I Love You?

Ok so I've posted before about my taurguy who doesn't want to commit til he gets his life together. Since then I've distanced myself to allow us to just be friends and allow myself sometime to get over my romantic feelings for him. However he keeps with the I love you, I miss you and various emotional calls/text. On my end I've just resigned myself to not respond to any of this and remain polite. But a part of me wants to call him on all of this. Like c'mon stop with all that when you know you just want to be friends. I really don't like when people try to use ILU as emotional bait and that's what this feels like. He did it again last night and I really wanted to tell him your action don't match your words so until they do STOP with the wordplay. But I really don't like to fight pointless battles so I just ignore it. So I'm looking for opinions: would you address the comments or continue to ignore them until they go away? FYI: I'm not looking for games or emotional warfare I just want to get over these feelings and move on. I'm just curious if my ignore it til it goes away approach is the most rational way to go or would it be better just to tell him to STOP!

It's obviously something that gets to you, which is why he's probably doing it.

I'd call him out on it.

Damnata you're right it does bother me and I do believe he purposely does it to hold my attraction. But that's kinda why I ignore it. It's like don't give a misbehaving child attention. I just don't want to get sucked into some debate that causes my emotions to come out. I'd rather leave those in the box in the back of the closet. But it sucks cause naturally there's a part of me that wants it to be more and him saying all that knowing nothings changed just irritates me. I dislike games...

Posted by fembot
Damnata you're right it does bother me and I do believe he purposely does it to hold my attraction. But that's kinda why I ignore it. It's like don't give a misbehaving child attention. I just don't want to get sucked into some debate that causes my emotions to come out. I'd rather leave those in the box in the back of the closet. But it sucks cause naturally there's a part of me that wants it to be more and him saying all that knowing nothings changed just irritates me. I dislike games...

This is exactly why you should call him on it. If you hold on to your emotions and you get more pissed off you'll just have a meltdown.

I see his actions as disrespectful.

I definitely agree with this... A meltdown is looming and that's never pretty. Ugh I just hate messy emotions and my real emotions about this situation are MESSY. I just want them to go away. I've already blown off his recent ILU now I have to decide if I want to bring it back up or just wait til the next one...

Posted by Impulsv
I agree it's disrespecting n selfish. Nothing wrong with telling him to stop those statement out of respect of the Freindship. U have no interest in hearing it unless it's backed up with actions.
It doesn't have to be an argument.

THIS! 1000% on the money. I guess that'll be my approach and if he can't adhere to that then I will have to do my virgo disappearing act...

One thing you have to take into account: he clearly sees you're not ok with it, yet he keep doing it. You should reconsider the friendship also.

Don't do the disappearing act: your mind will wander on what could have been. Be direct and firm.

This reminds me of a story with a Virgo...acquaintance of mine. He came strong off the bat and in between joking and having long talks he would always start with sexual stuff. I asked him straight up:

"So, what's with the sexual jokes?"
"Well, I'm attracted to you and if you'd like to fool around, I'd be game"
"Yeah, no"

I guess to play devils advocate he really doesn't see that it bothers me cause I've said nothing about it. (But you'd have to be an idiot not to realize telling a girl you've rejected that you love her over and over again might be a bit painful for her) I wouldn't just disappear. I'm gonna call him on it first then if he keeps doing it I'll just stop responding all together. If you can't respect my wishes why should I respect yours!