Scorpio female/Taurus male

Started seeing my Taurus male about a month and a half ago. After our first date, I was kinda indifferent...can take him or leave him.

But then I saw him a second and a third time, and each time I saw more and more things to like about him. He contacted me daily, spent a lot of time with me, being very affectionate, both in private and public. We have great conversations and genuinely enjoy each other's company.

Then a couple of weeks ago he pulled back, said he doesn't want to get too attached...am a little confused, thought maybe he was giving me the brushoff but the last time I saw him everything felt the same ... are there other scorp/taurus combos experiencing the same thing?? would love to hear from you 🙂

i guess i should add that even though he says he wants to keep it casual, doesn't feel like it's casual when we're together.

it's definitely a risk, girl, but the question is -- is it a risk that you're willing to take??

i'm a taurus girl who's in a relationship with a scorpio guy (for over a year now), and we're really starting to understand each other. but a part of that is that our moons are compatible (this is pretty important), although we still have more than our share of personal melt-downs.

but yeah, just read some of my other posts on this pairing for more info.

they should help you, even in the least bit.

just know what you're dealing with, and things should go fine, scorp5pt0.

😄

I'm with a scorp and we love each other like crazy. There has been stress & ups & downs but if you can focus on the reason you are together & communicate properly it's amazing. 🙂 Good luck!

thanks, Venus Vixen and Taurus Goddess! i really appreciate your input - you've both given me some hope!!!

Venus, I will def. look up your previous posts to gather more info. my dob is Oct 27/1970 and his is Apr 23/1976 (hooray for younger men!! : $ ) i think my moon is in libra and his in aquarius, i looked it up somewhere. not sure about compatibility of those two signs....

Libra with Aquarius
Compatibility Score - 9/10

Your two moon signs are 120 degrees apart in a Trine angle. There will usually be a great understandingand respect between the two of you in this relationship. It is highly likely that you will both have similar desires and motivations.

You may share considerable understanding and opinion, along with respect for each other. Your Moon signs indicate that you are well matched. Libra is typically a Moon sign of friendship, charm and tact, and elegance, while an Aquarius Moon is one of flair, originality and humanitarian sincerity. Together you each may find long-term success in this relationship.

Thanks, TG !!!

altho my Taurus guy has been away for a biz trip for a week and a half now, with no communication. obviously i know where this is headed.... 😢

you might be right, and you might be right while missing a little sidenote. tauruses need their space sometimes -- it's pretty important to them. but it doesn't mean that they don't care, it's just how they work. but no matter what the case is, he's probably got you in his mind constantly. we're so loyal that if we're *actually* commited to you, we'd take you everywhere with us -- you're just forever stuck in our hearts if you "successfully" made your way there. awWwWwWww.

lol but yeah, just remember some caution in the coupling. a lot of confusion is often in the air, but *knowing* about that can do a lot of good. i'm tellin' ya, if you know what you're dealing with, things would be at least easier to deal with (although it won't ever be something subtle).

and trust me, there's volcanic activity under a taurus's skin, as well -- we're just REALLY bad at expressing it........

My scorp panics when we don't talk for a few days, and the funny thing is I freak out too! I find we're more alike than we think.

"but no matter what the case is, he's probably got you in his mind constantly."

Venus, reading those words put a smile on my face 🙂

weird you say that i'm probably on his mind coz i do get that feeling ... like an instinct or something. still feel connected somehow.

BUT

my realistic side wars with my instincts, and each day that passes that side gets stronger and tells me "hell no, you're the last thing on his mind, that's why he's not contacting you!"

funny thing is that i didn't expect him to contact me while he was away, but was hoping 🙂 an IM once or twice during this past week would've made me happy, am not talking about everyday contact. i mean, he's in Canada, not on vacation somewhere.

from the realistic side of things ... i should be drawing the conclusion that the no contact, coupled with him saying "i don't want to get too attached" should scream at me to get out, you're going to get hurt.

yet am hoping he is just taking this time & space to figure things out.

ya i know, we've only been together a short while. but it has been intense, we spent a lot of our spare time together (most of which he initiated, btw), made me feel like i was special to him and can't help it - i went and got emotionally involved already.




"we're so loyal that if we're *actually* commited to you, we'd take you everywhere with us -- you're just forever stuck in our hearts if you "successfully" made your way there."

i guess this is the crucial part...figuring out if we "actually", "successfully" make a real connection. i read somewhere that Taurus takes a long time to figure this out, so am curious as to your thoughts on how long it took you guys to decide / figure out things with your scorpio guys.....

scorp5pt0

You are not a lone I am with a Taurus Guy and I am almost ready to give it up for more reasons than just him being stubborn, mean and moody. I have been knowing my T Guy for almost 2 years and this year we just started dating.

Maybe with a little help from TG and Venus, we can understand these guys a little better.

"ya i know, we've only been together a short while. but it has been intense, we spent a lot of our spare time together (most of which he initiated, btw), made me feel like i was special to him and can't help it - i went and got emotionally involved already"


I think I am emotionally involved also but I am fighting it like hell, I can not let him see me have another emotional breakdown he has seen be break down emotionally twice already, one was on me and the other he provoked, then got sensitive when he saw that I was going through it.



Scorp5pt0

"we're so loyal that if we're *actually* commited to you, we'd take you everywhere with us -- you're just forever stuck in our hearts if you "successfully" made your way there."

Are you talking about Scorpios here? If so I so agree.

"we spent a lot of our spare time together "

Talk about an addictive connection. My scorp would text me that he's addicted & craving me. I smile and feel the same, it's so weird. I've never been this way in other relationships, and the last 30 days before he moved we spent EVERY weekend, weekday evening & nights together. I usually love my space but being next to him felt like the exact place I needed to be.

