Taurus man in a relationship with older women.

Hi I am a Sag 34 (married n have a daughter who is 7yrs old) in a relationship with a Taurus man 23.
It all began last September. He was my trainee. I usually jeep in touch with my trainee after completing the batch. People like taking my suggestion and I mentor most of my trainees. This would have given you a picture of what I am to some extent.

Coming to my marriage, I have a very loving and sacrificing leo husband and a sweet little understanding daughter. I was very much content with my family and life.
I have an issue I am not open to physical relationship. I had a bad past. Can't explain much. My husband is aware of my past and is very understood me.
Now the real issue is. I met a guy last September he is a taurean 12 yrs younger than me. Now we generally chat n joke over WhatsApp nothing wrong very clean talk about wishes. He is a typical Taurean. He fell for me and expressed his feelings to me over calls n chat. He started by saying he would love to have a wife like me in his life and I said I would find someone like me for him.
He mentioned ththis thin again here and there in our little chats and talks. Then slowly started admiring everything I did. He visited our home spend time with my family we went out together to church and spend time with him as a family.
We as a family have some good relationshiprelationships like this with my trainees. This is common for me and my family. I looked at him and cared for him just like I do with others.
But suddenly he asked me what am I to him. I said I could be a fiend or a sister or even like a mother as a mentor to him. Because he use to share everything with me and ask me for guidance he treated like a mentor.
But he denied and said he cannot fix me in any of these and has deeper feelings for me. I was shocked and I thought he is just kidding. I told him firmly not to play around like this and I cut of from him. He is very close to his mother he had shared about me to his mother even before he expressed his feelings for me. She had asked him to stay away from. He shared this with me. I thought any Indian mother would system so.
Anyway days passed and he stared telling me again and again that he likes me alot and would want me to be with him forever. He proposed to me. He said I if I were not married he would lie to his parents about me aged and will somehow get married to me.
Sometimes he use call late in the night aand say Mary me.
Did he really love me.

We hardly sspeak in last few months. He nvr calls I hv to call all the time. Bt he spoke very intimately and caring word whenever he spoke.
How do I sort it. Pls help I am dying to fix this. Should I do something.

I don't want to be sleeping with him or going around. I crave for those nice talks about that bond we have in depending and trusting each other.

Perfect question Xoxo.. my marriage is not like the others. We are good companions and we don't hv things like kisses or hug n other thing. I didn't wanted to reveal so much abt my marriage. Because it may sound like I am justifying. It was a compromise as my husband lives me and he picked me from a very broken state of life. It was difficult fr me to be in physical love. And to plan a child was very challenging.

Yes I understand. Neither are me and the taurus try to make a life together. We have stopped meeting. And we nvr has or have any kind of sensual talk among us. We speak our activities in the day. And joke around our friends ... That's how we like it..... He appreciate it too...

Just that when he is upset he doesn't communicate at all for weeks together I can't wait for more than certain time and I text him back to back n it becomes bad. Then I don't know how to sort it.

Posted by Pixiee
Perfect question Xoxo.. my marriage is not like the others. We are good companions and we don't hv things like kisses or hug n other thing. I didn't wanted to reveal so much abt my marriage. Because it may sound like I am justifying. It was a compromise as my husband lives me and he picked me from a very broken state of life. It was difficult fr me to be in physical love. And to plan a child was very challenging.

Let me encourage you to see a therapist.

You seem to be dealing with issues of fear and shame brought about by trauma. You are compensating with the younger man because you don't think you're worthy of the Leo.

Go tell your husband what you've done, beg for forgiveness and invest a part of the good money you make in seeing someone who will help you to heal from your past experiences.

If the Leo knows you've been pursuing this man and is still with you, then he will stay with you and support you.

Unless you are really not married to the Leo. Or he's actually a Pisces and you have no idea.

A Leo man allowing his wife to sleep around. This is one I want to see.

Any taurean feels that we really hv some kind of bond. Can it work as a clean and good bond in long run.

Will you leave your husband if its a good and clean bond?

I missed to say something important. .. IIn his work place most of them know me and are connected to me. That is a big threat to him. Even his friend circle at work and his roommates are my trainees. That's how it started like he told me to call only when he is out. He use to call me in break timetimes and when he is out of home. This is an issue for him because cannot take me in with any of his circle. He close r not for us to be together and his office friends know me well. He says he wants to tell everyone abt me bt he can't as nobody would understand our bond.

