Is it a GUY thing, a TAURUS thing, or am I CRAZY?

Hi guys! Gosh it's been a while since I posted on here.

So quick update: my bull and I are doing great Love him like cookies. We moved in together and have a dog-baby that we love.

Now the issue: My bull is out of town working he's supposed to come home this weekend. Right before he left town both of my sisters (and their small kids - they have one each) broke up with their boyfriends and ended up on our sofas. Needless to say things are stressful right now as my sisters can be pretty needy and dramatic. So he called to check on me last night and I was really frustrated with the living situation. He tells me that he doesn't want to be around the loudness and drama so he'll come home when they leave. Now I'm bothered by this because I feel like we're partners you can't just bail when things are tough with my family. There have been some REAL issues with his family and I stayed right there with him and went through it without complaint and I feel like it's selfish for him not to do the same. So my question is, am I being unreasonable in feeling this way or is this a topic worth bringing up to him? I'm not blazing mad or anything just a little hurt by it and I really want/need him here with me during this tough time. Missing him all the time just makes the situation here all the more terrible.

I mean I get why he wants to stay away, hell I want to leave and just let them have the house but what about taking one for the team and being here to support me? 😢 too needy? am I asking too much?

Taurus maybe selfish..


Now that is abit of extensive knowledge that he wants you're family gone before he gets back. First I do argee. I like solidarity and quiet especially if I'm going through my own shit with family or work.

Second you have to set boundaries with your sisters and then you guys compromise and adapt the both of you. And work it out. That's kinda a tough one. Selfish or not it takes alittle persuasion to get us out of the stubborn side..so do what you do best and with finesse. And pretty sure you know. You've known him a long time.

Posted by neuroticvirgo
Hi guys! Gosh it's been a while since I posted on here.

So quick update: my bull and I are doing great Love him like cookies. We moved in together and have a dog-baby that we love.

Now the issue: My bull is out of town working he's supposed to come home this weekend. Right before he left town both of my sisters (and their small kids - they have one each) broke up with their boyfriends and ended up on our sofas. Needless to say things are stressful right now as my sisters can be pretty needy and dramatic. So he called to check on me last night and I was really frustrated with the living situation. He tells me that he doesn't want to be around the loudness and drama so he'll come home when they leave. Now I'm bothered by this because I feel like we're partners you can't just bail when things are tough with my family. There have been some REAL issues with his family and I stayed right there with him and went through it without complaint and I feel like it's selfish for him not to do the same. So my question is, am I being unreasonable in feeling this way or is this a topic worth bringing up to him? I'm not blazing mad or anything just a little hurt by it and I really want/need him here with me during this tough time. Missing him all the time just makes the situation here all the more terrible.

I mean I get why he wants to stay away, hell I want to leave and just let them have the house but what about taking one for the team and being here to support me? 😢 too needy? am I asking too much?

Well, you should probably ask other non-bulls if its a guy thing, but its definitely my thing. Virgos always "bring home strays" like my Scorp Dad would say. The home is our oasis....We want to come home and RELAX and not deal with drama. Sounds like a nightmare for a bull....

But, if it is really that important to you, and you can't manage it alone, just tell him exactly what you wrote here - that its hard for you, you need his support, etc. He probably doesn't see it from that perspective at all....Once he grasps that I'm sure he'll be fine.

And I understand being there for people. I babysit my neighbors' daughter all the time as they are going through a divorce and living separately with new jobs/schedules now (two Virgos actually). But I just think it sounds excessive. Both sisters with kids broke up with their boyfriends so they are going to come stay at your place at the same time? Just sounds strange. Were their boyfriends supporting them? Sounds like they are unstable/drama-prone in general. I would try to get a million miles away from relatives like that. I'm not good with other peoples' family. I'm good at helping my friends, who I know, who I've established boundaries with, boundaries that I agree are not about me enabling them or them using me. Virgos seem to have MUCH more fluid boundaries with people. It can be really annoying.

My Virgo mom would invite the CRAZIEST people over for holiday dinners. It was awkward. My Scorp Dad would snarl at them.

Oh a rude kids irk or ire me. Yeah that sounds odd too. Two sisters break up and now you have four extra heads to feed and keep entertained.

Actually- you, two sisters, two kids, and your bff. Four plus two= 6 people under one roof..I hope your sisters have jobs or you guys would do their supportive measures too..

Good luck. And work it out..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Oh a rude kids irk or ire me. Yeah that sounds odd too. Two sisters break up and now you have four extra heads to feed and keep entertained.

Do they have dogs too? It all smacks too much of Cousin Eddy from National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation.

Ok so it must be a taurus thing cause i swear he said some of the same things about boundaries and drama that you guys are saying verbatim. And i agree with him and you guys i just really want him here with me.

With my sisters the one sister i knew she was coming. She and her bf broke up about a month ago and she needed a place to stay until she found a new place. A week before she was set to show up my other sister calls me in tears and ends up here. I can't believe the odds either. TLS I agree as a virgo my boundaries with people i love are awful. I once let one of my exes chick friends live with me for 3 months cause she had no where else to go and he had no room for her. I just can't stand to see people suffer. He hates it cause he knows my family takes advantage so i get why he doesn't want to be around it. My sisters can be a bit much and their slack has always fallen onto me. I guess i feel somewhat guilty cause I'm technically doing better than them and i just want them to be ok. Its a bad habit im working on. We're moving away next yr to another state so hopefully them not having access to me will make them stand up on their own 2 feet without me.

I guess I'll just tell him he has to skype with me or something. I just miss him and this all wouldn't suck so much if he were here...

Funnily enough yes one has a dog too... that does not get along with our dog. I admit it's a hot mess.

Lol haha national lampoon haha . No doubt. Crazy..

Posted by neuroticvirgo
TLS I agree as a virgo my boundaries with people i love are awful. I

semi-random story time...My Virgo mom let this guy live with us bc he had no place to stay when I was in high school. He used to take her car out at night while we were sleeping and she found out and eventually asked him to leave. A year later she got a call from a detective asking questions about him and his stay with us. He was arrested for stabbing/murdering an 11 year old boy and his father, when they walked in on him stealing their TV.

I know another Virgo couple with a teenager who won't get a job and is severely addicted to drugs and tattooing his face (I am actually close friends with 3 Virgo m/Virgo f couples); I've never seen bigger enablers in all of my life. We actually had to have an intervention with *them* at one point to try to get them to stop enabling and the Virgo wife/mom, who is very religious, made an argument that God is an enabler.....lol.

So with your sisters...Yeah, this is definitely Cousin Eddy. They are moochers. I can't tolerate my own family moochers, let alone other peoples'. Its an unhealthy relationship, mostly for the people you are trying to help, and its probably not as visible or bothersome to you since you've dealt with it all your life, and you are part of the dynamic. But I bet it drives him insane.

WHOA! That is absolutely terrifying. What did your mom say? Oh poor you being raised by a Virgo as a Scorpio. Those 2 signs together can be TOUGH!
I never really thought about it but yea I guess I do take in a lot of strays. That's pretty dangerous now that I really think about it. I think as a virgo we just go off our intuition about the person and we're overwhelmed by this need to help.

Yes it does drive him insane. He just can't stand to see my family take advantage. I agree that I need to back off and let them live it's just hard when I can visibly see their sad needy faces 😢. I'll just be glad when we we move away. Outta sight outta mind...hopefully :-\