Cow Version Of Myself = Soulmate?

As I've stated previously I'm on the hunt for a Cow which is highly compatible with me, I figured if any Cow would be absolutely perfect for me it would be a woman born on the same day as myself and to that end I've been tracking down the Cows born at my birth hospital. I was born on May 10, 1984 and there was a total of three females born, with two at my hospital. The third was born at a hospital nearby. There are no doubt more across the globe, but these I'm focusing on first.

My theory is that only those of the same exact natal chart as me will be the so called "perfect" mate and therefore potentially my soulmate. Of course, part of my theory rests on the idea that any potential soulmate would be exactly like me right down to the aspects and elements. This could all just be a misadventure on my part and my Soulmate might end up being someone other than a fellow Taurus or there's always the possibility she's dead, however after playing the field as long as I have and searching far and wide I'm convinced that if there is a soulmate for me, she's one of my ilk.

Anyway I'll update my progress as time wears on. 😉

I guess I'm just sick of fucking around and wasting my time on people who don't get me. Unlike most of my friends I've always known what I wanted in life and have set out to accomplish said goals. Now I'm at a stage where I feel I'm ready to evolve to the next stage of my life cycle and I'm unable to do that and I butt heads with nearly every sign. There's always something wrong with each and every person I date, granted I nitpick but that's because I'm a Taurus and I ultimately seek someone whom is long term material.

I figure the female version of me will get along with me famously and we'd be able to move forward as a cohesive unit versus my current situation. I get along with every single Taurus, never met one who I didn't like or naturally didn't have something in common with. But I've never dated a Taurus due to Cows being slim pickens in my geographical area and the Cows that do exist are married.

Therefore by searching for Cows with my exact natal chart perhaps I'll find one who is in a similar situation and we can move forward together.

Posted by Vanish
Go for a real cow.

Let me guess, you are Kiwi!? Or maybe Aussie!? Yeah— lol

Good luck AB

twin fire dear

Soulmates are your souls fmily.
twin fire is your erfect match
the "cow" is your clone

AB,

Your Moon is in Virgo. This is why you cannot find anyone. You are too picky. No one will ever be good enough or tick all the boxes you want. I find it is a judgemental placement.

My sister has this along with Virgo rising (Libra Sun, Scorp Venus).

She's 39 later this year and has been single forever. We have lived together for ten years and while my love life has been a revolving door (can I blame my Pisces Moon for that!!) her's has been virtually non existent.

She's been on a few unsuccessful dates. She's had a few one off's and a very short term arrangement in the last ten years but she has NEVER had an actual boyfriend in all that time. You know, someone to go out with, cook for, invite back home, watch movies, go on holiday together, discuss life and build something with etc.

There's nothing wrong with her as such. She's just exceptionally picky where she really shouldn't be.

This is you. Totally.

So how do I lower my Virgoness?

I mean, there's a lot of things which I don't agree with and even more which I have a problem with and that I wish not to conform to and talking about changing is always easier said than done. Most of the things I nitpick over are because of life experiences and I didn't enjoy being in those situations when I was younger and don't want to be in love with someone whom suffers the same situation.

For example my three biggest deal breakers are women who Drink, Drug, and Smoke. Right there, I've eliminated more than half the population LOL!

I hate Drinkers cause my family is dependent upon alcohol and many, many Alcoholics or recovering Alcoholics make up the bulk of my family tree.

I hate Druggies, cause Addicts run in the family too and when you've lived with Crackheads, you want to be as far away as humanly possible.

I hate Smokers because when I was a child, everybody would blow their fucking smoke at me. Perhaps the worst part was when my father and siblings would smoke pot, being sure to fill up the entire house so the next day when I went to school I'd have to explain why I smelled like Pot. That was the fucking worst, my principles used to have the police do locker checks on me weekly.

I don't want to be alone forever, but there's certain things which I can't tolerate. And the list is fairly long.

AB,

Write out your extensive list (brief version) and I'll not pick at it for you.

A non drinker, non drug taker and non smoker are what I would call normal preferences. However, from your last posts it does feel like you take it to the extreme and almost tar everyone with the same brush.