I don't want to leave my husband as I am not making a life with him. Yes I hv tried to speak to my husband abt him getting married to someone else. He do want to our daughterdaughter's life is important to us. My husband says he is happy to be with me without any expectations and this has bn going on even before I met the taurus. May be for yrs now. Neither do I want to make my life with the taurus. I want him to have his life with a person of his afe which his family could approve

Hi Eagle I have done it quite a few times. Bt when I step down and stay away from him he tries his best to not let go of me. Or even when I am unwell or in any kind of issue he constantly calls and checks on me until I am fine.

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Posted by dontgetmewrong
Leave this one alone. He has an older woman crush on you. Which seems to be the thing now days.

+1

Been there, done that, more than once

Doesn't go anywhere....

If i could get a euro for every time a younger man wants to have sex with an older women, i would be very rich by now...hear about it a lot and when i go out i often get them coming up to me

Go away and play!

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I'd give a Euro for sex with a younger man Ž

Posted by Pixiee
Perfect question Xoxo.. my marriage is not like the others. We are good companions and we don't hv things like kisses or hug n other thing. I didn't wanted to reveal so much abt my marriage. Because it may sound like I am justifying. It was a compromise as my husband lives me and he picked me from a very broken state of life. It was difficult fr me to be in physical love. And to plan a child was very challenging.

smfh... another victim.

Hi this is not about sex. Neither of us want it. Bt he cares n loves the way I like. Can any taurus understand what my taurus man's feeling are??
He contacted me ththis afternoon. His text read like this " I love you bt just can't handle everything together."
And went on saying " I always feel we are born for each other, but quite late. And went on saying, " I love you irrespective of your age or looks or anything else. To me you look great and you are one hard to find girl for me."

He feels we understand each other and handel each other well. He has a past with a Scorpio girl which had lasted for 5yrs. It's bn 3 yrs he did not get into anything as he was hurting abt that.

Hi Magic Powas: I appreciate your response. I just want to understand. Why do you say I have rejected his love. I always felt I have loved him and expressed it to hin by giving importance to him.

This bitch...

Total attention whore.

Here you go, OP. You should wear this around as a warning to everyone around you.

Posted by Pixiee
[...] Did he really love me.

You must understand.

Posted by Pixiee
Hi Magic Powas: I appreciate your response. I just want to understand. Why do you say I have rejected his love. I always felt I have loved him and expressed it to hin by giving importance to him.

Posted by Pixiee
[...] But suddenly he asked me what am I to him. I said I could be a fiend or a sister or even like a mother as a mentor to him. Because he use to share everything with me and ask me for guidance he treated like a mentor.
But he denied and said he cannot fix me in any of these and has deeper feelings for me. I was shocked and I thought he is just kidding.[...]

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I just fantasized that I were in your position. Then I saw myself confronted with these questions:

1. when I'm married and someone other than my husband shows interest, am I obligued to give him time and attention? Or can I just say no. And keep distance to that someone?

2. if I was missing something in my love life and another man other than my husband came and showed me what I was missing, what should be my next action?

3. if I leave my man for another man will I be happy with him? Will I have more or less problems?

In these dxpnet forums we often tend to answer these questions in this way:

1. Say no.
2. The majority says stay with your man. A disappearing minority says try to come together with this man.
3. Life sucks anyway.

So:
1. we don't know if he loves you.
2. we don't know if he'll marry you.
3. we don't know if you both will become happy forever.
4. we don't know if you have more problems after divorce than now.
5. we don't know if you have even more problems if you had an affair with him.

On the other hand if you have difficulties to get physically involved with men, then you can let him be in love with you secretly until he is 80. No matter if he marries someone else or his love life is runied forever. (Men are like rats. Even if he stayed unmarried he'd f.ck 1000 girls. Remeber the book "love in the time of cholera"?) At the end of the day it is his choice if he wants to have an object for poetry and romantic fantasy or not.

Thanks to each one of your responses and it was very useful to know different perspectives. I hv blocked my taurus in every way possible so that he cannot reach me. I don't want to continue in the way it was sometime back.
However I shared the whole thing with an intention to know whether it is possible for a taurus to love someone like my taurus guys does and will he be hurt when I distance him. As per a taurus way of thinking.
All I want to know is if you are a taurus man do you think it is possible for you to fall for a lady older than u ?.
Next is if your intention is just a casual relationship then would you pra pose you her and talk to her abt marriage and ur family and future?

We both know we can't commit to each other however we always delt there is a deep bonding amongst us. That's the thing which keeps us mindmindful of each other.
So as a taurus do u think such bonding can happen in a taurus' life.
Again I am not trying to continue any romance just trying to understand where I stand..