Taurus sun Scorpio moon

Oh god am I smitten.

I am a Scorpio sun and he is a Taurus sun. From the first time we spoke, it was like fireworks, burning brightly with the intensity of many suns. Immediately, we clicked on all topics discussed, and began what has now been a 10 day fiasco of overly emotional text messaging and a date that lasted 23 hours, and plans for the next this coming weekend. Here's my question and only qualms...

He never calls, only texts. When I lightheartedly approached my issue, he handled it oddly, stating something along the lines of "Well, whatever communication media we decide to use, as long as we keep each other in the loop, I'll be happy."

Not a phone call, like I thought he would respond with.

Another thing, while we do talk about your run-of-the-mill everyday type of things, most of our conversations always border around talking about our feelings and love... But not as much for each other as they are just general feelings.

This guy... The one who was incredibly romantic, the one who, rather hastily, said the L-word after knowing me 6 days and mentioned in the morning we'd make cute kids, the one who held my hand the whole way home and has made references to himself as a boyfriend and referenced us as "dating"...

What's going on? It's like intense intense intense, detach, intense, intense.

For the record, most of these intense conversations are began by me after feeling coerced by him to speak sweet nothings and pour my heart out. He tells me he loves how open and honest I am and he loves the trust and communication between us... But I feel like there's a barrier between us, and the paranoia in me sometimes suspects it's him not being genuine and "just saying what I want to hear". Maybe we are different in what we expect from one another? I just want consistency..

Btw my chart is Scorpio Sun, Aquarius Moon, Scorpio Merc, Scorpio Venus, Gemini Mars

His: Taurus Sun, Scorpio Moon, Aries Merc, Gemini Venus, Cancer Mars

Help me understand? I'm losing my mind over it because I've never felt so magnetically drawn to a person in my life.

Oh, my ascendant is Taurus, if that matters. Not sure about his.

Hi,

Scorp Sun and Venus female here. My boyfriend is Taurus Sun, Venus Gemini, and Aries Mercury too.

He's not a massive fan of talking on the phone much either but that is men in general so I wouldn't worry about that. Also, you're setting the 'expectation' with yourself that he should call so when he doesn't you feel disappointed. Try looking at what he does do or is doing rather than what he isn't doing or giving. You're in communication so all is good.

The Scorp/Taurus connection can be incredibly intense. Nobody knows if he's being genuine with his words except him. It's been no time at all so it's understandable you're cautious and skeptical about it all. I was too. I wondered if the things my Bull was saying were true etc and I questioned him once about it and he told me off for questioning him! Ha ha, it was quite amusing but he was a little insulted that I'd questioned him but from that point I said I'd trust in him and go with it and so far so good. He's never given me any reason to doubt him so I don't.

You can choose to continue being skeptical or allow yourself to go with it and see what happens. What's the worst that can happen? It turns out to be a load of bollocks, it hurts for a bit as you opened up but you move on.

To be fair, when I read your story I actually thought of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus and the five stages of dating. It's worth a read.

http://askmarsvenus.com/Article.php?id=63

I think you're both moving through the stages too quickly and you're obviously uncertain about him and perhaps he thinks he's more certain about you than you are of him.

That's actually not a bad place to be. I've been reading up on this (I have the book) and it talks about the attraction stage of dating different people until you maybe find one you like more than the others. Stage two is you continue dating that person further but you become uncertain if they're the right person for you etc. It sounds like you're in this stage and maybe this guy is ahead of you. This is a good place to be and perhaps it would be wise to slow down a lot. Clearly he likes you but it's going too fast. Maybe tell him you like him but you want to take it slow. Feeling uncertain is normal.

If it were the other way round and you were more certain and he was not then this is where women start pursuing men and it usually goes horribly wrong. This happens when a guy meets a girl and gets carried away and so does the girl as she thinks everything I'd great but then the guy pulls back as he is uncertain which then makes the girl uneasy as she's already invested herself into this. Guys can be all into you one minute and not the next, it's how they are. Hence the women start pursuing the guy.

