Is he into me? or Just a friend?

hung out with a taurus male i've known for a few months.
he was moving closer to my area so i said we should chill.
finally moved in, he got busy finally we agreed to go hang out
he forgot, so i reminded him and said i felt saddened (as a joke)
and told him a smoothie would make me feel better. he agreed.
we met at a mutual location, then he took my to an adorable little
place that had dim lighting and lil candles on the table.
we talked a bit, at one point he repeated something i said and i go
"are you mocking me?" he said .. maybe a lil...
he seemed kind of shy which was funny as i've known him to be quite outgoing.
i did most of the talking (I'm a virgo)
he was a total gentleman. when i was dropped off at another mutual location,
i was about to leave and he said "i dont get a hug?" I apologized and gave him
a hug (I dont like putting peolpe out of their comfort zone and he didnt seem
like the huggy type) he gave me a reallllyyy long tight hug .. i wasnt sure if it was
ever gonna end ... then i threw in "how come i get a cheap hug? here i am hugging you
with two hands and you give me only one" so he said oh im sorry and gave me another
long hug with both hands. (we had previously discussed me being bugged when peolpe just randomly
tried to touch me, i dont remember how this came up but it did so im guessing
he didnt wanna push it because i had mentioned that previously?)
On the drive back he did ask me "so when do i get to meet your kids?"
which really threw me off as the only other person who's asked me this (actually another taurus)
was a good friend i've known for 15 years and he had yet to meet my kids. but this one ive only
known for a few months. (he didnt say it in a creepy way - my instincts are pretty good that
i can usually pick up on if they're asking in a strange way) but everyone we both know
already knows my kids. i thought he had met them (we train at the same gym) and he said he saw
them around but never met them officially.

before meeting up we had been txting quite a bit. he mentioned not being able to get regular back rubs
cuz he was too ticklish (which i had heard before from friends and usually im one of the few
who can give backrubs ... as a friend ... where they dont feel ticklish)
anyways i remembered this and i told him to turn around, so he did and he asked how i was gonna do it
through a leather jacket, nd i said, thats why u take it off. so he did.
i didnt hear any laughter so i asked if it wa

... then he mentioned he's better with shoulder rubs i said ooh ok ... i didnt do it because i didnt want it to get
weird for him or anything. I also took two pictures of us before i left, i said "picture! come closer" he came quite close - i usually give peolpe their space, but he came close enough that his head was touching mine.

when i got home i thanked him again for the good time, then we talked some more.
i said he's neat and he should come hang with some of my friends and i, he said that sounded good.
he told me i was awesome (twice)

and then a few days later when i txt'd him he didnt respond like he did before. i sent him the pictures we took,
he responded to one. and that's about it/ havent contacted him since (hung out about a week ago last talked to him about 2 days ago .. i called him)

he did just get out of a 4 yr relationship (from his fiancee), so im giving him his space. i dont jump into things.
and i def. dont want to be the rebound. the last time i txted him he had to go to practice and told me to hit him up later.

(thats when i contacted him either the next day or the day after with no response) we did run into someone we knew before we hung out and they asked what he was doing there and he said "Im taking this one out" (the other person thought it was a joke) but he laughed and said what you think im making it up?

not sure what to think of the situation o.O

forgot to mention - i did make him laugh quite a bit. he did drive 15-20 minutes to this place instead of going around the corner where we could have gotten the same thing (except the place we went to was organic)
he asked about my plans (work school etc) so i told him. he told me his.

PS
Me: virgo (sun), Libra (moon), Venus (Leo), Mars (Virgo)
Him: Taurus (sun), Capricorn (moon), Venus (Aries), Mars (Scorpio)

I'm probably not the best person to answer you (scorpio, seeing a taurus for a few weeks now).. but it sounds like he likes you to me.

Taurus are confusing. I know my bull likes me but sometimes I'm like 'well then why...?' Methinks you have to be pretty secure in yourself and that he likes you to make a relationship work.

