How could my Taurus do this to me :\

After I broke up with my Taurus Bf, over a misunderstanding, he added his so-called "friend" from high school on facebook, but my gut feelings told me it was his "ex gf". The ex that cheated on him, and he told me how much he hated her and that he would NEVER talk to her again. Anyways, he kept telling me he wasn't lying, but I didn't believe him so I msged the girl and she had told me, YES she was his ex and she sent him a friends request just because she wanted to see how she was doing and that no matter what they were always going to be friends (which pisses me off). Later she gave me her phone nbr, and we talked about everything, their relationship and how things didn't work out. She told me he never cheated on her. She also told me he gave her his nbr, and after that, deleted his facebook because he said it just caused a lot of drama. (well it wouldn't have if he told me the truth!)

So i confront my ex about me talking to his ex, and he bares it all. He told me after I broke up with him, he wanted to die, he didn't eat for 3 days (which i believe because when i saw him he was really skinny) and that his ex was there when he needed someone to talk to. He told me he called his best friend, but he didn't wanna talk to my ex because he was upset my ex never picked up his phone calls (understandable). But what makes me so confused is why he would tell me he hated her so much, and later tell me after 6 years he couldn't hate her anymore -.- Trust and honesty was such a big topic when we first started dating, yet he would give his nbr to the "ex" he disliked so much. I know he was alone, he doesn't have any friends anymore and he literally just works, goes home, and then calls me, almost every day. The funny thing is he has a tattoo on his arm that says "Loyalty" and i just wanna scratch that damn thing right off!

How do i go about trusting him again? Because right now i feel so hurt that i got the truth from his ex, and he said he was planning on telling me but he just didn't know. Also, he thought i was gonna leave him if he did. I told him i wouldn't leave him if he told me the truth, but he was just being too hardheaded.

Bull's...i need ur advice :\

So all he did was talk to her? And that's the end? I mean really? Its not like he slept with her.. or even kissed her. Maybe he forgave her after all these years? When you need a friend that badly, its easy to forgive someone...

Maybe this is why he didn't tell you he talked to her? Because he knew you'd flip out? I'd be pissed if he slept with her, or kissed her or something, but just talking?!?

Skykomish- I understand ur point of view and u are totally right that when ur in need of a friend, u would talk to anyone. But what i don't get is the fact that i was so calm in asking him if that was his ex, he still didn't tell me the truth. I also told him i would not leave him. All i wanted was the truth :\

cutiebullie- oh now that makes me really scared :x

My Taurus is a great guy, but at times he keeps to himself and doesn't really explain how he feels because he's afraid of hurting my feelings. I tell him, i'd rather have him be completely honest with me, than hide the truth from me.

We got back together Friday morning when he told me through the phone he was not lying. I even told him i would not get mad if he told me the truth and i would NOT break up with him. After he repeatedly "promised" that he wasn't lying to me, I said ok, we're gonna make this work the best we can. Saturday comes, and that's when i get the msg from the ex that he is lying to me and that he gave her his nbr. It crushed me completely to hear the news from a complete stranger. We have a long distance relationship and he stays over my place 3x a week.

He was telling me about this ex he hated so much, how she would just pop up into his life, just to see how he's doing and then disappear for a couple years. I told him, u either erase her from your life, or else, I'm out of yours forever. From that, he told me he would never talk to her again and apologized for not telling me the truth earlier because he wanted to keep me in his life, by keeping me from the truth, which he thought would hurt me. Aaaaannnnnnd it did, but not as much as him lying to me.

All in all, he was afraid to tell me the truth because he thought i was gonna leave him forever, but i never came across that way which is strange.

Can u pls tell me about ur experience? I'd really like to read.

wow ur ex is one crazy bastard. i'm just trying to take it one day at a time, but i feel like im losing my mind. I'm trying my hardest to give him the benefit of the doubt, but its not workin yet. I just love him so fucken much and i can't believe he would lie about somethin that small. oh well, i'll never know....

I get the feeling this is an 'immature' taurus thing. Mine wasn't the least afraid of a relationship. He kind of was like 'yeah, well I was wondering when you'd get to that...' Which surprised me, I was expecting HIM to be the slow one. And at the same time, didn't push it either, before I mentioned it he would leave and say 'lmk if you want to see me again'.

And perhaps the lies and manipulation goes with the immaturity? I know I haven't been with mine very long, but I highly doubt that would happen..

After all this Taurus male bashing, I need some successful stories with Taurus men lol.