For example, I drink but not much. I rarely drink at home and I only have a few when I go out which isn't often. I might have some wine (a bottle) if friends come over for dinner. If I go out for birthdays, events, social nights, most of the time I drive or I'll have a few but not to the point of being totally drunk. I don't drink anything if I drive.

Would you exclude me? It sounds as if you would.

I don't smoke or do drugs. It's not my thing. It's not everyone's thing but you say those three things exclude half the population. I still don't think you're looking in the right places. Perhaps in your area there is a high percentage of people that do one, two or all three of those things.

Just because I have a drink it doesn't mean I'm an alcoholic like you describe of your family. This is where you might need to lower your exceptionally high criteria so you widen the pool of people.

Being so rigid isn't helpful. You need a balance.

My preference is someone who doesn't drink much. That means I don't want to come home to ten beer cans or have my evenings revolving around booze. Having a few drinks at the weekend in the sun is nice or at social events. I won't tolerate drugs. It's just not my lifestyle and I don't see the point. I have dated smokers before but if I'm to build a relationship with someone I'd rather they didn't smoke from a health point of view plus it smells but that said I'd consider it but it's not ideal.

My one thing I don't want to bend on is the guy already having kids. It doesn't work for me at all BUT I'd still be open minded because realistically most guys my age have kids BUT I'd be very weary.

I've shown you mine. Now you show me yours!!

Wow agent I know your post wasn't intended towards me but I really liked your post sounds pretty ideal to me if I could find someone with that type of mentality I'd be set.But every guy has his taste or preferences to what they find ideal.I'm also the same way when it comes to getting involved with someone who already has a kid I just can't picture myself being with someone who has a child already. Most girls that fall in my "criteria" that I meet usually have a kid already which I just can't look past no matter how much I want to.

Gd luck! Try to fight ur pickiness and be more open minded yet keep your BASIC standards sturn. You will be surprise what u find! Everyone is beautiful flawed in many ways. I hope u find the one!

PV,

There's selective and then there's not selecting anybody!!!

Posted by LentoBull91
Wow agent I know your post wasn't intended towards me but I really liked your post sounds pretty ideal to me if I could find someone with that type of mentality I'd be set.But every guy has his taste or preferences to what they find ideal.I'm also the same way when it comes to getting involved with someone who already has a kid I just can't picture myself being with someone who has a child already. Most girls that fall in my "criteria" that I meet usually have a kid already which I just can't look past no matter how much I want to.

That's ok. You may read it Š

I'm rather open minded and tolerate which can be far too tolerant but I'm learning more now about what I do and do not want, what does and doesn't work for me. Which bits to hold ground on and which to compromise on.

The 'check boxes' for the basics such as drink, drugs, smoking, kids etc can be filtered out rather quickly be it via Internet dating or asking basic questions upfront.

What I try to focus more on these days is how that person interacts with me and how they treat me. These are the 'real' areas that are worth real gold and shows whether there's a match between you and if it might last.

Busy!!! Spill the beans!!!

I've got tumbleweed from the Scorp Sun/Leo Moon. It's ok as I've still got my eye on the Scorp Sun/Cancer Moon physiotherapist who I saw today... 23 years old... Bless!!

LentoBull... Fancy a date? ‰

@ PV&Jellay- how's it going? You ok, kinda just left?

@ Op- honeybunnie and agent have good points. I am like that too. In due time you will let shit flow and just compromise and adapt, keep communication and honesty going. OF course deal breakers are a must.

But there are some good people left tbh. That are wanting a long term monogamous relationship.. I keep my guard up way more than you probably.. So loosen up alittle, and have fun. I am the one over here strict and hard core in my picks. And will just be single. I am okay with that.

And atm if someone did show they were interested in long term relationship. I would drop my guard and show the other side of this cow for the right one show time, energy, and effort.

@P911

Currently I would most definitely exclude you. Besides my deal breakers, I look for certain attributes and characteristics of potential mates such as Independence, whether or not she's strong willed and if she has ambition in addition to drive. Having a penchant for thinking outside the box is a plus.

