Need Advice on Taurus man!!

I had first met Rob in July, everything was going smooth. he would always ask to hangout, make future plans etc. after about a month he started getting wierd&pushing me away, ignoring my txts lying about where he was telling me he was busy even if he was home doing nothing. he told me his feelings were so strong&thats how he reacted, so i gave him another chance. Now this is September 11, went to his house had dinner watched a movie. The next day i only heard from him once, i asked him if he wanted to go grab dinner or go see a movie and he said he was washing his car and getting lunch didnt hear anything the day after.so i finally wanted to move on..he would start showing up at bars i was at hitting on girls to piss me off etc. so i confronted him & he said he would love to be in a relationship but im aggressive & he hasnt had a gf in 7 years, infact im the first girl hes even gotten " close" too. so i gave him another chance..we were suppose to go to eat that monday, he blew me off no phone call no text.That was the last straw for me. I did not talk to him the whole month of december & when he text me i ignored. i was happy finally getting over him.so about last week he txt me asking me if i was seeing anyone i said yes. he asked me not to go on a date because he spent the weekend with his friend getting married to someone for the rest of his life..someone that makes him happy and im the only person he sees in his life like that. so of course i went to dinner with him. he would say wierd things for ex: i invited him out to a happy hour and he said no. i asked why he said he doesnt go out during the week and would need atleast a week to adjust to that..wierd. he also said he told his family he sees himself alone, unless SOMEONE comes along & changes that..meaning me or unless a woman can promise him a boy is when he;ll be having kids ( im 22 hes 27)i said well thats all i needed to know. he said meaning you ash. when i would say cute things like " im so happy i got to see you" he would just blank stare at me..or i said can you not go to work and stay here and cuddle? he said i hate work..nice responses. also i told him all he needs to do is text me goodmorning and goodnight to make me happy and he didnt and he was working 9pm to 6am so i said if he cant even do that to make me happy, he doesnt care.. hes also a marine? am i stupid for wanting this to work? am i crazy? or is he just wierd i cant figure him out noone can..and i mean that.

Thank you ..you've told me nothing i havent heard from my family and friends but it was nice hearing it from someone other than them. i know he is just plain wierd!!! you made me laugh. but youre right its time to walk..thank you

Oh Girl... You look sweet. How could he ever ignore a girl like you? Must be blind.

Aw thank you. that was just me cutting the story short! he's actually told me we cant hangout on certain days because its " laundry day" i didnt know that took up 10 hours of someones day!! and quite frankly the only thing wrong he said about me is i like to " fight" and a fight to him is me asking why i was blown off or why my text was ignored.ive done just about everything in the book for it to work you think i was the man lol !! call me crazy, but in 3 years when all his friends are married with little ones running around and not darting down to the bar sitting home wont be as pleasant and i cant wait for that day!!

To be a good relationship there has to be some middle ground, some mutual respect. I'm not saying that both parties will agree on everything, or both parties will reach the same destinations at the same time every time. I'm not saying that there's going to be perfect balance and equality all the time every time either.. But to be a healthy relationship, it's something that need's to be there. And in this case.. It would seem pretty clear that it isn't at all..

I don't understand the need to repetitively throw yourself under the bus like this for the guy. What is her doing for you? All I see is just offering excuses as to why he's not putting anything into you, and you repetitively falling for them, then subsequently throwing yourself under the bus again..

To be honest, I don't know why this is even a question in your mind whether to keep trying with him. But, I guess, not everyone realizes at the end of the day. If you want someone to respect you, you've got to respect yourself first... Meh.... *Shrugs*

Posted by TaurGuy

To be a good relationship there has to be some middle ground, some mutual respect. I'm not saying that both parties will agree on everything, or both parties will reach the same destinations at the same time every time. I'm not saying that there's going to be perfect balance and equality all the time every time either.. But to be a healthy relationship, it's something that need's to be there. And in this case.. It would seem pretty clear that it isn't at all..

I don't understand the need to repetitively throw yourself under the bus like this for the guy. What is her doing for you? All I see is just offering excuses as to why he's not putting anything into you, and you repetitively falling for them, then subsequently throwing yourself under the bus again..