I don't know if you guys have slept together or how old you are or have actually dated in your short time but I'd say pull back. You don't have to cut him off and you can still go with it but pull back and let him know you like him but you want to take it slow. He should respect that as long as you don't bruise his ego so be gentle!

I know this isn't very astrology based but to me this is basic dating issues, not so much astrology.

Mstigre,

Lol. It was my Taurus man who said * he was smitten * I was shocked 'cause it was too early dating with him

I think it was strong attraction that killed him inside. lol. that even his dental problem he wanted me

to decide for him. hahaha. He even put our photos into a frame and displayed beside his mother and father

photos in the living room.It was really funny about him. Yes he seldom calls if I am not mistaken it was only

twice a month but he kept sending lovely messages and updated his life and wanted to move in the condo close

to where I lived. So I asked him to give me a little space because I was suffocated. Every minute I have

to checked my mobile because I don't want him to wait my response. lol. There were many times I can't respond

immediately and he was waiting after 3 hrs because I was busy and I felt guilty. lol. I kept telling him

that time to *calm down* and take our relationship in *slowly process*. I hate intense emotions. it's

exhausting. lol.

I can only give you advice to just RELAX. Let him do all the things. FOCUS to yourself. let him pursue.

I know when a Taurus man is happy, He worship his lady. so just relax and breathe.lol

AgentP911,

Thanks for the link. so knowledgeable. truly knowledge is power!

Posted by Mstigre
But I feel like there's a barrier between us, and the paranoia in me sometimes suspects it's him not being genuine and "just saying what I want to hear". Maybe we are different in what we expect from one another? I just want consistency..

I'm confused as nothing in your post tells me how he has been detached or inconsistent. He just has texted, as opposed to calling you. You brought it up in a lighthearted way, as you said. You need to be more direct and tell him you'd like to talk over the phone. I have Venus in Gem as well, and I prefer writing to any form of communication. I am not really big on phone calls; I'd rather write, or talk in person. If you express that its important to you that you chat on the phone, I'm sure he'll oblige.

How did he bring up the L-word? Did he actually say he loves you? Within 6 days? Not that I would doubt this really, given how crazy the Taurus-Scorpio thing is, and that he has Scorp Moon.

Posted by AgentP911


I don't know if you guys have slept together or how old you are or have actually dated in your short time but I'd say pull back. You don't have to cut him off and you can still go with it but pull back and let him know you like him but you want to take it slow. He should respect that as long as you don't bruise his ego so be gentle!

I think this is easier said than done. I do understand taking it slow - particularly talking about love, children, dating, and having sex. I think its fine to communicate that in an honest way - e.g. explaining that you don't want to rush into something and get hurt, while at the same time affirming that you have equally strong feelings. If you just say something vague like "I'm feeling uncertain", though, this could possibly be seen as a type of rejection, and we all know how bulls take to that. I would say "slow down" is a better way to approach this, not "pull back". Scorpio pulling back can look like shutting down, going cold/distant, playing games, or disappearing from the outside.

Posted by AgentP911
Hi,

Scorp Sun and Venus female here. My boyfriend is Taurus Sun, Venus Gemini, and Aries Mercury too.

Same as me. What are your moons?

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Posted by AgentP911


I don't know if you guys have slept together or how old you are or have actually dated in your short time but I'd say pull back. You don't have to cut him off and you can still go with it but pull back and let him know you like him but you want to take it slow. He should respect that as long as you don't bruise his ego so be gentle!

I think this is easier said than done. I do understand taking it slow - particularly talking about love, children, dating, and having sex. I think its fine to communicate that in an honest way - e.g. explaining that you don't want to rush into something and get hurt, while at the same time affirming that you have equally strong feelings. If you just say something vague like "I'm feeling uncertain", though, this could possibly be seen as a type of rejection, and we all know how bulls take to that. I would say "slow down" is a better way to approach this, not "pull back". Scorpio pulling back can look like shutting down, going cold/distant, playing games, or disappearing from the outside.

