Taurus Boyfriend giving me silent treatment. Help

A little bit of background - I'm a Leo and have been in a relationship with a Taurus for 6 months. We have already had a fiery/bully arguments which is normal for the Leo and Taurus combo. We have always managed to talk through our arguments and come to mutual agreement. We pretty much agree on everything,and can normally get past "slights" Which is why I'm having a hard time trying to figure out due to a "slight" on my part my Taurus has decided to give me the silent treatment. We have had all out arguments and have always worked it out. So my confusion is that I called him out on a bad joke. All I said to him was "That was a bad joke" He got angry and would not talk to me, and he finally said he did not feel like conversing and that he would call me the next day. This is day #2 and he still will not respond to my Voice Mails, or Texts. I even msg him on FB, and it is clear he got the msg, but no reply. In the messages I just let him know that I know he is upset with me right now, but I can't go a day without telling him that I love him and that I would like to talk. I think I'm messing up by contacting him. Should I just leave it alone for a few more days? Wait on him to contact me? I'm trying to be patient, but it's hard for me not to have communication with him.

I don't think you did wrong by contacting him. I like getting those messages when I'm in thinking mode. They should help him see past his hurt ego and see that he is over reacting to a minor thing. He will come back soon and act like nothing happened. Did you degrade his joke in front of others? Keep the little texts and calls going to him and if you haven't already an apology is always good. We like that shit. 🙂

I live with three taurus people, he is gonna be slow to react and take his time. So allow him to, he can be torn up about it, they eat during times like these with comfort food. Give him some space and allow him to make amends. Don't prod him, he can get angry.

Posted by Taurusgirl3
I don't think you did wrong by contacting him. I like getting those messages when I'm in thinking mode. They should help him see past his hurt ego and see that he is over reacting to a minor thing. He will come back soon and act like nothing happened. Did you degrade his joke in front of others? Keep the little texts and calls going to him and if you haven't already an apology is always good. We like that shit. 🙂

No, I always laugh at his jokes... He's hilarious! He was teasing me about something that he knows is a sore subject for me, and I said that is a bad joke. Well he took offence apparently.

Posted by scorchedearth
stop texting him. if you've already apologized that's enough. you don't want to come across as needy or pathetic. which you will if you keep bothering him. when a taurus needs to take some alone time the last thing you want to do is poke at them. he needs time and space to get over what happened. if you keep bothering him you're going to push him away.

Yes, I think you're right. But then again you're a Taurus you would know best.

Thing is this is the first time in 6 months that we have not communicated at all. We have been talking daily. We can talk for hours on the phone as well.

Thank you all for your advice and input.

Posted by scorchedearth
i know as a leo him taking away all the attention he gave you is hard. you want it back. you feel lost without him contacting you. it's understandable. there's no judgment from me from wanting him to continue on like he was.

i might have been a little harsh in my last message but i don't want to see you lose him because you pushed too hard. if you give him time he will almost certainly come back once he's done being upset. he just needs some time to get over his butthurt. 😛

it'll be hard but talk to a close friend about how it bothers you. or post on here and we can all talk with you and help you pass the time. DO NOT lay that baggage on him. that will be the easiest way to spook him. if he feels like you don't respect his need for space he could very easily drop you. and none of us want to see that happen.

No, no. thank you Scorchedearth for taking time to explain something that I'm having trouble understanding. I appreciate that. And you're right once again, the attention thingy was/is nice. Sometimes I think it is a double-edged sword for a Leo though. :p No really, I miss "him" his laugh, his voice, his words, stories..etc.. I just miss him that's all. I can't help but wonder if maybe this is a "lesson" he is trying to teach me..lol :p

WendyDarling,

Taurus man broke up with me and threw me out in his apartment...during 3 mos of relationship.

He told me in the harsh way the No contact thing, Don't comeback his apartment.

I kept quiet and just listened and take it all to my head.

I didn't bother myself contacting him. I was the cause of break up... lol. I did it for purpose.

until He didn't hear anything from me 4 days... he emailed me and text me... I left his ass hang up.

I replied but not emotionally attached other than laying all the cards what I want.

wow. 6 months relationship. that's good.

Now... do not contact him. Avoid drama at all cost.

It works...

My Taurus man and I lived together when we got back together..

Hope you are not clingy as other women..

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Posted by Taurusgirl3
I don't think you did wrong by contacting him. I like getting those messages when I'm in thinking mode. They should help him see past his hurt ego and see that he is over reacting to a minor thing. He will come back soon and act like nothing happened. Did you degrade his joke in front of others? Keep the little texts and calls going to him and if you haven't already an apology is always good. We like that shit. 🙂

No, I always laugh at his jokes... He's hilarious! He was teasing me about something that he knows is a sore subject for me, and I said that is a bad joke. Well he took offence apparently.