To be honest, I don't know why this is even a question in your mind whether to keep trying with him. But, I guess, not everyone realizes at the end of the day. If you want someone to respect you, you've got to respect yourself first... Meh.... *Shrugs*

i know what a healthy relationship is and i know how i should be treated. He does not like conversations about feelings and thats where i have become frustrated. He's literally left me home to cry on days we were suppose to hangout., id even offer to make dinner, and not even get a response to how thoughtful that was. the second id say something that he thought was a "fight" or a question as to why i was blown off he'd ignore me for days and make me practically beg! But as soon as he was ready to come back around i gave him no problem cause i dont like to play games. i 100% agree with you . There is no mutual respect, he is full of excuses and i think i let myself think that he doesnt know how to act because he hasnt had a girlfriend in 7 years. At the end of the day ( youre right) i can only blame myself for allowing him to continue to walk all over me, but its only in hope that he has changed...i was just trying to figure out where i went wrong but maybe it really is just him.

Well, girl asking why you ignored my texts is kinda cute.. lol Taurus in general want to be needed. You just did the right thing.. perhaps it's something to do with his character? What sighn are you by the way Joaquin?

And the "little ones running around.. cant wait for that day" sentence really made me melt. LOL 🙂

Posted by c0mrade
And the "little ones running around.. cant wait for that day" sentence really made me melt. LOL 🙂

hahah i am a scorpio!!

Holy wall of text! 0.0

One thing did stick out for me..

When a woman can promise him a boy is when he'll have kids?

...has anyone explained how the birds and the bees work to this guy?
And scientifically, the SPERM dictates the sex of the fetus.. so not having a boy would be HIS "fault" lol

Whoa good luck with this one
this is like Dejavu' your story do you know your taurus chart

I attempted to date a taurus about 3years ago and he did the same thing would get close then beg up, would make plans and not follow through and then out the blue he would text me. It took a while to get him outta my system because the connection and sexual attraction was so strong but I finally just left him alone (well after I got pregnant, long story I hope you don't make that same mistake because you are too young). We played the back and forth game for about 2years honestly and I just couldn't anymore he wasn't mature enough and very selfish, he was also stuck in his ways and very controlling but then again those are just plain ole taurus trait I guess. He is a good father to our child but our relationship couldn't work and I think just now he gets the hint that I have move on.

The other day I drop off my daughter to him, and he text me something that said something about my backside, I know he wanted me to say something and take his advances further but I just ignore it.

Jersey Shore 😄 😄

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Posted by c0mrade
And the "little ones running around.. cant wait for that day" sentence really made me melt. LOL 🙂

hahah i am a scorpio!!

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OMG!!!!!! I have a few scorp friends.. and I don't really understand that 'magnetic' attraction. We just go very well together. Don't you worry, just be yourself. He will come running! 😉

Posted by Nefer
Holy wall of text! 0.0

One thing did stick out for me..

When a woman can promise him a boy is when he'll have kids?

...has anyone explained how the birds and the bees work to this guy?
And scientifically, the SPERM dictates the sex of the fetus.. so not having a boy would be HIS "fault" lol

hahah i guess his mom never had the talk with him!!

Posted by scorpdiva
Whoa good luck with this one
this is like Dejavu' your story do you know your taurus chart

I attempted to date a taurus about 3years ago and he did the same thing would get close then beg up, would make plans and not follow through and then out the blue he would text me. It took a while to get him outta my system because the connection and sexual attraction was so strong but I finally just left him alone (well after I got pregnant, long story I hope you don't make that same mistake because you are too young). We played the back and forth game for about 2years honestly and I just couldn't anymore he wasn't mature enough and very selfish, he was also stuck in his ways and very controlling but then again those are just plain ole taurus trait I guess. He is a good father to our child but our relationship couldn't work and I think just now he gets the hint that I have move on.

The other day I drop off my daughter to him, and he text me something that said something about my backside, I know he wanted me to say something and take his advances further but I just ignore it.

YESS!! everytime he tells me it wont work , im too difficult, im this im that i try and try to get him to realize how good he has it ( i think he likes me begging) and when i finally realize im stupid and stop begging .i get that one text that messes my head up again. He sounds just like your taurus, very selfish always about himself and very immature! I really hope i dont play this game for 2 years.. its been hell for almost 6 months. Everyone is making me feel like im not crazy, it feels good.. thank you

Let him go,he will come back when he finds out he can't have anything better...but I'm sure u will be gone by then.

Posted by taurismo
Let him go,he will come back when he finds out he can't have anything better...but I'm sure u will be gone by then.

He's playing with your head and heart, telling you things he knows you'll be affected by.

