How do I NOT be boring—————

I can talk to any girl, in person, on the phone, you name it, but there's this one girl, I COMPLETELY struggle for any conversation, I need help, does anybody have any startegies for NOT being insanely boring with the person of their dreams, please, and yes I DO try to be myself, but around her, I forget my name, PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear NOT boring male,

I will do my best to shed some light on this subject that has touched ALL of us.

It originates from the mind. You are creating a situation for yourself from your thoughts. With the other girls you have told yourself they are "just" friends...with this other girl whom you seem to have feelings for you may have put her on a pedistal, created her to be more than a simple friend. In all reality, she is the same as everyone else (until your mind creates something different). By doing this, we have put a result on a relationship rather than letting it unfold naturally, we have put expectations on it. Let go of all of that and look at her as another friend that you would like to share some of life with. She is human just like you, she wants to be treated as such. Amazing how our thoughts create our lives but they do. It is best to enjoy everyone for who they are and let life happen as it should without expectations.

My best to you! Oh, you are NOT boring unless you think you are. Change your thoughts and you will change YOUR world.

AFx2

AFx2 that was beautifully put!

TF

AFx2,

You have a gift! Maybe you should use it!!!.............MORE!
BG

Where do you see this girl? Are you dating yet? Maybe you just need a change of venue. A place where there are other things to enjoy and discuss and the conversation will flow more easily for you.

Good Luck,
suruaT

Hey, scorpio female here.

I would be willing to bet that even though you THINK you're coming off as boring, you're not, in her eyes. Girls like it when we have the effect of rendering a man speechless! lol. I think it's endearing that you fumble over words and the like. I'm sure she does too. Just remember this: breathe deeply and slowly for a few minutes before you talk to her, totally "zen" out, get yourself in your "serene" place. That should help. But beyond that, if you're still "nervous and weird" like that Everclear song, she will not judge you harshly for it and there's a good chance she'll be flattered and think you're adorable. ; )

-phoenix

Thank you TF and BG 🙂 I appreciate your compliments very much. I will do my best with my gift. 🙂

warmest regards,
AFx2

AFx2,

I have seen your responses on other boards and I applaud you!
You are wonderful!

SORRY DEWD, U HAVE NO HOPE.U R A TAUREAN AND TAUREANS R SUPPOSED TO BE BORING. U R DOOMED FOR LIFE.

First of all, typing in all caps means screaming. Are you knew to this computer world?

Secondly, what kind of statement is that? Just because he is a Taurus automatically makes him boring? I don't agree with that and I would like to know what your description of boring is. Please fill us all in on that.

AF(sidekick)

AFx2:

I completely forgot to tell you that I, too, thought your post was brilliant!

Just like giving credit where credit is due, like the other awesome chicadees!

-phoenix : )

Thank you, Phoenix 🙂 We all are here to hopefully share our wisdom with others, helping to make their journey a little lighter. I have also been helped by the many posts that ALL of you have shared here as well. THANK YOU for YOU!!!!!

With lots of love,

AFx2 🙂

NP, AFx2 : )

Here's hoping (or rather, knowing) that the good you're putting out into the universe will come back to you three times over--you deserve it!

phoenix_rising