Taurus Man has me a bit confused

I started dating this Taurus guy who was super sweet. On our first date we went for drinks and dessert at this local restaurant and i though we hit it off great. Our second date he came over to my place and we watch a sports game together. Our third date he came over and we watched a movie and we were intimate with each other. after that he came over a few more times and we hung out which was great. My birthday came around and he messaged me say he wanted to see me even though I was out with some friends so I left early and went home to meet him. He took me out for some drinks and a slice of cake and then we went back to my place. After that night I hesitated but sent him a message telling him I was missing him and then he message me back with " I'm have been a bit distant because I don't want to star anything serious and since we were intimate detaching become difficult after being intimate". I was hurt but could only message back "Ok. I understand" and then I just stopped messaging him. He started messaging me again after a few days asking me how I was and has been messaging me every few days or so. He used to message me a lot and now less.

After this was going on for a few weeks I had to ask him If he wasn't interested why he would message me still and he said "while I am not interested in starting something serious I still am attracted to you. He does try to come over for sex or anything he just messages me, so I feel good that he's not being an jerk and trying to sleep with me but still interested in having conversation with me. I never text him I let him initiate it but I always respond. He's working on getting his business up and running so I try to respect his space with that and I don't message him unless he messages me but I don't want him to think I'm not interested.

I really like him but I don't get him.... can anyone help me...

He does not try to come over for sex or anything he just messages me***

do you want a relationship?

eventually yes but I'm still getting to know him

well if you want a relationship and he doesn't, how do you plan on getting him into a relationship?

you're right.. im an idiot.. i guess i was asking for that

thanks. good advice. super straight forward.. just what I think I needed to hear even though its not what i wanted to hear

Posted by virgo29
you're right.. im an idiot.. i guess i was asking for that

no, not an idiot. i've done it before and i'm certain we're not the only ones.

i do think that he is lining you up to be a booty call. many women accept that because they think it will lead to something ie a relationship. what mostly happens is that end up being disappointed, angry and hurt when they realise they had been given the bum steer and they should have really listened when the other person said they didn't want a relationship.

thank you

Posted by jeane
well if you want a relationship and he doesn't, how do you plan on getting him into a relationship?

Boom... There it is!!

Lots of sound feedback here by three sound members. Nothing to add from me.

is there any way of getting him back you think at all?? He messages me everyday about some nonsense.