He's into you. probably just a little leary and wanting to take it slow due to the ending of the 4 yr relationship.

yay =]
now my next question is - do i wait until he contacts me? or should i wait a while and say hi?
he might be relocating for a bit for training - a friend (cancer) pointed out
I COULD wait ... but at the same time if i wait too long he could find someone else wherever he's gonna
be for the next few weeks. (he's not leaving for at least another month or two but will be returning home)
i have a taurus gf (cancer moon) and she changes her guy's very frequently as if she doesnt get
attention she gets fed up and moves onto someone else ... but that might just be her?

hehe that's about what I'm wondering too. How do I show I want to be with him without 'not giving him space'? lol. What I've been doing.. and seems to be working?? is tell him 'I'd like to see you, lmk when you wanna see me again' 'course what I have is kind of established so.. But anyway, I mostly replied to that question to see what the bulls think about the way I'm doing this.. yes? no? TRYING to keep that scorpio intensity in check, at least for now..

lol i totally understand .. I was with a scorpio for 6.5 years! I did always love the scorpios challanging ways hehehe.
yeah i kind of asked myself out on his behalf with mine. ... it works with my personality, a friend tried it and she crashed and burned as she didnt have the personality to pull it off the way i did. i like to chase so its hard sitting on my hands since from my understanding the taurus likes to be the one who conquers o.O

I'm a traditional kinda female Taurus...so I can't advise on the bull's behalf.but I like to be contacted,in order to know you care.not constantly...but consistently. 😉
I'd let him get ahold of you...but if he doesn't within a week,text him a nice hello.

I don't know about the other's...but I'm not big on talking on the phone,and I'm not crazy about texting until I'm crazy about someone...then I'm up for it alot.

^ The same. And if I give you phone number, it's a big deal. I don't just pass that out willy nilly. Means I would enjoy talking.

yep 🙂

🙂

K so I ended up talking to him ... I told him I thought he was cute - he thanks me.
thought he might get weird on me since he already has many girls after him. but I left it at that.
and he continued to talk to me ... we txted for about 5 hrs til his batt nearly died ...
soooo now that he knows that i find him attractive ... i havent tried to hit on him in any way...
what are the chances he'd be more encouraged to do something later on? (or would that just kind of push him away)?
I actually said it in another language and said i dont remember how to translate the last bit ...
but he was sneaky and used an online translater and figured it out! >. In recent txts he started teasing (Ie. nite geek) kinda stuff .. and occassionally id return it in a more
"i not a geek silly billy =)" kinda way ... he did tell me about some of his passions (cooking of course!)
and some future plans ... not sure how quickly most tauruses open up but we've only been talking more i'd say the last month? as before that it was more of small talk.

On another note ... had another taurus I was kind of seeing since the summer (more of a fling) died down i told him i wanted my space. (previously we had both been seeing other people and both knew about it and we were ok with it eventually i let go of the other ones and he seemed to slowly get rid of his as well.) we did discuss things he's too heart broken over an ex to try a relationship so i was the one who said i was wanting to end it saying he needed his time to heal and hope one day he'd be able to love again cuz he had a big heart and ive seen it towards my kids and my girlfriends pets.

he kept asking even after when he could see me again but i ended up not responding after a while.
said id prefer if we were just friends, said he couldnt do that cuz we had a history and i said ok thats fine.
i did as a friend tell him i was into someone else. (NOT to make him jealous just basically telling him straight up)
he seemed fine with it. and we stopped talking then he started talking to me again.

we decided to hang out again ... but that afternoon (we were meeting in the evening)
he started commenting on my page and started flirting with a girlfriend (also a taurus) on there
and she pointed out she thought he was trying to make me jealous on purpose and i was like yes .. i can see that O_O
it continued for a bit and im like why 😢
and he replied with "i thought u didnt get jealous? what happened to that?" (which

I was surprised myself when i was feeling it!) I do think i noticed my pattern of if they doit really early on, ill leave. where as if they do it later once ive known them for a bit it bugs me.
and he was like "lol ok ill stop" no resistance or anything. later when we met up he said he just thought he'd comment he didnt mean to get me that way. (though he did seem pleased with himself) then he said he just wanted to see how much I liked him ... o.O he brought me out to his soccer game (which he had mentioned before but never actually did)
and then this time he had to pick up a friend so i got to meet him (I've never met any of his friends until then)
I dunno if im just imagining it but it starting to seem like he's trying to include me in more of his things.

I had mentioned a few weeks back that I was done just kind of having fun and was ready for something else but i knew he was more of a have fun kind of person. and i told him im sure he'll be able to find someone else ...
he said "well what if i wanted to date u?" and i said i already know you dont. (because we had alrady discussed that i the past so i was just pointing out what he had already told me - more of a im not telling u to or pressuring u to .. more of a i understand where your at and im not gonna push u in that direction but im sure u can find someone who's at the same stage as you are at right now) he mentioned "I thought u wanted it this way" and i said i did when i was at that stage but now that stage is over.

but that day was the longest we spent together (aside from the first day when we met)

so now im confused as to where He stands. he then mentioned he would hate to loose me as a friend too o.O

"so now im confused as to where He stands."

and he is about you as well...😉


""well what if i wanted to date u?" "

"I thought u wanted it this way" and i said i did when i was at that stage but now that stage is over.