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Yes, exactly that. I didn't mean for her to use those exact words though, I was just trying to make the point. You wrote it better than me! Then again, you're a man, and a Taurus, so you are considerably better at structuring how best to handle that bit. Good suggestion too, I might need to use that myself so wise words. It's appreciated TLS.

Ps: loved your epic narration on your Taurus/Scorpio with the girl at work or wherever it was. Very insightful and intriguing to see it through the eyes of a Taurus man. Your Venus Gemini did justice to your description!

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Posted by AgentP911
Hi,

Scorp Sun and Venus female here. My boyfriend is Taurus Sun, Venus Gemini, and Aries Mercury too.

Same as me. What are your moons?

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My moon is in Pisces.

His is either in Cancer or Leo.

I haven't asked his time of birth so I don't know his moon (or rising) as it could fall in either signs on that day.

Mars is in Leo for both of us.

I've read up on both Cancer and Leo moons and it's pretty hard to tell which one it is as any Leo characteristics could be coming from the Mars placement. I'd probably lean more towards a Cancer moon as he is pretty sensitive and can be moody but that could just be his Taurus Sun when he hasn't eaten for a while!

Yes I did notice you have the same placements as my boyfriend which is one of the reasons I've followed your posts with interest.

I'd agree with Scorp moon not being quick to divulge personal stuff or saying the L word.

I'm not saying he didn't say it but I know two guys with Scorp moons. One has Sun in Scorp and he has the BIGGEST wall around him, he's nearly 50 and he's always so overly suspicious of EVERYTHING. It took him maybe two years to say the L word and even then I don't think he was comfortable with it.

The other is Sun Gemini but he's still very closed and cautious. Although more flighty in general nature with things like making plans and not being tied down, liking his space but he is very loyal and committed.

Posted by AgentP911


Ps: loved your epic narration on your Taurus/Scorpio with the girl at work or wherever it was. Very insightful and intriguing to see it through the eyes of a Taurus man. Your Venus Gemini did justice to your description!

Thx....I remember how insane the feelings were at that time. I can still feel them again, when I think back. I can't listen to any of the music I was listening to during that time, or the emotions just flood me.

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Posted by AgentP911
Hi,

Scorp Sun and Venus female here. My boyfriend is Taurus Sun, Venus Gemini, and Aries Mercury too.

Same as me. What are your moons?

My moon is in Pisces.

His is either in Cancer or Leo.

I haven't asked his time of birth so I don't know his moon (or rising) as it could fall in either signs on that day.

Mars is in Leo for both of us.

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ah...interesting. I talk to a Scorp with a Pisces Moon. She's incredible. I've read that Leo Mars can be a bit of a domineering placement. I know I'm that way. Do you find that you guys compete for control?

Taurus Scorpio (chemical, physical magnetism separately) can understood in any overarching theme, each other inspire, complement, teach what other need but then have a serious problem of personal communication.
May have incredible and crystal clear telepathy but not talk about they have. Agh.
Can meet their emotional states as magical intuition, often not necessary "a hello, how are you!" but are not able to talk about it directly, to tell the other you know so well and I am so and so ...
Always with subtleties, with mind games.
In a few things is the best understood, others the worst.
I guess it's because the strong connection, I do not know, but the failure of the taurus-scorpio relationships or brake to begin a real relationship, really.
Well, I have this relationship with a Taurus man. It's f-u-c-k-i-n-g annoying.

jumping= fucking :-)

Wow. The response has been incredible and thank you all so much. To clear a few things up, I wrote that in the wee hours of the morning in a bundle of nerves because I became insecure, haha. I am 24, and we have slept together. It was one of those "tried not to but the magnetism was too great" situations, and believe me, it was lovely. Mostly due to the intensity of emotion we both felt.