Women who have a defeatist attitude about life or whom are pessimistic in nature often get passed up, and who act like they aren't in control of their lives are a turn off. I like a woman who isn't afraid to be herself, someone whom displays bravery and courage, a risk taker who has manners and is well refined. I meet a lot of females who are still living at home with mommy and daddy which is also a turn off. It's one thing if you are in college and your in you early to mid 20's but in your 30's it comes off negatively.

I avoid religious females altogether. I don't have a problem if one practices her religion, but it's been my experience that every single one has to attempt to convert me and tell me where I've gone wrong in my life. It's ridiculous. Perhaps the worst types of women are the ones who believe in sex on the first date or who bring a whole roll of condoms with them on the first date.

I'm extremely judgmental and I can be quite brutal face to face, even made a few women cry unintentionally, I was just being honest.I've tried to meet decent human beings but all I seem to attract are the dregs of society. I meet a lot of sluts primarily sexually repressed housewives looking to step out on their man in Libraries, and Museums of all places. I'm just sick of meeting the same types of people at every turn and want to meet a decent, real woman for a change and not some fake in a mask.

So AB, here is your check list... The brief version... I'd hate to think what the long version is... Look at it, as in really look at it... Now do you see why you're single?

Non drinker
Non drug user
Non smoker
Independent
Strong willed
Ambition
Drive
Thinking outside the box
Not defeatist
Not pessimistic
In control of their life
Not afraid to be herself
Brave
Has courage
A risk taker
Good manners
Well refined
Must live in own place except if at college
Must not be religious
Not have sex on first date
No sluts
No sexually repressed housewives

Wait till you truly fall in love and watch the majority of that checklist fly through the window. 😛

Posted by Theatrum
Wait till you truly fall in love and watch the majority of that checklist fly through the window. 😛

Ha ha I agree with this and have been there myself! However, OP is so set with his check list from the outset that he won't fall in love because she doesn't have the right ....... Insert everything here!!!

Binota,

Your summary is good although the point or the moral of the story is that AB won't compromise on ANYTHING. If she doesn't tick ALL his boxes in the EXACT way he wants then he will reject her completely.

You mention about it would be ok if the potential lady drank a little but AB has already knocked that on the head and said no. I gave my example of drinking which is not much at all and he said he would reject me completely just on those grounds regardless if I ticked any or all other boxes.

He has no balance. Only judgemental extremes. You can't work with that. If I have a glass of alcohol, in his eyes, I'm the same as his alcoholic father or someone. I'm put in the same category which is unfair and not right. We wouldn't even get off the ground as my 'I like a glass of wine at the weekend' would put me in the excluded box.

I must add that there's a difference between someone saying they only have a glass of wine at the weekend and the reality of that person actually drinking considerably more than they say or think but then again, that's where the balance comes in. Online dating profiles are full of crap and don't offer the person in real life.

If I were to put all of AB's criteria in the computer to select an appropriate mate then we would have the situation if 'computer says no' because you're asking it to fulfil too many categories with no leeway.

AB needs to take his list and (I was thinking shove it up his arse) really look at putting some balance in there. He can keep all or most of the things but tolerance is required.

For the record, AB would be off my dating radar... I don't do gingers and there's NO compromise on that one! 😉

You sound like everything you don't want in a person.

Gross.

@OP. I wonder, if a girl came along that exceeded every criteria on your checklist, but you happened to be the one who didn't live up to some of her criteria... if what you didn't live up to was something realistically changable, would you try and change it for her?

Posted by AgentP911
So AB, here is your check list... The brief version... I'd hate to think what the long version is... Look at it, as in really look at it... Now do you see why you're single?

Non drinker
Non drug user
Non smoker
Independent
Strong willed
Ambition
Drive
Thinking outside the box
Not defeatist
Not pessimistic
In control of their life
Not afraid to be herself
Brave
Has courage
A risk taker
Good manners
Well refined
Must live in own place except if at college
Must not be religious
Not have sex on first date
No sluts
No sexually repressed housewives

I don't know how to change or compromise. This has been a part of me for as long as I can remember, I am a man of familiarity and routine. Changing isn't easy for me nor is it something that I accept with wide open arms. I mean is it really so wrong to want a female who is the best she can be, who knows what she wants and is willing to pursue goals toward that end?

