Taurus Man Advice :)

Hello! So I am looking for advice in general, though, advice from any Taurus folk would be most appreciated.

So I am Pisces, Leo Asc... Virgo moon, Aquarius Merc, Aries Venus and Capricorn Mars....

Man in question is Taurus, Leo Asc, Libra moon, Taurus Merc, Pisces Venus and Cancer Mars... Just shy of 14 years my senior.

I was with a work mom when I met him, mid January, at a sports bar. I was dating someone at the time and she's married, so we had nice, innocent conversation. During the course of the conversation he disclosed that he is getting divorced - which I looked up the court records and it states that it was filed on 01/04/2016. He and I would talk here and there on Facebook (only) and after I split from the guy I was seeing when we met, he and I have been talking a lot. I've only seen him twice (technically 3x but one time I was with the ex), neither times were dates - we haven't done anything sexual.

I have not asked questions about the divorce and the minimum he said was - she filed, it was a surprise and that fly fishing pretty much ended their marriage (he looovvveeessss fishing) oh and she's a Pisces too - He also made note that she had once cheated early in the relationship (but he forgave her) and he thinks she may have had something going on that prompted the divorce.

He's incredibly sweet, adorably awkward, very handsome, built (yum), easy to talk to, excellent job, loves dogs, compliments me... List goes on.

I realize that by talking to me, it's helping with his bruised ego - and that doesn't bother me. Nothing wrong with helping someone regain confidence in themselves. He's made numerous comments about whether or not he messages me too much. Which he doesn't 🙂 I love to talk so whenever he wants to chat is cool with me. 90% of the time he reaches out to me first... He hasn't asked me out but has made "hypothetical" comments about asking me out lol. I have no intentions on pushing the subject or pushing a romantic/sexual relationship. He's told me that he likes me - told me I was the coolest person he's met and it's not wonder guys flock to me. LOL - "coolest person he's met" you can tell he's been married for a long ass time 🙂

My question is: Is there any way to avoid being just a rebound or just used as a buffer that prevents him from moving on?? I refuse to be a mere oat in this scenario lol. I feel like the only way to maybe come out ahead is to play super duper hard to get vs the usual hard to get... But in the end will that even matter for a Taurus divorcing from a woman he's been with more than 18 years?? Meh, I walk myself right into these situations lol, but whatever - any advice is much appreciated 😄 I don't have any experience with Taurus men. Thanks!! xx

Sweetmarie,

I applaud you for doing your homework and checking those court records.

Gangsta!

If the vibe is there.
Roll with the chemistry.
Most Taurus men take a 100 years to commit anyway...LOL.
The waiting game is serious
I say enjoy the moment with him....and remind him that you're in no rush.

Therefore no rebound.
No premature expectations!

Good Luck!

Haha yea I always check the court records! It's allegedly going to be complete sometime May/June...

To the earlier response - I don't mean actual games. I am a nurturer, if I treated him how I naturally would - he would use me as a buffer and not deal with his bullshit.

He's not once pushed the situation, he is taking is time, he's noted that he takes his time - which gives me some piece of mind. I would assume if he was no good, he'd be rushing trying to sow his oats... But I could be wrong lol.

I find comfort in his situation - with what he's going through he's not going to be pressuring me for a relationship. Which I told him. I told him I want something to happen naturally, something we don't need to talk to death. I'm faithful even without talking about exclusivity anyway.

As difficult as it will be (frustrating haha), there will not be a sexual relationship for a long time - which makes me sad because he is soo good looking 😢 and sweet... and muscular. Le sigh. It's just be clothed cuddling for me. Lol...

It's definitely a suck-ass situation - On paper and from what I know of him thus far, he's damn near perfect (for me).

I really didn't have to read the 2nd paragraph, Pisces has a tendency to always be the mistress, no disrespect , but if that was me , then Iv got you,Pisces in general are not confrontational, the thing with taureans is security, it really doesn't matter what present relationship is going threw, if a tearean wants to cut their losses they will, out of respect for you , why should you take on this baggage,but here he getting to eat his (-14 year cake), and kiss this kids at bed time, you will always be the other half, looking after his kids, My advice run like hell, if thats you in the picture you should have no problem, finding a man.

@Op -Respect yourself and him till May or June then. Keep getting to know each other and make sure you fine with him having kids, this is fresh and most like no Taurus would be with someone in a monogamous relationship right after divorce especially. It takes a toll about being divorced as Taurus don't do divorce or only get married once. And since he has been married might not want to anymore. Or have kids.

So you have to compromise you alot. So just be there for him through tough times but you don't want to be a rebound then I'd step back for however it takes someone to grieve and move on. Taurus hate divorces and will try to make it work to the death unless it is cheating.

So I am saying become friends, it always starts as friends regardless... So you don't become rebound or harem friends with the Taurus who is going through extreme right now...Taurus are the one person to take divorce hard....


You being there for him is great, keep supporting and being there but don't communicate right now where do you think this is headed then it will be too much for him and may become cold..

She fancies him period, we don't need to read much into this, she has clearly made up her mind,it does,nt matter if he just came out of prison, so lets not skate around edges, tell it as it is , hes worn the tshirt , anything now it just fun & a breath of freah air, if you think you might be a rebound,ect ect , you will be constantly testing your/his actions. Im not saying the relationship won't work , their will compromises from the get go...