I do worry about the fact that Taurus/Scorpio blends, astrologically, hardly ever work, and that's probably the basis for my insecurity.

What I meant when I said "barrier" between us was probably confusing because I wrote how I was thinking, last night: mixed, blended, and anxious, so I'll elaborate.

The barrier I feel is similar to an emotional wall, and I believe me being an empath has to do with me feeling that wall. It's not because it's so soon, it's because there IS a wall there that I don't know can be broken down. The picture I'll paint here for further description is imagine you've put your energy out there for someone. That person absorbs it only to a certain degree. It gets in deep enough to connect, but can't sink in fully. Make sense?

Probably not, ugh. It's hard to explain. Anyway.. Last night I poured my heart out, as he like me to do, and then apologized for it being such a long text message. Instead of commenting on what I'd said about us, he made a comment similar to "That's a good thing, babe. The level of communication and trust we share will only make us stronger", and I was thrown off. I thought maybe I had said too much. He didn't even tell me goodnight, as he usually does, which increased my suspicion that I had said too much.

I'm a mess. Haha

TLS,

I wouldn't say I was domineering as that would suggest arrogance. I can be strong willed and strong minded and outspoken (as done posts might suggest) but that's probably my Sag rising!

I do have a lot of pride and take pride like a Leo. I can be a little dramatic and have flair but I'm not keen on real life drama as it can be rather draining. I don't mind the odd bout of written drama on here though! :-)

I wouldn't say I'm controlling but for many, many years I have had to be in 'control' with various things. Sometimes it's like I'm the 'man' in my family especially when it comes to dealing with certain things. Plus I've worked in male dominated environments and been in management so again, the 'male' theme and the being in 'control' theme has always been present.

I think some past partners might say I was controlling or wanted things my way but I think I was just young. I've learnt a lot over the last few years so I'm less so now.

Regarding my Taurus man and competing for control. It is still very early days but no I don't compete for control. For some reason I know it won't work and I don't want the control. I want him to lead and I act to reflect that. He's not particularly passive. Slow, yes. Passive, no. I don't find him domineering. A little hot headed, yes. I put that down to his Aries Mercury and take a deep breath so I respond and don't react. I've made a conscious effort to do this whereas before I'd go off on one but I don't want to do that anymore so I just don't.

Maybe we will find out we are both domineering later down the line!!

Perhaps you were expecting him to write an equally long and equally as emotional message back to you and when he didn't you became disappointed.

He's a man. Most men just don't do that sort I stuff but by you opening up then maybe it will help him open up yet I expect his style of opening up will be different because, guess what? He's a man!

Why women expect men to be like women I do not know. Apologies if this comes across wrong or if I've misinterpreted.

I would say just be yourself and go with it. Take it slow, if you think you're saying too much then just say some of it. There's no law that says you have to declare everything all the time. Sometimes holding a little of yourself back helps you to focus.

Maybe TLS will give his view. He's a man. All I can give is what I've learnt which is women expect men to be like women and then they get disappointed. He acknowledge you. Once or twice I've said a lot to my Taurus man and all he said was 'thanks babe, love it!' It was better than a smack in the mouth and a kick in the teeth though, eh!

Hahaha Vivien Leigh... What a firecracker. To be fair to myself though, bipolar disorder is not something I struggle with. I think I've deduced by this point that love makes me crazy, like it does to all of us, and that I need to calm down and let things happen organically. I've been so fascinated with his bull sun and scorp moon that I've over-indulged in reading about his internal and external beings, trying to decipher if they meld with mine. His Gemini Venus has me spinning, as mine is in Scorpio, and that would make our love languages completely different.

AgentP911,
My expectation isn't for him to act like a "woman", as you said. I expect CONSISTENCY, and last night brought with it a shift in normal dialogue between us. He is usually, while not quite so colorfully, on the same page as I am when we write our sentiments for one another. I can easily express my feelings when I'm devoted, probably because of my Venus, and he has always reciprocated and appreciated and welcomed them all.

