Scorpio/Taurus Marriage on Egg Shells

Just found this website and forum. Maybe I can get some advice here. He's Taurus, April 30, divorced, USA born. We've been married for 10 months. I'm Scorpio, October 29, USA born. I'm one of the easygoing, gentle, empathetic, ultra feminine Scorps. I do, however, have many of the scarier traits of the typical Scorps.

At a recent festive function, he bumped into one of his old flames. In fact, she was the one just before he met and fell in love with me. I innocently caught her fondling his rear end. He didn't seem to be trying to get away from her before he realized I was standing nearby. The scary Scorpio immediately kicked in. I left the function ALONE, refusing to spend one more minute there with him/them. Of course he's saying it didn't mean anything, but for all my sweetness, I'm still Scorpio. My husband caught knoodling with his X, is no small thing, even though it was just a little groping. I would never allow another man to grope me; that would show disrespect for my husband. I would appreciate the same consideration.

I'm asking for advice because I feel too close to the issue. I'm just a little scared, confused, humiliated, and pissed off right now. Still, I have no intentions of breaking up my marriage because of this episode. I also have no intentions of paying him back in kind. What I want is to resolve the issue and get back to the loving relationship I THOUGHT we had.

BTW, he divorced his first wife because she cheated on him, and got pregnant with another man's child. It took him a while to trust me as a result of that betrayal. He has NEVER complained about me as a wife. As far as I know/knew, he was content to be with me. He never showed signs of NOT being content, and secure. However, home is a little like a nightmare right now.

Any advice, comment or suggestions out there on how to proceed or how to feel? Am I really over-reacting? Am I making more of it than I should be? Is Scorpio sensitivity and jealousy making things worse?

You're not overreacting. The fact he allowed the groping to happen is not cool.

Posted by OctoberScorpio
Just found this website and forum. Maybe I can get some advice here. He's Taurus, April 30, divorced, USA born. We've been married for 10 months. I'm Scorpio, October 29, USA born. I'm one of the easygoing, gentle, empathetic, ultra feminine Scorps. I do, however, have many of the scarier traits of the typical Scorps.

At a recent festive function, he bumped into one of his old flames. In fact, she was the one just before he met and fell in love with me. I innocently caught her fondling his rear end. He didn't seem to be trying to get away from her before he realized I was standing nearby. The scary Scorpio immediately kicked in. I left the function ALONE, refusing to spend one more minute there with him/them. Of course he's saying it didn't mean anything, but for all my sweetness, I'm still Scorpio. My husband caught knoodling with his X, is no small thing, even though it was just a little groping. I would never allow another man to grope me; that would show disrespect for my husband. I would appreciate the same consideration.

I'm asking for advice because I feel too close to the issue. I'm just a little scared, confused, humiliated, and pissed off right now. Still, I have no intentions of breaking up my marriage because of this episode. I also have no intentions of paying him back in kind. What I want is to resolve the issue and get back to the loving relationship I THOUGHT we had.

BTW, he divorced his first wife because she cheated on him, and got pregnant with another man's child. It took him a while to trust me as a result of that betrayal. He has NEVER complained about me as a wife. As far as I know/knew, he was content to be with me. He never showed signs of NOT being content, and secure. However, home is a little like a nightmare right now.

Any advice, comment or suggestions out there on how to proceed or how to feel? Am I really over-reacting? Am I making more of it than I should be? Is Scorpio sensitivity and jealousy making things worse?

I am reallu sorry to read this.

If he is grabbing some other girl on the butt, then this is really awful and inexcusable.

Call me archaic and rigid if you will, but married people should not intimately grab anyone other than the person they are married to.

How long did you guys date before getting married?

Oh gosh....You should've tackled them both. I would be furious. Taurus men can be really weak when it comes to putting inappropriate admirers in their place. We don't want to offend them, and can put their feelings above our SO's. Unacceptable though. There should be hell to pay.

I'm not so sure this has anything to do with your signs?

How did he react to you being angry? Did he blow you off or did he seem genuinely concerned? If you've never had issues like this before it may be as he said, but that's totally uncalled for from that chick _—. But I think you should be talking to HIM more and asking these questions. If he never gave you any reason to be insecure before, make sure you tell him how you're feeling now because of that. How would he feel if it were the other way around?

I'm sorry you're in this position. My ex hub cheated on me twice, along w/a bunch of other dumb stunts and I had so many insecurities and felt so unstable bcuz of him. Then again he was like that from Day 1, I was just hoping it would change...25 years and 3 kids later, nothin!

Keep your chin up October...and be sure to go with your gut instinct when you do talk to him.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Taurus men can be really weak when it comes to putting inappropriate admirers in their place. We don't want to offend them, and can put their feelings above our SO's. Unacceptable though. There should be hell to pay.

