Taurus/Cancer friendship

Hello I'm a Cancer female one of my best friends is a Taurus, he's really amazing we were friends now for over 3 years. He was with me through all the tough times I've had and my rough breakup with a boyfriend. He hasn't been dating since the moment I remember being his friend because he's been badly hurt in his past relationships. He's been cheated on more than two times and just gave up on being in a relationship at the moment.
But last month he admitted to liking me as more than a friend because i make him laugh and his words, "You're different from all the girls here." But after coming out of the friendzone he just rejects himself, he said he doesnt want to lose me and that if he loved me he would lose me because we would fight a lot and i would get jealous and he hates that. So then i asked him what do you want to do (after admitting i had feelings for him as well) He said "lets take it easy and go with the flow until this phase passes." I asked him what will happen when the phase passes? and he said , "i'll give you a try." then we changed the subject. But all month he's been calling me and messaging me at least once a day. He even stayed up until 1 am with me even though he had to get up early for work the next morning. We talk daily and we flirt A LOT. Nothing's changed much we still goof off as friends but its more flirty.
Lately he's been mentioning things about girls, he tells me when a "hot girl" asks him out at work or gives him her number and how he rejects her because he's "not interested" and it kind of turns me off. Is he trying to make me jealous to see if i care and wont hurt him like the other girls in his life did or is he just like that? I'm going crazy trying to figure him out!
Please help, I read that Taurus males often like to have friends with benefits and I'm hoping he doesnt see me in that way cause I want a serious relationship not a fling.

The red flag went up for me when he explained why he didn't want to love you because you would "fight a lot and get jealous". It's all summed up right in front of your face toward the end of your post. He seems to be aware that he's notorious for making his girl feel insecure. Sure, we all know that our SO's are gonna be attracted to other people but most don't wanna hear about it! I'd say to take him for his word and put him back in the "friend zone". He's not ready for you yet.

I agree with Ninj, he seems more like a really good friend.
And a bit immature for a serious relationship right now.

I'm acting pretty cool about it but then lately he's been saying he's going to visit me and stay for the summer this year, he's studying in a different country at the moment :/ So i dont know how I will have to behave around him when he is here for the summer. Ah, the confusion!

Its funny that once he got you to expose your feelings he switched it up. Right now, its all looking like he's using you as an ego boost. Let me see how she feels about me...NOW let me see if Im capable of making her jealous.

Posted by CautiousCancer
He hasn't been dating since the moment I remember being his friend because he's been badly hurt in his past relationships. He's been cheated on more than two times and just gave up on being in a relationship at the moment.

He may not be looking for anything serious at the moment due to his negative past break-ups. Moving cautiously, and keeping his options open (not putting all his eggs in one basket). Typical Taurus behavior.
However, I'm a little concerned about you. Do not commit, or invest your emotions prematurely for this Bull. He's NOT ready.

Posted by CautiousCancer
Please help, I read that Taurus males often like to have friends with benefits and I'm hoping he doesnt see me in that way cause I want a serious relationship not a fling.

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I don't believe that his intentions are disingenuous. He told you verbatim why it wouldn't work. He wants to play the field, and you would be too jealous about that entire set up. Bulls crave loyalty and we're very particular about who we allow in our inner circle. He may not be ready for a relationship, but nonethless he's still fond of you and values your friendship. I doubt that he would jeopardize that.

Posted by lnana04
Its funny that once he got you to expose your feelings he switched it up. Right now, its all looking like he's using you as an ego boost. Let me see how she feels about me...NOW let me see if Im capable of making her jealous.

You think? I found it beyond strange too why would someone say they have feelings for you then say its better to stay friends but then say that they're might be a chance of dating along the way...Ugh I thought Taurus was supposed to be stable! >.

TaurusBull1977 thanks for the advice 🙂 I appreciate it I'm trying not to get hung up on him or have hope for a future with him too soon, but like I said even though he said he wants just friendship that doesn't stop him from flirting with me and sometimes treating me like a girlfriend. It's quite confusing.

Hi Pisces are best match for cancers like us..
Justin Beiber Chose Selena i think its because Selena is a cancer and Justin B is a pisces.. they understand us more than anybody else can...
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haha next time a guy asks me out i'll just be like Pisces or go home! xD