My list is approx 1,333 items long, I realize that it's probably a lot to the casual observer and there are probably some items which are overly ridiculous to the point where they can be dropped from the list. I just don't want to settle for anyone, ultimately.

Scorpio has a double standard.

The question is are you rich? if so, go ahead and live like a king.

Some items? SOME items can be dropped from your list of 1333...— Fuck off!!

You actually have a list with 1333 criteria on it.

At what point in your head did you think it was a good idea to have 1333 points on it. You fucktard!

Virgo Moon at its best...

On the other hand, it is good to look at what criteria you fill and what you can offer someone. It's not all about what you want.

Are you your best self?

Will you be bringing your best self (along with your own cutlery and plates of course) to the table?

Posted by Theatrum
@OP. I wonder, if a girl came along that exceeded every criteria on your checklist, but you happened to be the one who didn't live up to some of her criteria... if what you didn't live up to was something realistically changable, would you try and change it for her?

I've been in that situation before and I did attempt to change a few things about myself to appease a woman but it was short lived. There are things about myself which people don't like and in all honesty I don't have a million women beating down my door. The majority of my dates existed because I took initiative and put myself out there, not because a woman saw me and thought I'd be worth her time. Like other Taurus I'm fat, primarily due to my love of food and my passion for cooking. I do have both Anxiety and OCD, my OCD is very dominate hence my obsessively long list of items. Hell even the mention of the exact number is a OCD trait.

I am rather intelligent, however for all the knowledge I possess I still haven't entirely grasped women and how important they truly are in a long term relationship. My longest relationship was over five years and I failed miserably. She finally gave up on me and cheated. Looking back I can't really blame her as I was hopelessly clueless. We were two completely different people she was a Leo, and wanted to experience what all of her girlfriends were doing like clubbing, drinking, drugging etc and I had already gotten beyond that frame of mind, knowing exactly what I didn't want.

I wasn't really a bad boyfriend, I always remembered her birthday, got her gifts, did special stuff for her, treated her like a goddess and always had time for her. But ultimately she wanted more than I could provide and we were at an impasse. I laid out what I expected and she refused, it wasn't until that moment that it clicked for me that she wasn't a perfect fit for me. She knew before ever becoming exclusive with me what I wanted and she said she wanted the same things but as we got older her viewpoint changed and she wanted to not be as serious as I was. In hindsight I should have never pursued her to begin with, I was a bit older than she was and already knew what I wanted.

Posted by Vanish
Something Ive noticed is that a lot of Virgo moon females get called socially reatrded and the males are referred to as that really weird guy people steer clear of. Virgo moon is the worst placement to have for this world easily. I think its cute.

Story of my life. I'm always the creep, freak, stalker, or weirdo. I stopped caring what people said about me awhile ago. It doesn't change who I am on the inside, I think being different from the other lemmings is a good thing.

Posted by AgentP911
Binota,

AB needs to take his list and (I was thinking shove it up his arse) really look at putting some balance in there.

😆

Does it make me a bad person that I'm at a press conference for a cop who got shot this morning and all I can think about is food at the moment? Oh well gotta power down devices, back soon.

Posted by PV&Jellay
Give people an opportinity to surprise you.

+🙂

I've ran across quite a few fellow Taureans in my lifetime so far and contrary to the sereotype, a lot of them were very much into fitness and nutrition. Venusian nature aside, I think it's also because Taurus always wants to go for what's top quality and is natural. Food is no exception. I've only met one fat Taurus in my life (not obese) and that one was a confirmed drunk (happy drunk tho) who didn't care about his physical appearance whatsoever. To give credit where credit's due, his deep, masculine voice made up somewhat for his physical shape. Probably one of the most beautiful talking male voices I've ever heard.