+1

OP I get the sense that both you and your SO are passive, but you should've spoken up! Although my spidey senses are telling me you're putting him through the infamous Scorpio freeze to punish him. I'm sure he gets it by now. So perhaps now you can try TALKING so you can RESOLVE it. You're both stubborn signs, but I'm telling you he won't make the first move, even though he was wrong. YOU need to reopen the lines of communication and tell him how he made you feel. You're not going to get him to beg for your forgiveness and reassure you of his loyalty by freezing him out. He will just turn stubborn and mirror you.

I HATE Taurus and Scorpio pairing (they just don't know how to make each other feel safe) but *sigh* since you're already married 😛...
I'd advise you to instead of expressing your hurt through displays of anger, try expressing it through displays of hurt. I'm sure it'll activate his protective instincts and he'll respond better. If you can't fathom how to act hurt without acting angry, then try channeling a pisces or a cancer. The key is showing vulnerability. But if you want to do the typical Scorpio thing and fight to win instead of progress, then keep doing what you're doing.

Taurus' do not want to make their SO jealous if that deeply committed already.

It was a straight up a rotten male act

Lets not jump to conclusions. What the Scorpio saw, may be what her paranoia saw, not what actually happened. First of all: THE EX was touching his butt. Not the other way around. We don't know what the Taurus said and did in response to this and neither does she because she left. Taurus are slow to react, and men don't know how to deal with these situations.


My advice for you is to be STRAIGHTFORWARD and confront him about it. Tell him what you told us, without accusing him of anything. Just say you felt disrespected. What happened? What is he going to do about it. And think it over, maybe this chick is a NON issue. I get where you are coming from. I'm very territorial and would be so pissed, but try not to take it out on your man because creating a wedge between you and him, will only be advantageous to this chick...who is the one who is really in the wrong here. Try to stay clear and address only facts with him.

RoseTheTaurus: I'd advise you to instead of expressing your hurt through displays of anger, try expressing it through displays of hurt. I'm sure it'll activate his protective instincts and he'll respond better.

>>>Best advice when dealing with bulls IMO. I think I've said this exact thing on this forum. Genuine vulnerability works best with me. Anger/walls/distance/etc. just trigger the same in me.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
RoseTheTaurus: I'd advise you to instead of expressing your hurt through displays of anger, try expressing it through displays of hurt. I'm sure it'll activate his protective instincts and he'll respond better.

>>>Best advice when dealing with bulls IMO. I think I've said this exact thing on this forum. Genuine vulnerability works best with me. Anger/walls/distance/etc. just trigger the same in me.

I second this. Or just straightforward communication stripped of 'vibes' or emotion creates a great response as well.

anonymousheart: I second this. Or just straightforward communication stripped of 'vibes' or emotion creates a great response as well.

>>>Definitely. I appreciate genuine emotion, but would rather have *truth*. That goes especially for apologies. Like if my SO tolerated an ass-grab, I would rather her tell me she just has this side to her that really feels desperate for all kinds of affection from men, than just give me a pleading/crying apology and make up some obvious fake reason for why she tolerated it. I can deal with the fact that people have a dark side as I'm all too familiar with my own. Its easier to forgive, and it opens up a channel for me to share more of my own, and just have a relationship that's more real.

I've been in a committed relationship with a phenomenal scorpio/scorpio moon male for almost 4 years. He and I both tend to have a jealousy streak normally but with each other, it's actually kind of flattering when someone hits on him... Not so flattering to him but he gets to be all manly macho which drives me insane hott for him for some reason... Now someone else GROPING one of us would be a mistake, and I'd guess knowing us, a broken limb for that person lol
we only work together out of sheer trust... He always has told me, "I trust you... It's everyone else I don't trust..." if you trust your husband, talk your emotions out with him... My scorpio and I are huge about communicating our feelings even if our natural response may not be super pleasant... Unspoken words between a scorpio and Taurus leads to resentment and with two fixed signs... Ouch... I know from 4 years of actually working on a relationship with someone who is opposite from me in most ways and can be so frustrating I want to chop him in the throat lol jk! Whatever the problem is you need to talk to him... Speculation, projection, and worry won't solve this... And my scorpio is a notorious worry wort... True depth of feeling, and willingness to communicate and move forward would be good places to start...
Rough times will most likely come up, but it's how you make it through together and benefit from it in the end that makes that love eternal...

-heather

Lol my scorpio's offering this advice, I'm paraphrasing of course...

When he's overwhelmed and disturbed emotionally enough to talk about his feelings, it helps for him to write down what he wants to say before entering such a serious conversation. He even likes to write it out in different ways. He says it helps him to cool the steam a little while getting the point across clearly that he's trying to make.

We both wish yall the best...

-heather