I need help quick!!

I need help quick

The Taurus man that I fell for hard, keeps talking to me after I told him to stop contacting me and texting me unless he wants a relationship. I posted before under —help with my Taurus?? just in case you want more back round. now he just asked me tonight if we can meet up for dinner half way. And stay the night.

Well I said to him tonight, please can you just give me a reason for our split so I can help myself to get over this, and he has no answers but I don't know. He says he misses and still cares about me and still has feelings etc he wants to just want to spend time with the kids and the guys??_etc. remember we are 3.5 hours away.

I deeply miss him and care about him so much. I don't know what to do I havent seen him in six weeks since his dad passed away.

Should I go to dinner and not stay the night?

Should I go to dinner and stay the night? ( of course a hotel room)

Should I not go because this will just remind me more how much I miss him?

Will a Taurus man rekindle his passion towards someone when they see them again, and feel there touch?
Or is this his way of seeing me and getting a quick sexual fix??_
Or is this him thinking if I stay attached I wont move on?

OMG any insight please he wants to meet next week. I am sooo stressed out over this and I don't know what to do!!!

ahhhhhh

he wants you to drive 3.5 hours?

his dad passed away and you broke up with him? uhm...wow

My opinion? You should have been there for him after his father passed away. As his woman, standing for him. That he is contacting again is manna from heaven. I would go and sound the evening out. Talk to him, see where his head is at. Spending/not spending the evening is purely your own call. If you feel it would complicate things or put your heart in a place where you didn't want it to be, don't. Real talk.

You know,the death of someone you love so much is pretty hard.there are emotional up's and down's for a very long time sometimes.
It usually brings you to a place of questioning everything in your freaking life,life and death itself,what you want vs what you need....serious issues.
On top of that,long distance can be hard for people like us who really enjoy physical proximity.
If you felt he pushed you away,he probably did unwittingly,but guess what? it wasn't to hurt you,or even about you at all.it was about getting thru something horrible,which like it or not...we usually do alone.
If you care about him,and are willing to live closer together soon somehow...why not go meet him.
But as a Pisces,try to put yourself in his shoes for a minute. 😉

Posted by Starfish225
I was under the impression she was there for him and he pushed her away, got distant and make jokes about her in front of his friends and she heard him..I thought thats what I read..And prior to his dad dying he started acting funny..Pisces79 didnt you say that in one of your post?

I re-read that video part....
That's on his friend,not him.he probably didn't even think about that being on there,and as the other guy responded "classic" I'd say the offending friend probably is a known player.
men don't think like women do,and if it'd have came out the bull's mouth....that would be different.

Posted by BellatheBull

Posted by Starfish225
I was under the impression she was there for him and he pushed her away, got distant and make jokes about her in front of his friends and she heard him..I thought thats what I read..And prior to his dad dying he started acting funny..Pisces79 didnt you say that in one of your post?

I re-read that video part....
That's on his friend,not him.he probably didn't even think about that being on there,and as the other guy responded "classic" I'd say the offending friend probably is a known player.
men don't think like women do,and if it'd have came out the bull's mouth....that would be different.

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btw,that wasn't really completely directed at you Star,just throwing it out there in general, since you mentioned it.

Posted by Starfish225
"The Taurus man that I fell for hard, keeps talking to me after I told him to stop contacting me and texting me unless he wants a relationship."

Uhm sounds like you put it in perspective already as to what you want..Stick to your guns dear, your happiness should not be up for negotiation. Focus on what you need and want, I tell women its ok to selfish hell men do it all the time. The man for you will not let you get away. And if he really wants to be with you he will strecth himself go that extra mile to do so..I would go to dinner with him and see what he has to say, BUT I would make him come to me I wouldnt meet him half way no where. You did all that and he did not appreciate it or he acted like he didnt..He would have to prove to me that it is me that he wants. If he cant prove that so be it, friendship it is..DONT sleep with him even if he tells you he wants you, allow him to show you start to court you again first..Women can make things so easy for men to the point that they really dont have to do much to get us..AGAIN the man for you WILL NOT let you get away and will stretch himself to be with you..Wishing you the best!!

+1

@ venusianbull i was there for him from the beginning through thick and thin. I did everything i could to help him. But he didnt want me to come up there because he said it was "easier" if didnt. believe me i would have been up there the moment that he told me. i did everything i could from here, through his negative to his sweetest comments.

@ Starfish225 yes, i did write that in my post and believe me even through that i stuck by his side to console him and be there for him through all that. i made sure to ask if he and the kids were ok if he needed anything. i always tell him i care, etc...

@ BellatheBull, i put myself into his shoes a lot. i gave him the space he needed, and let him do all the moderation on how much we talk and etc. i was never pushy or demanding. i just wanted to be there for him.

