How do you other Taurus's move on from break ups?

Umm yeah got dumped 10 months down the line, she was a cancer is overly emotional and confused how she feels keeps hanging on to me constantly and changes the reason we broke up loads, says suddenly I treat her badly although she constantly wants cuddles etc and it's just driven me insane, I tried to be friends as she wanted but it's not a true relationship when both ends still have feelings yet she doesn't want to get back.

So what do other taurus's do? I can't take my mind off her, I get down on myself alot and cry a fair bit we attend the same college same friends etc so at first we just acted like a couple but im fed up after she said I apparently 'treated her badly' yes I have a little jealousy and possessiveness but only told her my concerns, never really argued. Just annoyed me she said that and my patients went I think cutting ties with her is for the best, how have other people coped in similiar situations what would you advice?

I become hedonistic.

Forgot the advice:


Leave. Do you. Seriously DO YOU. In every relationship I enter, I've calculated that the risk involved is heartbreak or loss of identity. Now then, entering a relationship is measured by a very narrow margin of whether or not this dude is worth it. I normally soften the blow the heart well before it happens. I don't get sad. I get angry and use the anger as fuel for production. I become extremely productive and hone my craft/body/life style and expand my activity/money/experiences.

The fall to hedonistic behavior is usually at the start. I use activity/thrills to mask pain. After, I probably will have one great flood of tears for one day. Then anger settles and the rest is history. After I analyze the lessons from the relationship and change things that I find should be changed.

seeing red: Ive done that, I'm using anger to control which is good and bad. I have been patient so very patient for the past month to make what SHE wants work, but a bull can only take so much teasing until I snap.
bullgem: Yeah I get that closure would help, but being with a cancer you never get a straight or true answer considering how darn closed up they are all the time so those questions wouldn't work, we could of tried again it was a good relationship but she's young minded, emotionally immature in alot of peoples point of view to handle a relationship again for a while it's a shame really, I do really love her but I suppose I must let her go :/

Takes me a long time to get over such things. As GemBull wrote, try to keep yourself occupied with things, work, sports, etc. I found that lots of alcohol helps over the real rough times. LOL. I know that time, alot of it, does make the pain go away.

Just wanted to add that long, long walks helped. Unfortunately, most of my breaksup occured in winter. Perfect timing. LOL.

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seeing red: Ive done that, I'm using anger to control which is good and bad. I have been patient so very patient for the past month to make what SHE wants work, but a bull can only take so much teasing until I snap.

Use 'anger' for production. I use 'anger' abstractly to convey that bit push/adrenaline one needs to get moving. Don't use it for control,use understanding and forgiveness of yourself to gain back control. It's far more effective that way.

Your dedication is legendary. She says you treated her bad; but that does not give her the right to behave the way she's been with you. Respect yourself more and let go. It's just another one of those challenges in life that you gotta pull through and learn from. When I'm down, I let myself know that these things will pass. I'm pretty sure, if you allow it, this will pass for you too.

I say this because I believe most people, continue to feel pain, because they hold on to it.

I disappear. Hell I freakin' moved to another state.lol My heart was in tatters. I just wanted to start over.
I think you should keep your distance from her. That Cancer is insincere, selfish and most importantly, CONFUSED.
Not the greatest combination of traits to have.

Seeingred: Yeah it sounds it, before I was trying to be reserved and calm about it but I guess I can't act like everything is fine forever I knew there would be a time anger would strike as you said I just need to use it effectively instead of it taking control of me, yeah I know she is a tricky one I tried to remain friends but in the long run it's damaging us both I suppose on different levels.
I just have to accept it as it is and try and focus on college work instead of dwelling which I tend to do constantly. Ithink too much haha

Minata: I realise this now, if I did break up with her I would of cut it off clean instead of trying over and over to be friends because it doesn't work when both parties still have feelings. hmm I dunno, I think she likes the affection she isn't interested in a relationship for a long time (few years down the line) or so she keeps saying, say maybe for comfort? yep I was healing just fine NC for a while she came crawling back now my world is upside down again :/
Im not interested in getting with someone I don't truly care about anyway so no rebounds for me and thank you 🙂

Lol thinking is good, but stressful. =P Anyway, keep your chin up and best of luck to you.

I'm not too happy my double Taurus (sun/moon). So it's pretty hard for me to move on from a break-up.

I work out. Mope about it. Internalize then talk it out with friends... (several times over for months end Gem Mercury?). Keep myself occupied, but my mind is ALWAYS stuck on it. To truly move on, just find new candy (maybe the Gem Venus in me?) and learn from the last experience. Realize all the emotions and how I react to hopefully one day avoid it or get over it quicker.

"we could of tried again it was a good relationship but she's young minded, emotionally immature in a lot of peoples point of view to handle a relationship again for a while it's a shame really, I do really love her but I suppose I must let her go :/"

I think that you have your answer right there. I have always used anger in the past to get over things...I dont really get my feelings hurt when someone does something to me that is wrong I have always gotten angry and then I can move on. I was in a relationship with a Cap (mentioned it on your other post) for a bit and I feel fast and hard. In the end I broke up with him but it doesnt mean that I still didnt love or care for him (and still do very much). With this guy even though he did things wrong the anger never came it was only hurt. 😢 You can imagine how this throw me for a loop...it made me rethink how i have always coped with things. I have now come to the conclusion that it is ok to love someone but if they are not good for you and are unwilling to change things and treat you with the same respect and love that you give them it is ok to move one. Just because you love and care for someone does not mean that they are the best person for you to be with...and personally I want the one who is going to be the best match for me. I mean why do you want to stay in something if you know it is going to be more of the same and you are going to be riding an emotional roller coaster? It reminds me of that saying —Insanity (stupidity) is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Also like a few of the others said I stop all communication otherwise it is like ripping the scab of over and over and all that happens is your heart continues to bleed. I also try and find the things that I did wrong in the relationship so that I can work on myself and not have a repeat of the past.

I know that it has been a week since you posted this so I hope you are feeling a little better know! Hugs to you!!

sugerbear - thankyou for the advice! I do feel a little better I have created boundaries and my cancer ex is beginning to break and crack from the surface usually she wouldn't show her feelings, now she's starting to.
I very much like that saying and I understand what you mean - I guess we both have different views me and my ex I didn't find the relationship difficult at all I mean yeah a few up's and down's but ive experienced awful girls in my past surprisingly one of them being virgo which I thought would be one of the best so I guess I don't see the the supposed 'awful' things what happened in our relationship that bad, were as my ex this is her first relationship so she has no comparison.

I just have to figure out were time takes me I suppose and if it's meant to be it will happen I suppose I'm just done chasing after her - I gave it my all in my opinion, cried day in and out when needs be and gone out my way for her but she needs to witness what a break up really is a loss and she hasn't had that since we have acted like a couple even after our break up. I'm starting tomorrow with my no contact or so little since having the same friends im bound to see her so Il just be civil.

Man Ive dated 3 cancer women (I keep attracting them for some reason). RUN!!!