Yeah, I used to be skinny and went to the gym daily, three hours every day, was on a special regimen and everything, I have a shit load of Trophies from school as I used to compete in running and did walkabouts for charity etc. but then one day I woke up and was like fuck I don't care anymore. I figure if I'm going to be liked or loved it's going to be for me and not how fucking hot I look. That's so fucking superficial and fake in my eyes, love someone because you love them not how wet they make you with a single look. I share similarities with almost every Bull in the world, but when it comes to certain aspects I am vastly different.

For example, I don't have to have the best of everything nor do I surround myself with expensive possessions, but I do surround myself with Art, flowers and anything else which is beautiful. Every Bull I've ever met offline has been Fat, same with the Cows, the few I've met. Hell one of the three Cows i found from Hospital records who were born on the same day as me, she's fat, too! She's actually a lot like me and basically my clone. LOL.

We both hate Scorpios, and we both love to cook and eat exquisite foods. Of course I am American and it could be less of a Taurus thing and more of an American thing for why we're fat. Everyone's fat here, cops, fire fighters, EMT's, Doctors, only one's who aren't are the playboy types. You'd be surprised how many chubby chasers we have here, I never knew chubby chasers existed until one hunted me down. lmao.

Another thing is, I am Leo Rising, however I don't care how I look in public, like right now I look like I could be a Taliban terrorist, thick bushy beard, long hair, not prim or proper in the least. I also don't care how people perceive in Public, another thing which is at odds with my rising. I just don't give. a fuck. At the end of the day I choose to be myself, instead of what everyone else says or thinks I should be.

Yeah, you're still not address that list of 1333!!

Spray can cheese, AB... Spray can cheese... That's why you're all fucking huge!

You lot coat everything in chocolate or syrup or other sugary crap... And you eat lots of it!

When I first went to USA years ago I was waiting at LA airport with so much time to kill so I got my lunch there. It was either a diner with one main meal being big enough to feed ten pigs or Burger King. Even the smallest sized meal was the equivalent to our XL in the UK. It was huge! It came with a wheelbarrow of fries and a bucket of Coke!

I lived off a salad for three days as that was huge too.

Don't get me started on bacon and eggs... That is NOT bacon and who the fuck fries an egg on both sides??

I love you all really!! I'm just jesting!!

Posted by AgentP911
Yeah, you're still not address that list of 1333!!

Spray can cheese, AB... Spray can cheese... That's why you're all fucking huge!

You lot coat everything in chocolate or syrup or other sugary crap... And you eat lots of it!

When I first went to USA years ago I was waiting at LA airport with so much time to kill so I got my lunch there. It was either a diner with one main meal being big enough to feed ten pigs or Burger King. Even the smallest sized meal was the equivalent to our XL in the UK. It was huge! It came with a wheelbarrow of fries and a bucket of Coke!

I lived off a salad for three days as that was huge too.

Don't get me started on bacon and eggs... That is NOT bacon and who the fuck fries an egg on both sides??

I love you all really!! I'm just jesting!!

Yeah, You skinny fuckers encounter a fat person and think we're all about fast food and junk food, but the reality of it is that I don't do fast food, unless I can supervise it for quality purposes. Not all eateries agree to this and in fact most of them get offended when I insist. You should see what happens when I take my own Bowls, Plates and Silverware into Restaurants. The looks are priceless! lmao.

I have Germ Issues as a result of my OCD and so I don't feast on overly fat foods in public places. I also consume very little soda, and when I do it's caffeine free. About the only thing I do from Burger King is a Caesar Salad with breaded chicken. It's the safest option for me. LOL.

My old pal Vomit, we called him Vomit cause he could Projectile Vomit on command! He used to order both Triple and Quad Whoppers in three increments and down em all in under a minute flat. lmfao. It was so fucking disgusting, he didn't even chew it, just pile drove it on down his pipe.

Now when I do Eggs, I typically make em over easy. Other people though like to fry em, and mix milk with em in the microwave, I can't say I'm a fan. But you are right, the amount of food you get individually is what you would get for a family anywhere else.

Posted by AnomalousBull
Of course I am American and it could be less of a Taurus thing and more of an American thing for why we're fat. Everyone's fat here, cops, fire fighters, EMT's, Doctors, only one's who aren't are the playboy types. You'd be surprised how many chubby chasers we have here, I never knew chubby chasers existed until one hunted me down. lmao.