Actions, not words, are what count here. He's all talk, talk, talk. Words are cheap.

I think he just enjoys knowing that there's someone he can affect. Does it matter who? Probably not, it's all about the ego boost for him.

Do yourself a huge favour and tell him to fuck off. Once you have you'll see him run at you full force, but don't be fooled, it's bollocks. If a guy is into you in a healthy way he'll not put washing his undies above spending time with his woman. He'll make sure he treats her with kindness, respect, and maturity. And he'll sure as shit won't blow off plans with no word.

You're not stupid - you're a woman who wants, believes, and enjoys what a relationship should be about - there's nothing wrong with that at all - but you aren't getting it from this guy. It's perfectly normal to want to be treated with respect, to hang out with someone who's meant to be into you, to enjoy a good morning text and a good night text - these are normal things that a relationship has...when it works. You go after what you want, and do it with pride - but dump this guy 'cos you're worth more than his shit.

Good luck 🙂

Posted by NZAqua
He's playing with your head and heart, telling you things he knows you'll be affected by.

Actions, not words, are what count here. He's all talk, talk, talk. Words are cheap.

I think he just enjoys knowing that there's someone he can affect. Does it matter who? Probably not, it's all about the ego boost for him.

Do yourself a huge favour and tell him to fuck off. Once you have you'll see him run at you full force, but don't be fooled, it's bollocks. If a guy is into you in a healthy way he'll not put washing his undies above spending time with his woman. He'll make sure he treats her with kindness, respect, and maturity. And he'll sure as shit won't blow off plans with no word.

You're not stupid - you're a woman who wants, believes, and enjoys what a relationship should be about - there's nothing wrong with that at all - but you aren't getting it from this guy. It's perfectly normal to want to be treated with respect, to hang out with someone who's meant to be into you, to enjoy a good morning text and a good night text - these are normal things that a relationship has...when it works. You go after what you want, and do it with pride - but dump this guy 'cos you're worth more than his shit.

Good luck 🙂

Youre absolutely right. thank you for your insight!!

Posted by Let*It*Be
"Jersey Shore"


yea..no kidding! lol

heyyyy i cant help i live here lol

Posted by taurismo
Let him go,he will come back when he finds out he can't have anything better...but I'm sure u will be gone by then.

hahah..exactly what happened with a taurus I was seeing. By the time he wanted me back, I was serious with someone else and he was kicking himself on the way out the door..

My advice..stand your ground and stand up for yourself! You tell him what YOU want and need and if he can't pony up its time to set sails.. He's doing what hes doing with you because u allow it. I learned that the hard way myself.

Posted by taurismo
Let him go,he will come back when he finds out he can't have anything better...but I'm sure u will be gone by then.

hahah..exactly what happened with a taurus I was seeing. By the time he wanted me back, I was serious with someone else and he was kicking himself on the way out the door..

My advice..stand your ground and stand up for yourself! You tell him what YOU want and need and if he can't pony up its time to set sails.. He's doing what hes doing with you because u allow it. I learned that the hard way myself.

Do you enjoy being an indispensible mark, in order for him to fulfill some kind validation that he's able to push attention/affection with pure selfish will? It sure has that eerily familiar tone of "reject the rejectors" mentality and if that's the case, stay far away. My guess, he still has some karmic lessons to learn in order to move past his own issues with alienation/esteem and having unhealthy views of the female figures in his life, past adolescence, present. Why even bother with this toxic push/pull, move on to someone more deserving, I even implore you to attract a more steady, stoic bull, one that's moved on from the passive aggressive bullbutter.

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This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You??ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who??ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man??s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.\
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he??ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.
All men are not dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you??re always readily available to him

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies.
You??ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.
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REALLY...what is this attraction that Taurus has? Everywhere I read, it is that someone is strangely, hopelessly attracted to a Taurus Male or Female. Why is it so difficult to resist and leave them alone? Just curious.

Posted by MzDiana
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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Word, and while people may not have liked that book, "He's Just Not That In to You," this whole thing was basically the premise of that book.

Posted by MzDiana
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By: Salma Rumman
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

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That's not just men, that's men and women. For me, I don't let ANYBODY know everything, because I've seen it time and time again to come back and bite people in the ass. It sucks, because you have friends, lovers and want to tell them stuff, but tread lightly, because I've seen friendships and relationships break up, and ALL of the others personal business (VD, mental health issues, financial information, etc) was fair game and bandied about to any and everybody who would listen.