"I dunno if im just imagining it but it starting to seem like he's trying to include me in more of his things."

I'll be honest...I'm confused too.
do you want to date him? if so,it sounds like it's time for someone to quit circling the barn and say so.
sounds to me like he's up for it,but you are sending mixed messages.
we are a simple folk...just lay it out for us.lol 🙂

let me correct...you BOTH are sending mixed messages...out of fear the other one does not feel the same way.
I think you both do. 😉

ohh nooo! yeahh i do tend to do that from what my girlfriends tell me 😢 (and usually i think im being clear!) but myyy way of being clear is more like this
"you got any cute friends you wanna hook me up with?"
Me: ... well you know ... I hear ... Immm available ... (and if its in person ill inch closer or text/msg ill send a wink)

or Me: "you know what I think? ... I think you and me should date" (in sometimes in kind of a half joke kinda way Orrr)
"Iiiii think you should take me somewhere pretty =]" (again in a light way - if not into it they'll take it as a joke orrr they respond with .. where do u wanna go?)

with this one was i just telling him i wanted something more (but from PREVIOUS talks we had ... he same he had his heart broken before and he didnt want to go through that again so he didnt want to get into another relationship at all)

so I took that and left it as that. that's why i told him ... (umm triiiied to tell him lol) basically i know he didnt want a relationship (from my understanding as to what he had said) but now that im settled down again im ready to start something on a more not so casual kind of way. (and knowing he didnt want the same thing) I wasnt going to try to convince him but just let him be.

this one has opened up veeeery slowly. (not as fast as the other one)
but after he told me he didnt want anything - I kind of crossed him off my list and hadnt looked at him as potential bf material. (and me usually being bad at picking up hints anyways if somethings not mentioned straight out i wont think about it.)

I gave him a stuffed dog for V-day but didnt get a chance to give it to him until yesterday - he wanted us to name it together, which i thought was cute.

Im usually open to diff possibilities (if the other person mentions it)

By chance a lot of the stuff i got on my new guy im into - the answers came from this taurus ... not that i asked that part directly (he didnt ask why either) he did say he liked my personality and how i was so bubbley and how the other girls he had been seeing were .. i dont remember but i guess in a way noooot easy going?

I dont want this one to get hurt by thinking im hinting at something im not. but if he has something to say about it im open to listening to it - just dunno how to ask him that without sounding so serious and freaking him out! lol

He did also recently add my taurus gf to his account (the one he was trying to flirt with - but she stopped replying)
so

she mentioned it to me. and i said i was fine with it and that he was a raelly nice guy,
and me and her never share guys i dont go for guys she's had in the past or current ones
and she doesnt go for mine and we both have diff taste in men anyways. she said he was
being kinda flirty. (which I know he loves to flirt) and i just said yeah I bet he would be too!

"I dont want this one to get hurt by thinking im hinting at something im not. but if he has something to say about it im open to listening to it - just dunno how to ask him that without sounding so serious and freaking him out! lol"

Soooooo.....you still are confusing me.
do you want him as more than a friend? what you say up there^^^^^ is very vague to me.
but,you gave him a v day gift....

*scratches head* 😉

"with this one was i just telling him i wanted something more (but from PREVIOUS talks we had ... he same he had his heart broken before and he didnt want to go through that again so he didnt want to get into another relationship at all)

so I took that and left it as that. that's why i told him ... (umm triiiied to tell him lol) basically i know he didnt want a relationship (from my understanding as to what he had said) but now that im settled down again im ready to start something on a more not so casual kind of way. (and knowing he didnt want the same thing) I wasnt going to try to convince him but just let him be.'

that was the right thing to do.
but....if he is now coming back,maybe he is ready.
if it were me,and I did really like him...I would let him know,then let it unfold slowly and just see where it went.no pressure of labels or worrying about the future.but I have noticed I'm rather odd compared to most women. ;/

LOl we were more than just friends but we werent too serious. I like making people feel special so I give them things ...
so far I've really only given him and one other something (but i no longer talk to the other one)
(my mom -cap- and girlfriend -leo- thinks im nuts cuz they like recieving more lol)

... plus I like how i can easily make him say "aww" hehehe =]

the reason i had to stop seeing for a while and get my space was cuz i felt i was growing too close to him.
and knowing he didnt want a relationship i knew it would only result in me getting hurt so
i had to step back so those feelings wouldnt have continued to develope o.O
and i also just realize i hate admitting things lol
and i didnt wanna be in something that was going no where (Im more of a long term thinker, if i cant
see myself being with someone for the long run ill usually stop before it starts or just avoid going there.