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So he hurt you with a comment and you communicated this to him and HE took offence? I'd leave him to his silence and let him watch the tumbleweed go by when he tries to come back. Can't believe you apologised and are still doing so and trying to get in touch with him. Did he apologise to you? Where's the pride gone?

I also vote for team: Leave him alone.
I'm also a Leo lady dating a Taurus.
We have never had 2 days off, and he's never ignored me, but then again, I never gave him the chance to.
If he was in the wrong, and you've already made your feelings known, pull back. When he comes forward, and he will (be a confident kitty!) just be receptive and honest. Try to communicated logically not emotionally. If you let him come to you, it will actually strengthen the relationship. Think about your love, do you feel it's strong? Most likely yes if it's been six months. So relax. Just know the Taurus is probably busy thinking slow as molasses and very likely he is blaming himself. You're a Leo! Go out and be the shining star while he gets it together. Best of luck!

P.S.

While a Leo is thinking: ITS BEEN TWO WHOLE DAYS OF SILENCE..
A Taurus is thinking: It's only been 2 days. I need more time.
They operate on an opposite time schedule. You are seeking an action (Leo/fire sign/action) Whereas he is not this way. Let him be him and you will be grateful in the end.

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Posted by WendyDarling

No, I always laugh at his jokes... He's hilarious! He was teasing me about something that he knows is a sore subject for me, and I said that is a bad joke. Well he took offence apparently.

Was the joke exchanged in private? If so, I don't understand why he would take offense to you calling him out, especially since he KNOWS it's a sore subject for you. Just makes him seem kind of petty and hypocritical. Maybe if you had said, "That was a mean joke" instead, he wouldn't have taken it so personally.

Either way, I agree with the opinion that you should just leave him alone at this point. You've already done more than enough to show him you're sorry. He probably just needs some time to cool off.

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Yes, the joke was exchanged in private. I agree with you about not understanding why he took such an offence to this, but maybe it's something else? I really can't say at this point until we can talk about it. Going on Day 3 no word from him, and I have not contacted him today and I'm not planning to. Seems the majority here feels that I should let him have his space.

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Posted by Taurusgirl3
I don't think you did wrong by contacting him. I like getting those messages when I'm in thinking mode. They should help him see past his hurt ego and see that he is over reacting to a minor thing. He will come back soon and act like nothing happened. Did you degrade his joke in front of others? Keep the little texts and calls going to him and if you haven't already an apology is always good. We like that shit. 🙂

No, I always laugh at his jokes... He's hilarious! He was teasing me about something that he knows is a sore subject for me, and I said that is a bad joke. Well he took offence apparently.

So he hurt you with a comment and you communicated this to him and HE took offence? I'd leave him to his silence and let him watch the tumbleweed go by when he tries to come back. Can't believe you apologised and are still doing so and trying to get in touch with him. Did he apologise to you? Where's the pride gone?

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Yes, that about sums it up. I really think I embarrassed him by calling him out on it. This is DAy 3 and I'm not contacting him. This is ridiculous really.

Posted by anonymousheart
I also vote for team: Leave him alone.
I'm also a Leo lady dating a Taurus.
We have never had 2 days off, and he's never ignored me, but then again, I never gave him the chance to.
If he was in the wrong, and you've already made your feelings known, pull back. When he comes forward, and he will (be a confident kitty!) just be receptive and honest. Try to communicated logically not emotionally. If you let him come to you, it will actually strengthen the relationship. Think about your love, do you feel it's strong? Most likely yes if it's been six months. So relax. Just know the Taurus is probably busy thinking slow as molasses and very likely he is blaming himself. You're a Leo! Go out and be the shining star while he gets it together. Best of luck!

I think I'm dealing with an extra sensitive Taurus here and I'm pretty sensitive as well due to my moon in cancer I suppose. When you said you never give your Taurus the chance to have any days off, If you don't mind can you explain that? Thank you for your input.

I think him being a taurus he needs to be dragged out of his silence. Sometimes we need a push or we'll just sit there with our thoughts creating our own drama and blowing the situation up in our heads even more. Leo's are just the type to push us out of that. They want attention and action now. If you want him to talk to you. Demand it. My Leo ex was great at that. I never withdrew from him because he wouldn't allow it. I loved that he blew up my phone whenever I was mad. I felt so loved and needed. We had some big dramatic fights because if it but he loved that.

