How do you let your best friend know that you like

I really like this guy, but we have been friends since the 4th grade and I don't know who to tell him. Can you give me any advice-NIKKI-

Have your dog, yogi, tell him...(just kidding)

If you are indeed best friends, be honest and direct....that is what best friends are for, don't ya think?

I talked with a preacher's wife tonight and she told me that she could talk about things with her best friend and she would not discuss with her husband, and I thought that was strange, but it seems that things are easier discussed with a friend than with a lover. I always thought that one you love is also a dear (or best friend), but I guess that is not always true.

Hope I did not confuse you even more...

TM

That was funny Taurus Male -- about the dog comment.

Anyhow, I don't agree with the discussing of certain things only with friends. That may work for some people, but not for me. I want the man I end up with to be my best friend -- and lover; to feel comfortable enough to confide in each other and discuss anything. Sometimes couples are really complete strangers. I'm not saying most people in a marriage o a relationship are like this, but I've heard about some people, who, after having been with that person for so many years, just realized they are complete strangers and cannot discuss anything with their partner. This is where I think people go through the motions and "just settle" in a relationship, but it's just my opinion. Hope I didn't confuse anyone either.

AF -- your sidekick 🙂

oops...put an r after that o please -- to make that "or". This board was updated but I certainly don't see a spell check yet. 🙂

U're right TM & AF... not many couples would like to discuss
problems with their love one, especially men....
They seldom discuss their own problems or sorrow ness with their
girlfriend instead throw them out on close friends....but why?

Love is mean to be shared (in whatever) ....
Lots of men will come to gf's close friends or close friends
on advice of problems.
I've got some guys friend seem to throw out their unhappiness,
anxiety ,problems...on me...but i suppose they could have share
it with their gf. Everytime i spare time for them it makes me
seem like feeling pity for their gf for not knowing their own bf
circumstance better.It seems like friends understand him better
than the gf herself.
I've wished to tell those guys friend but they are in lots of
bad mood to know........

Why is it happen?
Is it b'coz......
they scare to show their weakness to their gf? They feel the
need to act in the name of Man's Ego everytime? Is it?
They wanna to be perfect in their gf's eyes?
Or else they dont want gf to be worry ab't them? (an excuse??)
Or they dont trust their own gf enough?
Why there is the need to pretend to be alright always?
until the last minute..........
B'coz there's no understanding in between..............
Getting into a big fight and there come the END of the story.....


No matter how much weakness is it....
For love the 'weakness' don't seem to be matter.....
So guys share them with your lovers

Unless.... some problems.. could be better off if
left unsaid to lover? Or else there is an occurrence
of upside down in the relationship.

Sometimes people just don't like to "rock the boat" in a relationship or to seem weak or just fear the truth about certain things. I guess friends are a safer environment for "venting" certain feelings. But whatever it is, talking about those sort of problems doesn't just make them "go away", only actions can do that. I still think facing them with the person there is a problem or issue with at least clarifies things, don't ya think? And if things just collapse or something, better to know sooner than letting some things just drag on and on..
But, if it is all about some sort of "fantacy" in one's own mind, than just seeing it for what it is, and shifting back to reality is required, not easy for some, I would say...

Just another two cents worth.

TM

May I...

"Or they dont trust their own gf enough?"

There it is, that one sentence says everything. You have to do this; you have to trust your partner. I would if I knew who the hell I was suppose to be talking to. But I don't so who is the real vicitm here—

Hey Ya'll,
I'm my best friend's sole confidante and his girlfriends often come to me to try to learn things about him that he never told them. I never told them because I figured if he wanted to tell them, he would. I'm not going to mess up on having his complete trust. It's strange though. It's like, you love them but when you really look at it, their complete strangers. I think that's sad. After he broke up with them, he would be like "You know, I never liked her." I would be so shocked to hear that.