wwyd?

First off, I'm sorry to have to keep asking you guys for advice. Pretty sure you're sick of me. If that's the case maybe I should just walk away from this place. I am so unsure how to go about dating successfully, which I imagine is pretty apparent from my experiments and frequent need for insight. I hope you all can still bring yourselves to help me out though. I appreciate it.

So I took your advice. (See? I really do appreciate it, even if I don't listen every time). Told the Virgo I realized about myself that I can only be with one person at a time, can only focus on one. And that I'm not fond of the idea of sharing him. His response was ' I'm not looking for anyone else, and I haven't been with anyone else since Nov'. But, that he has more to say. He's doing 3 16hr days in a row, and socializing after, so we went to sleep at that point. I'm pretty sure what he's going to say (bc it's reiteration of what he's said before), which is: I don't want to hurt you if something unexpected happens, I'm not going to miss the opportunity. And I don't want you to get jealous.

I know that jealousy is based in insecurity in yourself. I'm not gonna die if that happens, but it will suck and it is scary to think about. At the same time, it's been...a month? We're not officially anything. I can't really expect that yet. I'm also afraid of it, though I'm hoping to get there, eventually.

Basically, I'm afraid. Is it better to just walk away? Or to take the risk and give it a chance? I guess that's what I'm asking him to do...I just can't tell if he is or not. Don't want it to be one sided, THAT is the fastest way to get hurt. But...he shows he's interested through actions (makes plans w me every week, affection at the clubs that he only gives me). It appears as though he is, but just doesn't want to feel trapped, and cares enough that above all, he doesn't want to hurt me. (I am the same way w people, rather sacrifice something for me than potentially hurt them)

This period of insecurity is normal at this point, no? ...And don't think that its just bc I need something else to focus on. I have almost too much to do right now...I guess I'm just making him a priority.

Dazed, this kinda fell into my lap. I wasn't looking. If you remember, I was simply talking to him as I do all of my friends, when he surprised me by telling me he wanted to see me. I started making him a priority after things started happening. And he's doing the same with me. Working 55+ hrs a week and still spending at least one day/night with me. I'm still doing all the things that matter in my life. I don't have any more time to give him either. You make me wonder if you think I'm just better off alone, period, even if things are going great. Ill be the first to admit I get stressed easily. I think too much. But you really make me wonder.

Intrigued, you're right. Well see. And ill ask then, if I need to.