It honestly sounds like something more is going on. It really seems odd for him to disappear for 3 days over your comment. What else happened around that same time? Did he instantly go cold after you said the comment? Have you guys been having any other problems recently? Jealousy issues? Is he making any big changes in his life right now? Does he have family trouble? Or money trouble? Any of those could cause him to turn inward as well.

@Taurusgirl3

"Did he instantly go cold after you said the comment?"

Yes, He instantly shut down on me and after about a min of cold silence, I said "Hello" then he said it seems we are having a silent contest. Then he said he would call me the next day and he doesn't feel like conversing at the moment. I said ok then, I hope you have a good night and I hung up. I could tell by his tone he was pissed off so I didn't wan't to push anything. I really don't understand the level of his anger and reaction to such a small slight. He recently started a new job he is in his 2nd week. He is not getting much sleep. He works at his other job in the mornings and then goes to his new 2nd job and works from 3-11pm It seems like most people here agree that I should not contact him. Let him come to me. You seem to be the only one advising that I should contact him. You don't even know how tempting that is or maybe you do!! lol But I don't wan't to blow it with him. Usually after we have a disagreement we make up within hours...not days or weeks. I don't know if I can deal with this. It's tearing me up inside.

@ Taurus girl .. Interesting... I thought we need space when we dissapear.. Me personally... I hate it when people or guys blow up my phones or nag me when I'm not ready.....

I'm very curious to know what this joke was about! Lol

It sounds like his new job, long days, and lack of sleep is probably playing a part in his over reaction.

Yeah I'd just be honest with him. Let him know you're worried and you guys haven't ever went this long without talking and that you miss him and would like to hear from him. Guilt works really well.

@SunTau
It makes me smile to know they care that I've disappeared and that they are worried about losing me. If I disappear because of something with work or money I don't always respond right away but ill at least send a text saying that I'm okay and just need some downtime so they know its not them. But if they have done something wrong and hurt me I really want them to blow up my phone and shower me with apologizes, compliments, or gifts. They better be sorry and fight for me. If they don't do anything then it just shows me they aren't willing to work for the relationship. If they don't care why should I and there really isn't a point being in it. I want passion and love and they need to show me that.

I agree, definitely give him space. I don't think he has a reason to be mad but with Taurus, constant trying doesn't get you anywhere. When he comes back (they never really leave) find out why he was so mad. If is in fact about your comment, then I'd bring that up after. Ignoring people isn't very cute though, no matter the reason.

Hate to be a contrarian, but when I'm hurt with my sensitive arse, *sometimes* I need someone to kinda come and reel me back in. Sometimes we bulls are so sensitive over REALLY stupid shite, and we're so proud and cannot admit it, we need someone to kinda come across that bridge to us. If I'm hurt over something so trivial, that I won't even allow myself to talk about it, physical affection can really draw me back in, and I forget the issue.

@ Taurus girl. I see your point. I guess when I am mad at you then yes I do expect that person to work for it.... (virgo ex) is / was great at it.....but if I dissapear because of other reasons then not much can bring me back untill I'm ready. 🙂 different scenarios I suppose... But in the ops circumstances.... She has apologized enough... Maybe it's time she slows down n give him the space 🙂 thoughts?

Taurus are very sensitive people... a quick apology will help regardless how bad your jokes was.

I just give my Taurus man a good fight. lol.

and They forgive just quickly when they are in love.

If you can't have him back with your intelligence tricks at least baffle him with your B.S.

That is when you can stand yourself without him. For now, I saw how you bother for that silent

treatment he give...Idk what to say anymore.

Posted by WendyDarling
@Taurusgirl3

"Did he instantly go cold after you said the comment?"

It seems like most people here agree that I should not contact him. Let him come to me. You seem to be the only one advising that I should contact him.

You HAVE contacted him. Personally I think you contacted him in the wrong way, with messages of love and apologies instead of with a "hold on a fucking minute, this is what you have done and I will not tolerate you acting like you have been wronged, now make it better" attitude.

My Taurus "attempted" the silence when we first met, only once though - He was told in no uncertain terms that it is not acceptable and would not be tolerated with a full explanation of why and what the outcome would be if he ever "attempted" it again - he hasn't.

Going silent and into yourself after an argument or disagreement for a short time is fine, absolutely, and everybody needs their space to let emotions calm down and to reflect. But to continue it is not. Taurus men do definitely need to be dragged out of it, but you have to be very very strong about it and make it clear that any more silence will be met with serious consequences, leave the sweet nothings until the argument is settled, if you start of with the I Love You's and I'm sorry's they will continue to be stubborn and act like they are wronged, the are the toddlers of the zodiac 🙂 You have to be firm!

