they are clingy and very possessive.

As Hikoro stated, she can't relate to the behavior of this girl, and neither can I. If you want to wait to talk to this girl, it is your choice and very admirable of you to consider what she is going through now(her busy-ness)but are you really only avoiding the confrontation?

Posted by hikoro
Truthseeker

It is nice that you are being understanding about her finals and it is good you are considering breaking up with her afterwards. That is very admirable. But, you don't have to wait if you don't want to.

Now, let me tell you this, you wrote that you were thinking about breaking up with her via text. And then, you blame her for lack of communication?

If you can wait until after finals, then instead of breaking up with her via sms, tell her you want to meet and express your concerns.
I see that she is not being very communicative here but, the things that you are writing to us are the things that should be directed toward her.

Unfortunately, Virgo men can be very passive and non-communicative at the beginning and initially, the communication between a Scorpio and a Virgo is horrible. Virgo men also (initially) tend to expect that the woman will be a mind-reader instead of expressing himself to her.

Mind you, I am not defending her. As a scorpio woman with a virgo man, 'when I am into you, I am really into you'. So, her behavior is something I can't relate or even conceive. I say, communicate and just don't break up with her via sms.

Again, communicate and express your concerns with her. Have you done this at all?

We can give you insight about the scorpio woman's mind but if you have not talked to her about this situation, then you are not getting the complete story.

Hikoro,

I sent her a letter days ago, before I came here, telling her my concerns...so she knows what I'm thinking. She read it and said that she understands...and that all she can say is that "she needs to focus on school right now" and that "she doesn't know if she will stay in the city or not"...in my letter I told her that I was willing to let her go if she wanted/needed that right now. I was about to do that on my own, but wanted to give her a chance to stay or keep me if she wanted...she never said "yes, I'm sorry I can't continue this" or "You are right, maybe we should stop this" She just gave her reasons...and went back to her current behavior...daily short messages, sometimes friendly, sometimes sweet...but very into her own thing, never sssuring me of anything as far as plans, but also never negating completely. Even the day went she had to pick up the letter, she drove to get it...and asked me if she should be worried (whcih showed h

Posted by candlz
We were supposed to meet tonight (well, she said maybe) after some important stuff she needed to do (which I know of) but she never cared to text to say "Hey sorry I won't make it" or anything like that...

*****Sorry to have to tell you this, but this girl does not respect you or is she into you. When we say 'she is giving you crumbs', what we mean is she is giving just enough of herself to keep you hanging on. As previously said, when Scorpio is into you, they are clingy and very possessive.

As Hikoro stated, she can't relate to the behavior of this girl, and neither can I. If you want to wait to talk to this girl, it is your choice and very admirable of you to consider what she is going through now(her busy-ness)but are you really only avoiding the confrontation?

Good points candlz...

I know scorpios are possesive and clingy when they like someone, she showed that at the beginning of the relationships, but now that we were working on getting back, we were taking things slowly (I had read somewhere here that that was what you guys needed, someone to slow you down, so I did that, I didn't feed into her urgencies quickly like last time) However, she went to the other extreme and although is staying in touch is closed off emotionally...and I dont' know why, that's why I came here to ask and see if these was ever normal for you guys...or if you stayed the same way under any circumstances with people you truly like and feel things for.

I can tell everyone responds a bit different, but it helps to gather ideas...thank you! I know very soon, I will know what to do and will keep you all posted.

Posted by XFoosMe

Posted by * Tasha *
you're going to get screwed over again

I say get screwed over again. Don't worry about protecting yourself. I'm totally serious. I'd be MUCH happier putting it all out there...lettin someone screw me over repeatedly...and know FOR SURE that they suck. Rather than being worried about my pride and 'gettin' screwed over again' and walking away too early. If you do that you'll always wonder. Thats just me.

We've communicated before. I can't count the number of times I was screwed over by my Scorpio. Years worth, but I knew in my heart there was something there. He finally gave in and I've never been happier.

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XfoosMe!!

I know it's been a while, thank you so much for all those responses you gave me in the past...last year when things were beginning to stumble the first time.

I understand completely the duality you feel...it's like you know something is there so you can't let go...and yet your head fights that because you know in normal circumstances you would...

I am VERY happy to hear that things are going well for you though 🙂 really and I hope they keep on getting better and better.

I don't know if I'll have the patience you have...although I seem to exercise that more often than not when it comes to my challenging relationships...ha. BUT we will see how far this can go and if clarity will eventually come if not on her part very soon...on mine part soon enough.