Yea I am definitely not a mistress - Not to the best of my knowledge at least. He's already moved out (with his dog). I get the feeling she's already found a rebound herself...

I don't consider children baggage. Unless they're nasty brats lol... He was married, children happen. Lol, getting out of prison and divorce/kids are not the same thing...

Also, I am an atypical Pisces (I would assume given some of my placements). I have a short fuse and I am overly rational in emotional situations. I also enjoy arguing lol - "debating". I am a typical Pisces in that I don't judge people face value, I take time to get to know them first.

@2putITmildly - Finding men is not the issue. I like genuine, nice guys (etc) who don't drink to excess, don't do drugs... brush their teeth - It's not a cake walk meeting a genuine man with a great personality, who's also good looking and takes care of his health. Not where I am from at least 😢

@brandy - I certainly don't care he's 14 years older 🙂 He's aged like a fine wine, that's for sure!

@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428 - Thank you for the advice! Much appreciated - That's what I plan on doing 🙂

Good luck..

"My question is: Is there any way to avoid being just a rebound or just used as a buffer that prevents him from moving on?? "

If he's not divorced then you are the rebound. You automatically become the rebound by default since he's still married.

You're taking a big risk by getting involved with a man that hasn't emotionally dealt with the death of a 18 year relationship. The odds that they'll overcome their issues and not go through with the divorce are high. Even after the divorce is signed and sealed he still has to deal with how to live his life as a single man which means you would be the rebound chick he's using to alleviate his anxiety and fear. No way around being his rebound.

He seems like a great guy. Do what you're doing now. Be friends with him, no sex, no intimacy until that divorce is finalized. Take your time.

I personally look at rebound as girlfriendy/sex/intimacy. Even if he aquires any sort of feels for me I'm hoping to salvage the situation by posting sex and relationshipy stuff. Lol... Who knows if he's even sown any oats yet. I surely do not ask!

She's a Pisces and I can attest that when I'm done with someone I'm done - So I am, of course, hoping they don't reconcile. But who knows... She's the one who filed, so fortunately there's no moral dilemma on my end.

I am making a magical cheesecake for a friend's birthday Friday and I am making extra. I invited him over for a piece or two. He has his kids this weekend so he's going to stop in Tuesday. Lol, now that we discussed it idk what to do. What, he comes over eats my cheesecake and leaves? Idk what else to do hahaha. Should I cook something too, offer a movie, a beer— Shit, I don't want him to get too comfortable and he forges grieving/healing! I'm walking a fine line and I am not used to it :-/

Posting = postponing *

There is emotional and mental intimacy which can form a strong bond between 2 people.

Have fun, be friends, be happy but keep your expectations low, very low.

He's not divorced (yet) so tread carefully.

HI OP I'm sorry to be off topic but your hair is so beautiful in your profile picture... did you do it yourself? What tool did you use?

Hey I'm a Taurus. I once had a rebound but it was with a loser who was barely attractive, he had nothing going for him and had no motivation so that's why I ditched him.

Imo, I don't see something like you in particular, youthful, seem smart, and very pretty, to be just a rebound. If the marriage is over, why wait to date again?
He's a grown man, it's not like he "needs to figure himself out" or anything, he obviously knows who he is and what he enjoys, hence fishing hobby.

I say continue to talk to him, suggest hanging out. Possibly ask if he's looking for anything in the near future, not like right now because he literally just got divorced but maybe sometime this year? Basically let him now you're an adult and you're not going to wait around forever.

And DEFINITELY if you want this Taurus to take you seriously, withhold from sex!

Good luck !!!! 🙂

Someone like you *

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Sweetmarie,

I applaud you for doing your homework and checking those court records.

Gangsta!

If the vibe is there.
Roll with the chemistry.
Most Taurus men take a 100 years to commit anyway...LOL.
The waiting game is serious
I say enjoy the moment with him....and remind him that you're in no rush.

Therefore no rebound.
No premature expectations!

Good Luck!

Exactly, roll with the chemistry. Honestly, you never know... the divorce may be recent but it sounds like their marriage died years ago *hence his suspicion of her cheating*

Did he seem emotionally damaged? Don't take our opinions too seriously, we don't know the guy, YOU, if you're that curious as to where he's at mentally and what he's potentially looking for, just ask him :-)

He doesn't seem damaged but I can tell he's hurting - emotionally, especially his ego. He actually told me last night that his wife is the only woman he's been with and we then talked a lot about that (like sex, meaning, etc). I have no reason to doubt his honesty - therefore, him off sowing his oats or having a harem isn't something I will have to worry about 🙂 I am not a patient person so waiting for him and taking things slow will definitely be a challenge lol.

@mysteriousTaurus - Thanks 😄 I use a regular curling iron and wrap my hair around the barrel (towards my face) Then comb it out once it's cooled 🙂 Yea, I have to agree any rebound I've had has been whomever was available to pass the time lol. Poor guy(s)... Definitely not anyone I would actually consider dating.

Lol, I'm Leo Asc - No body gets to touch the hair.

Posted by sweetmaree88
Lol, I'm Leo Asc - No body gets to touch the hair.

Hahahhah

It's true 🙂 Been like that since middle school haha. My sexy Taurus is also Leo Asc and he's not a fan of his hair being touched either lols.