Well my final decision i called him and declined the invite. I felt that my emotions are way to out of control for a meeting. i felt disrespected that he assumed that we were going to stay in a hotel. He knows that i am a good hearted person with very strong morals. I also for the third time asked him to please stop contacting me, because he keeps saying that he cares about me and its not helping me get on my feet. He kept saying please i dont want to stop talking to you. i care and pleading, but if i keep backing down he will just walk all over me. I freakin love this man and i dont want to let go, but we are both gettting aggrivated with each other, because of miscommunication. I dont want to fight with him and i dont want to cry over him. I just need time away. I told him if he decides to change his mind, to contact me, but until them i asked him to please respect my wishes as i did with all of his.
I need to move on or at least get my life back on track. He lasted 3 days both other times i asked hopefully this one he will respect. crossing fingers. OR in my own little fantasy world he will come back to me =) unfortunately i dont think that will be the case. he gives up easily.
but thanks for all your responses, i do appreciate it, i felt like i was in a pickle last night and i just didnt know what to do.
I wish there was a way to get him back but we all know...they are stubborn!!
so i guess i have to walk away 😢

@pisces79 Not sure if you already posted this but what is his chart? Taurus sun, moon? venus? mars? if you can get a birthdate and city/state he was born.

"Will a Taurus man rekindle his passion towards someone when they see them again, and feel there touch?
Or is this his way of seeing me and getting a quick sexual fix??_
Or is this him thinking if I stay attached I wont move on?"

I think, (this is most men, not just Taurus), that "labeling" anything right now is too soon for him. Its only been a couple of months, you don't live close to each other, therefore too soon to expect him to say he wants a "relationship" right now. He probably doesn't even know what the heck he wants. All he knows is he cares for you, is attracted to you, and doesn't mind bringing his kids around you. (Which is a good sign BTW!).


You showed him that you meant business when he ignored you and pushed you away. He came back, he may really miss YOU or the sex. And as far as that goes, only time will tell.

The bullettes here know the scoop on Taurus and I love hearing their take on things which I don't always see.

Soo....you have to decide if you are willing to wait and take a chance.

Hi Starfish!!

Trying to stay cool, ugh too friggin hot!

Him:

Sun Taurus
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Taurus
Venus Aries
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Pisces
Saturn Cancer
Uranus Libra
Neptune Sag
Pluto Libra

You:

Sun Pisces
Moon Aries
Mercury Pisces
Venus Capricorn
Mars Pisces
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Virgo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sag
Pluto Libra

I think you both are a good match. But your moon in Aries makes you move fast.
This describes his merc:
Mercury in Taurus makes the mind practical, constructive, determined, deliberative, patient, persevering, stubborn, and steady. Thoughts tend to be considered, slow, conservative, and indelibly registered. The mind is able to hold ideas, give careful judgments, evaluate feelings, and appreciate the arts and music.

Those with the Moon in Scorpio often try to act cool and under control but there's a brooding intensity below the surface. With an emotional base in the sign of the extremes, they experience intense feelings, which they often fear to let out. This in turn makes even intimate friends and family reluctant to probe too deeply.

The secretive Scorpio Moon can sometimes end up lost in all that churning emotion. If they are not self-aware, they could end up being driven by this subterranean force in the end. Along with the highs of the light side, they can fully dwell in the dark and struggle with jealousy, thoughts of revenge and serious resentment. Their nature is a conundrum -- repressing their feelings makes them too powerful to contain. Over time, they??ll learn that letting them out is the only way to tame the beast within.

They're in a position to understand the full emotional spectrum of the human condition, and so would make excellent dramatists or criminal detectives. They??ll excel in any field where penetrating insights into psychological extremes is required. And the focused ambition of the Moon in Scorpio adds to their chances for success.

In work and romance, they??ll need many outlets for that reservoir of emotional intensity. It can take years to win the trust of the suspicious Scorpio Moon, and even then there may be a fortress of defenses. Surely it goes without saying that you don't want to betray them in any way.

When Scorpio inhabits the Moon, there's a powerful sexuality felt by others, as well as a strong need for this catharsis in their lives. Sometimes primal desires can eclipse all other emotional truths and lead them into dangerous situations. Those in a committed relationship have a chance to experience this deep sensuality in an atmosphere of trust.

Wow, he is deep!

TheLadySagittarius wow thank you, I am not to sure if i understand all that, but I def. appreciate what you did for me.

NP, keep us udated, ok?

I will! thank you guys for all your help and support!! =)

@ venusianbull i was there for him from the beginning through thick and thin. I did everything i could to help him. But he didnt want me to come up there because he said it was "easier" if didnt. believe me i would have been up there the moment that he told me. i did everything i could from here, through his negative to his sweetest comments.

Thank you for the clarification...but believe me when I say this. His mouth was saying one thing, his heart another. Yes, we are strong and shoulder everything like Atlas. Take care of our own, he was trying to spare you from himself in his time of need yet silently asking you to come to him.

"You did right, put your needs first.."


Really,with a Taurus...you get what you give.If you put us first,we put you first,and EVERYONE (meaning both of us)is first and getting their needs met.
You put yourself first....well I'll have to put myself first,because it's obviously not a relationship.it's two people together,but still not close.

Hey VB!!! Tag! your it!!!! hehehe