Ah ha!
I completely understand every bit of that. 🙂

but...now you are both confused as to where the other stands....
I think you're standing right next to each other...but in the dark. 😉

hmmm thats a good idea!! when i get too free flowy i notice i tend to just wonder away and sometimes forget to come back! lol.

next too each other ... in the dark ... mmm i like the sounds of that =P haha ahhh there goes my dark humour again >.

Dont know if its a virgo thing? but I notice my mom has always had someone in the back pocket, in case the first one didnt work out. Is that what's going on here?

I've actually never done that. I tend to focus on one person at a time actually.
I've only really dated 2 virgos and one scorpio. I know my virgo ex when i told him
I didnt want to work things out again (we share a daughter) he flipped out and went into a
"Imma go out and find 10 girls 100 times better than you!" (he's done that before only to come back
failed) But i do know we do tend to move on quick. we dont usually have shortage of guys (or girls)
that are after us (though it might not seem like it!) I know during the summer after my 6 year relationship
with my scorpio ex - i had up to 17 guys surrounding me (started with just one then a month later went to 2 the second was to get my mind off the first cuz the second was just fun annnnd i accidently ended up liking him instead!)
then a week later i got a leo (didnt like ... dirty finger nails!) then my taurus, then a cancer (wasnt into him)
an aries, a sag (wasnt into those) a scorpio a few more caps (dont seem to like those very much - as friends yes as anything else noooo) i dont remember the rest, eventually i couldnt pick so i dropped them all. then my summer taurus, my gem and the cap made it past two more eliminations ... the gem i was seeing first and that ended around nov. he was seeing other ppl too so he was ok. (usually im a very one on one - more relationship person not a date arounder type so this was new for me)

the cap didnt work out (caps are just a tad too slow for me - they seem to get scared off by girls who are like me ... they either cant give me a challenge or wont take mine... im not exactly easy to handle)

but ive tried the dating around and yeahh i dont think its for me if i go on one and i cant see a long term with that person i keep them as friends or dont bother. usually most end up as friends (WITHOUT me dating them) cuz it takes too long, and tehn we been friends too long that it just gets weird and then id rather not risk loosing them as a friiend. Im like a gold mine for amazing guys! just wish i had enough GOOD girlfriends to hook them up with!

trying to get to know ppl better FIRST cuz thats what got me into the two not so great relationships with one virgo and the scorpio... and ended up losing my other virgo cuz we were friends first and theeen didnt work out so we stopped talking o.O he was a mutual friend of scorp and he knew scorp and i broke up so he went for me .. then me and scorp got back together about 8 months later and so it kinda got we

back together and i guess maybe it just got weird for virgo?

but no now that im back into my stableness i wanna focus on just one. ive been avoiding guys i knew are interested in me and only been hanging out with ones i have as friends only. (I want to relax and feel safe without feeling the need to keep my gaurd up in case they make a move!)

but being as virgos are usually one extreme or another ... we dont really have a middle ground ... we can either be really conservative ... or .. not .. focus on one thing or go completely party-ish. play really safe or just go nuts.
we do have our transition periods where we slow down though.

I know one virgo gf (also dating a taurus for a year now) she always just focused on the one.

I do know that virgos are known as natural teases and ... Libras the big flirts (my moon is a libra ... boy oh boy what a combo i think thats what gets me in trouble i get into a flirty fun mood sometimes i do it as a joke and it results in them being interested and im like Oh no!! so ive managed to stop that!) but even trying to not be scene and just blend into the background doesnt work for me cuz someone always comes talks to me >.
But I do notice I am usually torn between two guys (not that i look it just has always happened both opposite of each other)
and im like oh no and again I cant decide so i usually leave both. im like if one dont stand out ill just pick none!

ohhh hmm maybe i guess that would kind of seem like we got someone in the back pocket though eh? =]

wow! you're boring. i hate your posting style .

then dont bother reading it genius o.O