My taurus gone off to be with himself

My taurus gone off to be with himself

60 something year old male behaving like he's 12, you can do better. Also why exactly are you the one pouring your heart to him? Reserve that for face to face time, some maturity is needed on both sides.

You don't make a man feel better, he'll neglect you for doing that. Why? He's not a woman, he's not a wimp, he's not inept, he's not a baby nor a child, men take care of their own feelings, that's how men relate to the world, they fix things, they fix themselves but having a woman try to fix his feelings, sends the wrong message to him, it says to him he's a wimp and cant' take care of himself and need someone to help him, men balk at that kind of helping energy b/c as a man he's strong, masculine, capable and here you are "helping" "trying" "fixing". Now think about how a MAN will feel about you doing that? He'll compete with you because your energy is MASCULINE ENERGY, so his response is to either fight (use the silent treatment to punish you) or flight (run away from you, avoid you).

So next time, don't pour your heart out and don't try to fix his feelings, learn a bit of discernment about how your behavior can send the wrong message about you and inevitably end up making you look unattractive, someone a man should avoid. Plus it's all kinda got that "soap opera" vibe and men just don't have much to say about women behaving that way but they do think it's nutty drama filled behavior and yes he'll repel away from you to avoid that kind of soap opera type energy.

Don't ever try to make him feel better, instead just leave him to his own feelings, let him know you'll be there for him through it all, if he need/want to talk you're there, THAT'S ENOUGH. A man want a loyal woman and the way you show your loyalty is to be present and to let him know you have his back.

Don't contact him, the chasing him is the problem too. Just leave him alone, stop acting like he's your entire world, the desperation makes a man want to leave you. Do you understand? All the fixing and talking and chasing him to communicate IS TURNING HIM OFF b/c men see it like this, if it has to be talked to death, fixed and I have to be chased then IT'S NOT WORKING, all your behavior communicates the relationship is wrong and not working. Just be patient, he'll be back, have some trust and faith in your man that he'll return to you.

You've been around the block, you've been in enough relationships to know how to pace yourself, stop acting like this man is the reason you breathe and wake up in the morning b/c that kind of energy is pushing him away, you are suffocating him with your mothering energy.

Impotency and Incontinence can be an issue with men in their 60's but whatever the personal issue is/was. trying to fix it, talk about it, change it, sends the WRONG message to a man. He just figure you are saying something is wrong with him b/c that's what fixing does to a man be it fixing his feelings to make him feel better or fixing his problems to make him feel better, any fixing, changing, long dramatic talks feels emasculating, even if you're being 100% genuine it doesn't make a man feel safe nor feel masculine nor feel good around you when your fixing or changing anything about him.

I'm telling you this so you can be more AWARE of how your reactions to the problems in your relationship and/or to his problems with you can effect his ego, once the ego is deflated you are no longer of any use to him, first comes a break then comes the break up.

Thanks for the advice. I've actually had only 1 partner all my life, so feel out of my depth, inadequate and foolish. I hope it's not too late. I realise now how I reacted was inappropriate rather than wrong and may have sent the wrong message. How can I put this right? x

I appreciate everyones response but I felt the need to hide my posts where details may reveal identities. Given my mature age, I can't get over how much I have to learn. I've led a sheltered life I think.

I appreciate everyones response but I felt the need to hide my posts where details may reveal identities. Given my mature age, I can't get over how much I have to learn. I've led a sheltered life I think.

It's never too late to learn. Read! All that time you spend trying to fix things, you could be learning. A good simple book/ebook "Dating Without Drama" by Paige Parker, simple read for beginners, gives you basics, I'd be happy to send it to you if you email me your email address. Also another good simple inexpensive book is by Sherry Argov "Why Men Love Bitches" don't let the title of the book fool you, the book is basically teaching women how to understand how men react and why they react to our behavior.

I'm not sure how involved you are with him but I hope you've gotten a full commitment before putting so much of yourself into him, don't throw your pearls in front of swine, if he's not treating you well then move on, don't show up for a relationship that you aren't benefiting from but if he's good to you then all you have to do is learn how to slow down, be patient, relax and get a life and not make him your life, can't fix him, accept him exactly as he is and if how he isn't about making you happy then yeah you should keep looking and not settle.