I'm a Leo with a Cancer Moon too btw 🙂

Posted by SunTauVenGem
@ Taurus girl. I see your point. I guess when I am mad at you then yes I do expect that person to work for it.... (virgo ex) is / was great at it.....but if I dissapear because of other reasons then not much can bring me back untill I'm ready. 🙂 different scenarios I suppose... But in the ops circumstances.... She has apologized enough... Maybe it's time she slows down n give him the space 🙂 thoughts?

That's what I don't understand, she apologised because he upset her? I think this is just re-inforcing his feeling sorry for himself attitude.

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Posted by anonymousheart
I also vote for team: Leave him alone.
I'm also a Leo lady dating a Taurus.
We have never had 2 days off, and he's never ignored me, but then again, I never gave him the chance to.
If he was in the wrong, and you've already made your feelings known, pull back. When he comes forward, and he will (be a confident kitty!) just be receptive and honest. Try to communicated logically not emotionally. If you let him come to you, it will actually strengthen the relationship. Think about your love, do you feel it's strong? Most likely yes if it's been six months. So relax. Just know the Taurus is probably busy thinking slow as molasses and very likely he is blaming himself. You're a Leo! Go out and be the shining star while he gets it together. Best of luck!

I think I'm dealing with an extra sensitive Taurus here and I'm pretty sensitive as well due to my moon in cancer I suppose. When you said you never give your Taurus the chance to have any days off, If you don't mind can you explain that? Thank you for your input.

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When he pulls back so do I. Then I put my energy into other things. I have never chased after him, and from day one I showed that. So he always comes back sooner. He doesn't need to test me cause he knows I won't come running after him. I think it also helps him relax in knowing he can take the time he needs and I won't bother him or get mad, just do other things. We have a silent understanding.

I have read everyone's replies. Thank you so much!!! you guys/gals are Awesome! 🙂

@Celticlioness - Yeah I agree about being firm and I have been whenever I was sure that I was in the right. But this time around I was taken back by surprise by the level of his anger to something I feel was a "slight" not an all out declaration of war!! :p Another thing is my Taurus is extra sensitive. Both his grandmother and then later his mother committed suicide when he was a very young adult. He was very close to his mother. He has delt with a lot of very hard blows and has a lot of insecurities and trust issues. So, even though I feel he was wrong, I feel I would get better response and understanding by drawing the bee out with honey.

It's awesome to know there is another Leo with cancer moon here. Also, I'm Irish too! 😄

OK I have an update:

I actually did msg him this morning. Yeah I took a chance. I was thinking I am not going another day through knots in my stomach and stressing. I basically put it out there for him and reminded him that I would never go days without a word or response back to him. About an hour later he responds to a text msg I sent to him 3 days ago on FB! A one word response no less. lol So, now we are talking. I asked if I could call him tonight after work, and his response was "Are you going to hang up again?" So he was mad all this time because I hung up on him? I don't feel it was an actual "hang up" but maybe to him it was. And I was a little bit smartazz about it when I did hang up. So all this over me hanging up, when he didn't want to talk to me. His words - "I don't feel like conversing at this time." LOL omg! 😛 Anyways, I'm sure this won't be the last time we argue. 😉

Posted by WendyDarling
OK I have an update:

I actually did msg him this morning. Yeah I took a chance. I was thinking I am not going another day through knots in my stomach and stressing. I basically put it out there for him and reminded him that I would never go days without a word or response back to him. About an hour later he responds to a text msg I sent to him 3 days ago on FB! A one word response no less. lol So, now we are talking. I asked if I could call him tonight after work, and his response was "Are you going to hang up again?" So he was mad all this time because I hung up on him? I don't feel it was an actual "hang up" but maybe to him it was. And I was a little bit smartazz about it when I did hang up. So all this over me hanging up, when he didn't want to talk to me. His words - "I don't feel like conversing at this time." LOL omg! 😛 Anyways, I'm sure this won't be the last time we argue. 😉

Errr.............how old is he? Don't let him yank you around girl. His behavior is SILLY. On the flip side I would never hang up on my Taurus. If you say I'm sorry I won't do that again, I'm sure he will reciprocate. Let him know you need to talk about it bc the distance makes you feel confused. Adjustments need to be made on both sides.

^^Thank you. He's 35 years old, but I swear sometimes I'm dealing with a child. He has come back to his senses since I first posted this. I just need to be more careful of what I say and "how" I say it. He's been really sweet and attentive this week. You're right. Both of us need to make adjustments in how we communicate.

35!?!?! Good lord. Tell him to toughen up. I had to do that with mine when he overreacted to something once.