AbbyNormal

Posted by Marai
Swimming may help and is good for the baby.
Maybe the movie Juno, could be helpful for all of them to change perspective?
How far along is she?

I'm not sure but I think 6 months? That's a good suggestion thank you!!

Posted by 7s

Posted by AbbyNormal

Posted by 7s
So she can't have the abortion for medical reasons or because of her mom?

I'm not sure which came 1st, the chicken or the egg lol. But really, her mother says she won't allow it, and I guess the doctor said she is too far along by the time she went to the doctor? It's confusing but we know for sure baby girl is coming, grandma wants to keep her, mom doesn't (yet). We keep hoping she will grow a bond, but she's fighting it... or at least her stress is. She's already worried about post partum bc she doesn't want to have a baby right now.

if she wants an abortion and can get one, she should.

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That ship has sailed or I am inclined to think the same. Now it's about what's best for her, and her baby whether she is with her or not. I just want to try to bring as much positivity to it now. There's no going back, but there's everything in front of her and I hope she sees that her life isn't over.

Posted by 7s
So she can't have the abortion for medical reasons or because of her mom?

I'm not sure which came 1st, the chicken or the egg lol. But really, her mother says she won't allow it, and I guess the doctor said she is too far along by the time she went to the doctor? It's confusing but we know for sure baby girl is coming, grandma wants to keep her, mom doesn't (yet). We keep hoping she will grow a bond, but she's fighting it... or at least her stress is. She's already worried about post partum bc she doesn't want to have a baby right now.

Posted by MissKrabs
well since she is def gonna have a baby i would try to be positive about the whole thing, i mean you to be positive. it's not the end of the world and everything could be fine at the end. know several cases of young pregnancies that turned out to be just fine, but with the support of a parent which she has. right now they are still in shock, but it will pass.
if you are thinking about books about raising kids, most of them are bs. or you are thinking about something else?

Of course I am being supportive of their decisions. Her mother and I have both pointed out the very good aspects of her life, especially in relation to my own story which is very different. And that's one thing we both stressed to her is how lucky she is to have such a good support system. I congratulated her when she found out it was a girl, but she only said she heard girls are harder. I feel for her but I want to try to cheer her up!! This is what's happening, and it's not all bad and it's certainly not forever type of thing.


Just looking for general suggestions on good reads that can help her along emotionally or spiritually, something she can hold on to. Maybe I'm not explaining myself correctly... Her mother seems to steamroll her emotions a bit, so suggestions for opening both of their perspectives would be optimal.