Advice please Aquarius and Taurus

Hi I need some advice.

Im a f aquarius and my lover a m tauraus. We started talking last september online from the whisper app. We texted everyday like every hour until now. We met in January and it was great and fun we watched movies gave eachother massages, art projects and we were falling in love. I was 8months pregnant at the time. I gave birth in late feburary. My taurus and I still talking everyday and seeing eachother and falling more in love. But I knew something was wrong and there was. I was suffering from postpartum depression and the grieving of me adopting out my newborn. I have a 5yr old son who my taurus and my son just adore eachother. But things started getting bad for me emotionally at the end of april. I started becoming dramatic, controlling and insecure. My postpartum and the grieving of my child took a toll on me. I started going to therapy but it wasn't helping all that much. In july I punched a mirror bc i was tired of feeling so horrible and taking it out on my taurus. I wound up haveing to get stiches. The dr gave me narcos for pain which they put me to sleep for 3 days. Waking up trying to go pay rent I wound up freaking out on my landlord while my taurus was trying to pull me away and calm me down. I started hitting him then tried to overdose . I went to jail and was released to find out i have adverse affects with narcos. My dr then prescribed me Zoloft for my depression. which I also had a adverese response to and went manic, crazy and wierd. So I just stopped taking it which cauaed a increase in my crazyiness. My poor taurus has got the brunt of my all this hell. Now he wont talk or text me. He told me he doesnt know what we are anymore but hes still loyal to me and he still calls me babe. But thers no communication 😢 It sucks bc those outburst of crazy are not who I am and he hasnt seen me for who I am in like 4mo. I know what I need to do to help myself. But with my relationship with my taurus being so screwy. I feel so lost and confused. Please someone give me some advice. I miss him so much!

Sorry to hear about everything you've went through 😢 I sympathize.

I think you should focus on yourself and your mental health right now, not so much on the Taurus guy.

We are pretty loyal people when we really care about someone. Having said that, we are also very fond of stability and your situation isn't stable right now. This may sound like we bail out when things get rocky. I think though, that it's more of him distancing himself so you can focus on you & not be distracted by him and the relationship. This was a new relationship and it's a lot to take in.

If I were you I would send him a message or call, however you two communicate at the moment, and just say something along the lines of.... I understand I have a lot of work to do to get back to who I was when we first met, I need to focus on myself right now but I'd love to keep in contact (maybe like 1x a week) as friends and maybe when I'm in a better place we can have a do-over.

And then seriously throw yourself into healing from your trauma. I wish you the best. ((Hugs))

I think he's thinking things through. Did you try explaining things to him face to face?

He wont see me or contact me at all. And I have explained it all to him. He knows the medication caused me to be crazy like a bad acid trip. But hes done talikng toto me about anything.

Thank you riverlee. Its so hard going from having him there for me everday for the past 10mo to complete silence from him. I wish to honor his wishes although im failing at not reaching out to him. I agree tgat i need time to heal as so does he i just wish it was easier. He said hes staying loyal to me and he knows i am to him. I need to trust him when he says this. The uncertainty of him not knowing what we are anymore and saying hes loyal to me confuses me so much. I have been reaching out for help unfortunately the help i recieved to take zoloft backfired tremendously. I will do as you suggested and I pray that he does give us a do over when i am stable again.

Have you tried to contact him, anyway? like, a surprise visit? You could look him in the eye and tell him exactly how you feel. Be honest, though. And if he still refuses to see you or even talk to you... It might be time to let go. Maybe he'll contact you again when he's ready or he wont. You should be prepared for the worst and if he doesn't respond -- given time, you should let it go.

We last seen eachother on Saturday. Thats the last he spoke to me. I have texted him a couple times but didnt recieve any contact back He wants space, I told him saturday he can take as long as he wants. I guess i just didnt realize it would be complete silence.