Taurus men and mixed signals?!

So...

I started dating this Taurus guy and he is great! We basically met at work (he doesn't work in my department, but he shares the break room). I heard he thought I was cute and he found out my name somehow through other people. He began talking to me and saying my name, even though I didn't know his. So we finally went out on a date and we got along very well. He was super chill and sweet. I am a gemini by the way! (I heard Taurus + Gemini's are very incompatible). So..weeks go by we see each other and after a month we had sex. It was great! He loves to cuddle and was already asking questions about previous relationships (why things didn't work since I was with a guy for 4 years prior), how I can come and stay over anytime, my views on marriage, etc.. I was like whoa, but it's nice to know someone isn't playing around (so you'd think). I'm 25 and he is 31. Since we never set boundaries on "us" I figured we're just dating. I start seeing anyone guy who was nice, but I was not as interested in him. I made the mistake cause I wanted to be honest and asked if my taurus guy was dating anyone else and he said no... so then I had to tell him I was. He understood, but after that things pretty much fell apart. I told him I stopped seeing the other guy. He stopped texting as much, I didn't hear from him, he didn't initiate contact. We stopped having sex, but I felt I was usually the first to cuddle or touch him, but he would reciprocate. It's like he won't initiate. Now he suddenly doesn't have time to see me. We are both pretty busy, because I work full time and am in a masters program full time, but I make the time to see him.

Well, I wanted more and we discussed where we stood. I realized how different we are. He does not like change. He feels uncertain with me because he never knows when he will see me again (our busy schedules). I usually don't have to see someone a lot when I'm with them, but I think he does. I start to see our differences now. We finally compromise that since we know where we stand, we will try to see ea other more. He also said we should not see other ppl either. He tells me he likes me (and is not playing the field), but is so busy. So he does not think he can manage a relationship and pretty much gives up after talking about "trying". Its interesting because he has time to see friends, but does not seem to make the time to see me anymore. Well he pretty much said he doesn't want to lead me on and drag this out and make it worse.

. I of course got pretty upset. He told me he still wants to be friends and hope that this does not change anything. I just don't get it? He really did not even try and I confronted him about that. I feel like if someone really wants to see someone they will put in the effort and make the time. I heard tauruses take forever. He hasn't been living in town long, but moved here for work. He lives 2 hours from his hometown and visits frequently. He is also a musician, but does work a full time job also. He has a pretty big family too (I haven't met them, but heard lots about them) Anyways, he's told me hes not seeing anyone else cause hes?? not interested in anyone else, but sometimes I really wonder? It doesn't add up. Things kinda ended bad, well for me at least.
Any interpretation would be greatly appreciated! Do you think he is really sincere in what he says? Do you think he will contact me again or just tell me your thoughts or experiences on this??_.because I cannot read this man! ( I think I can, then later I'm confused again).

So were never in a relationship and he hasn't been in one for 3 1/2 years,, but he has had past relationships 6 of them.

I just felt as though I never really got to be with this man and I wish we actually gave it a chance..it never ignited before it died off.

Posted by alexisi
So...
Since we never set boundaries on "us" I figured we're just dating. I start seeing anyone guy who was nice, but I was not as interested in him.

Not trying to appear judgemental, although I DO appreciate your honesty, boundaries should have been set prior to you putting your big foot in your mouth.

Seeing another guy = Shagging another guy + Taurus

Not a pretty picture.

Posted by alexisi

He understood, but after that things pretty much fell apart. I told him I stopped seeing the other guy.

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He understood

Seeing Another guy = Shagging another guy + Taurus

Posted by alexisi
. I feel like if someone really wants to see someone they will put in the effort and make the time.

He's blowing you off.
Time is only invested when a Bull sees potential.

sigh* I know. 😢 For some reason I thought he was seeing other people too. This was all within a 4 month span, it took me awhile to get the courage to ask him where we stood. He never mentioned anything so I figured we were just dating.

yep, taurusbull1977 is right. It's done. I know it was a huge misunderstanding, but Taurus men do not share....anything. Even if nothing happened between you and the other guy, you broke his trust. He's gone.

update: So I haven't talked to this guy for a whole month. We were pretty busy this past month, but now that things calmed down. We're planning on getting together this week. Any ideas if he's still interested? I was the initiator though, I kind of asked him how he's been? He does seem excited to see me as far as his replies "When are you going to come over and take care of me and my back?" and things like "at least now I know you're interested in seeing me." (Maybe he was left confused?) I've told him I'm okay with being friends since that's where we left off and he is too. I'm not sure if what I said before reflected badly on me. Anyways, any advice on how to get this man back? I am still totally into him! I just don't want a friends with benefits thing. I know we are both pretty busy and I will be real busy in the summer (taking 4 classes + full time job), but we had talked about seeing each other when we can the last few times(when we can both make the time). I just don't think he wants a relationship right now, but did mention perhaps when I'm done with school. Mostly because he won't see me very often...I hope all goes well!