I had a friend who said something similar to what you said, "be ready that if you end things you are ready for it" meaning...that some scorpios take at heart what you say and when feeling scared dont fight for things...so they let them be even if they want something really bad (at least that is what a friend said) so I need to be cautious or perhaps REALLY ready for when its time you know...I guess now its a time to understand me...and what I need to do and for how long.

I think I have been giving up on expectations... I could either take the round of let thing be and stay quiet and talk when I feel like it (like she is) and let her be back when she is ready OR I could be the decision-maker (again!) and end things all at once so that I can move on with my life sooner and see her true colors (unless she hides them) perhaps? Hmmm I just want to make sure I am ready when

Posted by Kaleidescorp44
Truthseeker, I sent you a PM. But I also wanted to reply on this thread.

I know that when I am feeling extremely insecure, whether due to stress or perceived problems in the relationship, I will shut down emotionally to assess the situation before determining when it might be ok to open up emotionally again. When I do this, my replies, my messages, etc., will become short and to the point and can sound almost emotionless. Yes, when I am into a guy, I am totally into him and will make sure that I am available to him but if there is anything in the relationship that causes my insecurities to come up, then yes, I will shut down emotionally to the guy until I figure out what is going on exactly and how to best handle it. If the guy is expressing insecurities, that can cause me to feel insecure, and question myself, what am I doing right? what am I doing wrong? where are his insecurities coming from? why is he not happy? etc.

She is a young scorp, preparing to graduate from college, looking at her possible future and what she wants to do with it, wondering if she is ready, if she is prepared to be on her own. No one but another scorp can understand the depth of emotional impact, the sress, the confusion, but more importantly, the insecurity and doubt we may feel at times such as that. We are excited about getting out there on our own and forging our own path, but at the same time, do we have what it takes to do it? Are we capable? What if we totally screw up? It's not just finals she is looking at, but rather it is entering the working adult world with the knowledge that we must take on adult responsibilities, add to that a relationship, and we are up to our necks in our insecurities.

Now as scorpios mature, we tend to outgrow the insecurities, but young scorps— I've been there, I have a 24 year old scorpio son who is there. It's easy to look at it from where we are now, but we have to remember how young she is.

Friend,

You are so good with your insights always. I think your assesment is right on target. Perhaps remembering your own walk and having now a son going through the same helps...somehow you explained very clearly how it feels right now and what it seems to be happening.

I know she cared...if she woudlnt she would say some of the things she says and would let me go completely. She wouldnt waste her time, espec

*****I had a friend who said something similar to what you said, "be ready that if you end things you are ready for it" meaning...that some scorpios take at heart what you say and when feeling scared dont fight for things...so they let them be even if they want something really bad


I don't know if scared is the right word, but Scorps tend to analyze the situation over and over again. Also remember something else about Scorps(can only speak for the women..don't know about guys)but they don't like 'weak' people. By weak, I am not talking physically, but emotionally. I know myself that wishy washy people absolutely send me up the preverbial wall!!!!

I am sensing that you have problems communicating face to face. You said you were prepared to break up with this girl via text. Then you said that you wrote her a letter. It's easy to write your feelings down, but sometimes you have to do a face to face, because you can't see facial expressions and emotions on a piece of paper or a screen. If there is any possibility for the two of you, you both have to start showing your emotions.

As I have been following this, you talk about her and her busy-ness alot. You don't want to upset her now being it's her last weeks of school. What about you? Why aren't you considering your feelings? Put yourself first Truth, don't let her world become 'you'.

Posted by candlz
*****I had a friend who said something similar to what you said, "be ready that if you end things you are ready for it" meaning...that some scorpios take at heart what you say and when feeling scared dont fight for things...so they let them be even if they want something really bad


I don't know if scared is the right word, but Scorps tend to analyze the situation over and over again. Also remember something else about Scorps(can only speak for the women..don't know about guys)but they don't like 'weak' people. By weak, I am not talking physically, but emotionally. I know myself that wishy washy people absolutely send me up the preverbial wall!!!!

I am sensing that you have problems communicating face to face. You said you were prepared to break up with this girl via text. Then you said that you wrote her a letter. It's easy to write your feelings down, but sometimes you have to do a face to face, because you can't see facial expressions and emotions on a piece of paper or a screen. If there is any possibility for the two of you, you both have to start showing your emotions.

As I have been following this, you talk about her and her busy-ness alot. You don't want to upset her now being it's her last weeks of school. What about you? Why aren't you considering your feelings? Put yourself first Truth, don't let her world become 'you'.