This is true.

The key is to find someone malleable - someone with a weaker sense of identity than you (should be easy for a Taurus to find this) - and then just shape them into the person you want to be.

Busy,

So let me get this straight, you as a woman are saying if a man wanted to date you and he had been a convicted rapist, done a few years in prison and was known to beat up women that you would gladly accept him with open arms because everyone deserves second chances!?

The difference between us is that I list out my items. everyone else just says "no". How is that any different? Because I put mine on paper?

I don't just target someone and nitpick until I've found every little thing wrong with them and totally dismiss them. Like a lot of people I grew up in a harsh environment, I had experiences that other kids didn't have such as having SWAT teams bust down my parents front door at two in the morning looking for one of my felon brothers. I've known people, who pissed away my friendship just so they could get high and it was all about the drugs, getting another hit off that needle. I've known people, people whom I cared about who for one reason or another gave up on life and disappeared into the ether.

I don't expect anyone to understand, but the only person who is going to filter out the wrong people for me is myself. For the record I don't discriminate against a woman based on her height or weight, I don't care if she looks like a pepperoni pizza and has huge craters in her face or if shes physically disabled in anyway. I give everyone an equal chance. I don't care what people say, when they see me with someone who's been dealt a bad break in life. I don't discriminate against physical issues, but you know what if shes super fat and has a penchant for stealing shit, she gets disqualified for the latter.

AB,

Just Grow up.

My list contains the previously mentioned (Check P911's reply)

Additional Example (Not Complete):

Associate with Addicts of ANY type
Associate with Gang Bangers
Associate with Known Criminals
Believes Everyone Owes Them Something
Bible Thumper
Bribery Tactics
Con Woman
Cheater
Depressed
Dislikes Art or Beautiful things
Dislikes Surprises
Disregard for Life
Gold Digger Techniques
Hates Animals
Hates Fireworks
Hood Rat
Lacks Coordination
Lacks Initiative
Lacks Manners
Lacks Morals
Lacks Motivation
Liar
No Eye Contact
No Responsibility
Not Family Oriented
Prefers Texting over Talking face to face
Promiscuous in Nature
Racist
Rolls Eyes Repeatedly
Selfish
Shady in Nature
Speaks Ebonics
Too Pushy

The worst part of all this is that AB doesn't see what is wrong here or what the problem is.

It's him.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
The key is to find someone malleable - someone with a weaker sense of identity than you (should be easy for a Taurus to find this) - and then just shape them into the person you want to be.

***Raises eyebrow***


I think I'm relegating Taurus males and putting them in the same category as Cancer males.

'Dangerous - hazardous to health - do not touch!'

Posted by Binota

Posted by AnomalousBull
My list contains the previously mentioned (Check P911's reply)

Additional Example (Not Complete):

Associate with Addicts of ANY type
Associate with Gang Bangers
Associate with Known Criminals
Believes Everyone Owes Them Something
Bible Thumper
Bribery Tactics
Con Woman
Cheater
Depressed
Dislikes Art or Beautiful things
Dislikes Surprises
Disregard for Life
Gold Digger Techniques
Hates Animals
Hates Fireworks
Hood Rat
Lacks Coordination
Lacks Initiative
Lacks Manners
Lacks Morals
Lacks Motivation
Liar
No Eye Contact
No Responsibility
Not Family Oriented
Prefers Texting over Talking face to face
Promiscuous in Nature
Racist
Rolls Eyes Repeatedly
Selfish
Shady in Nature
Speaks Ebonics
Too Pushy

Yup you are gonna be bachelor for the rest of your life. Hell freaking no about that disgusting list, we are humans not aliens or androids!

And LOL PREFER TEXT OVER TALKING FACE TO FACE?! AFRAID OF FACING IT?!

click to expand

You misunderstand, I am the one that HATES when people text instead of talking face to face with me. I just want to grab their phone and break it.