Seems like scorps desire things & demand it, & your fire breaks down the taurus "emotional control" we have & brings us to feel things that we have hidden deep inside. It is always there, our fire, we just keep it hidden & our true happiness comes when we release it.

Why would I change that or avoid it, I couldn't even if I wanted to. 🙂 SURRENDER!! hehe

So GreatBull what is the story on Taurus, since you are one. Give some pointer, some ups and downs about you types of guys. What does or will it take, to bring out the passion that you have so deep inside of you?

It is kinda funny that you would say that, my T Guy is kinda moody when I just touch him he wants to know why and what for, it's just affection, damn go figure, but when I do touch him he thinks I am trying to get him horney and I was'nt just being touchy feely that's all.

I told him I am not coming to see him strickly for sex but I enjoy the conversations, the debates that we have and the laughter that we share together.

He needs to chill relax and enjoy the damn ride.

I will be confronting him when I see him again.

"it can leave you wondering "is that all we have in common?""

That's how I kinda was with my bf. We had such magnetic attraction, but I held out for action from him & it allowed us to respect each other and as time went on we found many more things that we have in common or better yet, just love about each other.

You don't have to have everything in common, but don't rush the electricity to fall hard, you gotta make sure you like a lot of things about them, and note things that you don't want either.

Re: moodiness, cancer is the WORST, scorp 2nd, and I am moody cuz I'm a chick. lol 😉

TG you are funny,

How you doing young lady?

As you can see from my post, that damn Taurus is a mother, but like I said I know he cares and so do I, I think it's time to lay some shit on the table. And I will do that the next time I see him, I can honestly say that I can probably deal with his moodiness and his stubborness and being mean, after giving it some thought, I realize that the problem comes when he acts those ways at the wrong moment and time.

You know like when I want to be affectionate he pushes me away and I don't like that, and another thing, if he don't start being more passionate this is not going to work anyway, I just can't be with someone that does not want to cuddle, hug, hold each other, when we get in the bed he said he does not like to cuddle so he has this king size bed so that I can have my space and he has his...I was like so what if I want to roll over and hug you said I can't....I wonder if he means that

Hi Scorpiolady - thanks for commiserating 🙂

Like you, affection and physical contact is important to me =)

Lucky you, though, since you already know your Taurus guy cares about you!!! Wonder if the pushing away thing is just one of those knee-jerk guy reactions when they realize how close they are to getting emotionally involved/attached....food for thought?

As for moodiness in my Taurus guy - I have seen flashes of it. The couple of times that he has been moody he has not been affectionate. Usually he is very demontrative, always holdings hands when we walk, cuddling on the couch, etc. I just kinda ignored it...both times that he was moody we were walking and noticed he wasn't holding my hand. I just kept walking alongside him like it didn't bother me, and a short while later he grabbed my hand, put an arm around my waist and things went back to normal.

Seemed like as soon as he regained some personal space he was ready to go back to his usual self. Also noticed that the moodiness coincided w/ work distractions so made it easier for me not to take it personally...

as for cuddling in bed, he does do that...when i told him i really like that, he gave me the heads up that sometimes he may not feel like it. am glad he told me that, so at least i know not to take that personally either, as long as it doesn't happen a lot



Hi GreatBull (great username, btw...am new to these boards and had a giggle when I saw your name) - it's nice to be able to tap into the mind of a Taurus guy, so thanks for replying....I have a question for you: how long does it take you to decide whether or not you want to be with someone? a few dates, a few months??

Hey TG - wow, what you guys have sounds great...that's what i want 🙂 can totally relate to your "addiction"

update....*finally* an IM tonight...

we just chatted, caught up...after awhile he asked if i had some 'action news'... don't know if that's his way of asking if i've been seeing other guys, which i haven't been.

i just changed the subject coz wasn't sure which answer would be better, LOL. either he might get scared off if he knew i wasn't seeing anyone else (seeing as he wants to keep things 'casual')...or he would get turned off if i had been seeing other guys (which i have a feeling would be the case).

ugh. i tell ya.

bright side - he said he was coming back next week. am looking forward to it 🙂

oh really, how awesome! im also a scorpio and i was born just a day before you, i was in a relashionship with a taurus and it was actually my first love 🙂 these two signs are supposed to be really compatible, soo i hope your taurus male makes up his mind and everything goes well for the both of you! =]

thanks for the kind thoughts, SS

actually, he's been back in town since wed and no call so i guess this is his way of saying the whole thing is dead

daymn men anyway...why can't they just close things out gracefully instead of driving us crazy with non-communication......

this is how it should go:
him: hey, sorry you're great, but this is not for me.
her: thanks for being honest. it was great to spend time w/ you, hope you find what you're looking for.

simple, done, psychotic episode avoided....that wasn't so bad, was it—??

hahaha nope but men r stupid like that. so simple yet 2 complicatd... but sorry hun it didnt work out. grievin 4 u... nuthing worse than that waitin/disappointed/sinkn feeln.. hope ur gud!! head up woman!! hahaha keep strong

thanks, Misty 🙂

actually he did finally contact me last sunday....my tongue almost bled, had to bite it so hard not to say WTF——? totally played it cool, oh, you're back, that's nice...he's like, it's been a month since i last saw you - he knew the exact date - and he said he's been thinking about me lately so i softened a bit, we saw each other that same night :p

ya i know what you're thinking coz i thought it too, but heck, i wanted to see him so figured i would just enjoy it and know that i have him just for the moment

he's gone for the whole month of aug anyway so no point in getting in too deep for me at this point.....all am gonna do is leave him w/ some nice memories, hehe

when he comes back, if we reconnect then we'll figure out if there's enough there to move forward with.....