Hey friend, thanks for writing. Well, I would never break up with someone over text or even a letter to be honest, but if someone keeps on hiding or avoiding setting a time to meet...or at least acts way too aloof to make it happen, then what choice do I have right? Because breaking up over text is, in my opinion, inmature...but sometimes with her 'hiding' a little bit immature ways (in my opinion) then it's hard to know what in the world to do...and how to define things or cut things...for the second time around...it's like she always leaves me to clean all the mess and/or sort all the conclusion for both of us, with gets tyring at times...that's the only reason why I even mentioned the possibility of ending things at the distance, not based on my preference, but on her ways to keep on hiding...makes sense?

Anyhow, Xfoosme and Kaledioscorp had some great points about that...so I have began the deattachment process today...send one message last night and will, honestly, just start drifting apart since there isn't ot

Posted by XFoosMe
The way you described your options, I understand well??_I??ve lived it. But let me suggest a third option. One I??ve become intimately acquainted with. The times I started hurting more than I could take, I walked away. I stopped making the —I'm done?? announcements and simply walked away because it was what I needed at that time. I started telling myself that if I want to contact him in the future, that's ok. If I don't, that's ok too. I had to overcome my need to control things to do that, but that was yet another benefit of loving him.

I don't know if this helps you, but just about 2 hours ago I had a long talk with my scorp. He repeatedly said that when hes upset or stressed or feeling anything heavy he keeps it ALL to himself. Hes always been that way, he will always be that way, I have to understand its nothing personal and I have to accept it. He said its why hes probably still single at 39. He just has no idea how to let anyone in or whether or not he even wants to. Its interesting to say the least. He said he knows hes a prick and hes very difficult to deal with, but I have to accept that. He said if I can learn to not take things personally, I will be very happy in the end.

My relationship with a scorpio is like NOTHING I've ever experienced. But thats a good thing. 😉

XFoosMe!!

I couldn't agree with that option more...you are SO right. Really. I would continue being the "decision-maker" constantly, but it gets exhausting quiet honestly...so with them, maybe we should operate differently when they show these ways to deal with conflict. Personally, I would rather communicate and define clearly...but since this 'hiding' behavior I've observed has been so typical...for whatever reasons...whereas fear or stress or simply a desire to play gthe field...trying to make this scorpio open up or confess is pointless...i must let go and move on...that is what i did the first time and the she came back on her own. Later on I'll decide if I can do that again or not (if she misses me enought to care I guess). I think you understand completely what I've been through...with the confusion....

Your advice makes so much sense...thank you so much. I think this is the best route for now. I am starting this deattachment phase today...and although I would really like to see her before she leaves...I won't try. I will le

Posted by DyTryin

When is it time to let go of an scorpio girl?

When your aircraft is at least 5,000 feet above ground.

Got it...and working on it as we speak! Thanks bud!

Posted by aquilascorpiusfemina
Talk to her Truthseeker, but really talk. No misleading sentences, or superficial talk, she will notice and she's going to keep on being detached. Speak with the truth and seriousness with her. I'm sure she will listen, hopefully. Show her how much you care for her, and ask her to be with you to speak with the truth also, ask her what's really bothering her, don't let her tell you excuses, because the busyness she's going through is just an excuse. Ask her and show her that you're real with your words and actions. If she loves you, she will once again become sweet and confident like you said she was in the beginning. I wish you the best of luck!

aquilasscorpiusfemina,

thank you for adding your two cents to this dilemma! unfortunately, i have already made a decision....and i have decided to deattach from her completely.

i had asked her...written a letter...tried to meet her...none of that works with her...and yet she keeps on texting daily as if nothing was wrong. if i asked her "what is wrong" or questioned about some weird event that had happened that might make me wonder about things she gets always very defensive...so i simply couldn't....and i shouldn't feel afraid to do that or feel this way. i actually did comfronted her about it and she apologized because she knows its truth...HOWEVER, her lack of communication is still very present, her lack of honesty (for what 99.9% of people seem to agree might be happening, not just in this board, but even here in real life), and her lack of maturity to deal with this issue the way our relationship deserved it..it's just not happening, at least not with any of her actions.

i like her so much...in fact i was once again, beginning to fall in love again, BUT i don't like dishonesty...and many many many people have told me that the only way she could be acting this way is because, as you have sensed, she is having something on the side...and regardless of why (her immaturity, me doing something that bothered her, or crazy peoople in he life, etc)...dishonesty when it comes to loyalty and people's heart is never okay with me, it's just not.

i could be able to forgive and forget...or at least become friends with someone who confesses things...and trust me, i gave her MANY chances to do that, but she is not and will not...and trust me, the relationship we have "appears" to be exclusive based