I'm a very confrontational Bull I have no problem getting in someones face and making my disapproval known.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
The key is to find someone malleable - someone with a weaker sense of identity than you (should be easy for a Taurus to find this) - and then just shape them into the person you want to be.

Hey Pygmalion. you could simply adopt a child.

😛


In all honesty, while I'm more for two grown-ups having a positive, motivating influence on each other in life rather than one of them "raising" the other, I don't see anything morally wrong with it, assuming the partner actually wishes to be "parented".

It's the hood rat and gang bangers that did it for me.

AB must live in a 60 mile radius of the worst place on earth... That said, it is a bit of a shit hole!!

Seriously though, most of those things are just a given.

But hey, if the 'lucky lady' doesn't like fireworks then she's outta here... That's just petty bullshit.

Heaven forbid she rolls her eyes more than she's allowed to and over and above her daily allowance of eye rolling.

Posted by AgentP911
It's the hood rat and gang bangers that did it for me.

AB must live in a 60 mile radius of the worst place on earth... That said, it is a bit of a shit hole!!

Seriously though, most of those things are just a given.

But hey, if the 'lucky lady' doesn't like fireworks then she's outta here... That's just petty bullshit.

Heaven forbid she rolls her eyes more than she's allowed to and over and above her daily allowance of eye rolling.

When you put it like that it does sound over the top and ridiculous.

What I'm saying is that if shes rolling her eyes at me, obviously she finds me boring or doesn't respect me therefore it's a sign that she be disqualified. I don't know what you look for when you date someone, but I'm looking for long term material, and yes if she doesn't like Fireworks it's a red flag for me. I love Fireworks, and if she's going to constantly be bitching about them or worse yet demanding I not do them then it's a problem. I run into this one ALL the time.

As for living near a shit hole, it's not as bad as Baltimore or Detroit, but it is pretty bad. Crime is rampant, yesterday a cop was shot and killed all because he told a guy to stop doing donuts in his car at 3am waking up the neighbors. But hey, it's the Bay Area, people have been killed for less here. There's so much criminal activity here that often times calls for Police Services go unanswered for over an hour at a time. On Holiday this number skyrockets.

Sometimes so many people have been gunned down or stabbed that it takes upwards of 45 minutes for an ambulance to respond. But hey, this is America after all and it's similar anywhere else in the country. During the past 24 hours there have been 7 Auto Burglaries on my block alone, in fact the cops are on my street daily because someones car or home has been burglarized. Some repeatedly.

As for Gang Bangers... Well I live in a town of 43,000 people. Of this, more than 4,800 people have sworn colors or are in a Gang. Another 5,000 are associated with members of outside gangs in nearby jurisdictions. It's even worse in the bigger metros. Our County has a Anti Gang Task force and they come through the area couple times every month to conduct warrant searches and other tasks. So that's not entirely over the top considering the dynamics.

Yeah, when I put it like that it DOES sound ridiculous because it IS ridiculous.

If she rolls her eyes at you she obviously thinks you're being a knob at that moment in time. She'd probably be right too. But hey, let's bring out the Nazi firing squad because AB fucking Gestapo didn't like it.

You're assuming that because someone rolled their eyes at you for two seconds that suddenly they find you boring or don't respect you as a whole. See what I mean about extremes. You're unable to appreciate something for what it is. Perhaps it's a joke or you do something a little OCD and she takes the piss for a laugh or whatever and rolls her eyes. In your head you've already assumed she doesn't like you at all so she gets the bullet.

There's a bigger issue here really. You have so many barriers up thinking about what or how something MIGHT be that you're unable to just LET it be. You've closed the door before you've even opened it.

Have you considered what it might be like or might feel like to go on a date with yourself?

It sounds like hell.

From a female perspective, I don't want to sit there being judged on a constant basis. I don't want to feel like I'm putting a foot wrong or that you'd blow up over nothing every five minutes. You actually remind me of that other yank Taurus twat who lived near you. It was tiring and draining. Constantly watching what I was saying in case he had a fucking tantrum or didn't like something, always had to be right over everything. He's still single too. Prick.

Ps: you live in a shit hole. Good choice. Maybe you need to move!