I'm wondering if maybe I've missed some signals from him while trying too hard to decipher what was going on between us.
"I love you", "You have my heart", the reference to him being my boyfriend, "You're my baby", "I've never dated someone who loves to cook."

We're dating? Are you my boyfriend? Have I missed something?? :/

I really get your situation so well.. I'm currently going through the same thing. I am a taurus sun with scorpio moon and hes a leo guy with aqua moon! No wonder we both felt the same attraction lol it is so overwhelming and its like moving on full speed. I understand the emotional barrier ur talking about.. it could really be due to ur insecurities that ur suns dont match so well.. i had tge same thought being a taurus n hes a leo.. heard its not a good match either. But, deep down my insecurities is not caused by that but a different reason.. we have different living standards and i am not sure if me n him r on the same page.. Im lookinh for a long term relationship n marriage n well i dont know about him but its too early anyway.. get to know each other.. take it slow.. hopefully things work out for u🙂

Infinite8, that's my deepest worry, truly. That he is in love with falling in love, not ME. That he wants to find love so badly he doesn't care where it comes from. We don't challenge each other, just accept what we are being told, and that's new for me. I just can't tell if "new" necessarily equates with "good" in this case. My last relationship was an ex fianc? with a Gemini Sun, Pisces Moon, and Taurus Venus, and it was horrendous. So many clashes. Maybe I'm afraid of being hurt by someone who wants to love me, but can't. Or, as was mentioned earlier, someone who loves to be in love to the point where they don't care who it's with.

TxOgal:

Thank you for sharing your similar situation. With me being the Scorpio and you having the same Sun/Moon combo as my beau, what you've said has given me a little bit of solace in regard to what he may be feeling for me. If you're capable of feeling to that degree, then maybe he is too! What's your Venus?

Posted by Mstigre


I do worry about the fact that Taurus/Scorpio blends, astrologically, hardly ever work, and that's probably the basis for my insecurity.

I wouldn't say that. I know some Taurus/Scorp marriages that are working really well. It seems the early phases are hard, and yes, its more difficult when both are young. But I envy you that you even have a chance to try and make this pairing work. I have never felt anything even close to the chemistry that I have with this sign; I didn't know feelings like those even existed. Its a beautiful thing. Plus he has a Scorp moon, which I think will help a lot.

Regarding his short response to you pouring your heart out, this is a major thing with Scorps. You folks will be slightly put off or hurt by something and not say anything. WHY—?? Then you start speculating, distrusting, etc. He may have just been tired, busy, or a little lazy at the moment. He could feel the *exact* same way as you emotionally, and still offer a short response for those reasons. I would feel insecure too, but you have to ASK. If I wrote a long emotional note, and got a short response back, I'd just bring it up - I'd say "Was that too heavy? I'm pouring my heart out here and you tell me 'aw, that's nice.'?". Hasn't he also been fairly expressive emotionally with you at other times?

Posted by Infinite8

Ask him. Fastest clearest way to find out. And you'll be able to be more at peace for it too.

yup yup.

TLS,
Yes, he is usually very open, and the shift was what got my mind spinning. I did mention to him that maybe I felt so odd was because it was being written via text, not over the phone, and he responded with "Whatever media we decide to use, as long as we keep each other in the loop, I'm happy."

What?

Okay, so that was my way of letting him know that because I was feeling so strongly for him, I'd rather we bump the communication up to phone calls, as I feel communicating solely via text reminds me of being adolescent. His response to me confused me. You tell me I have your heart and alllllll of these things that lead me to believe you're intoxicated by me, but when the prospect of a phone call comes in to play, you don't pick up my signal. Could it really just be communication error?

Posted by Infinite8
Yeah... Venus in Gemini might get more "flowery" with the love language. Not sure how the words connect to what he feels inside.

I sometimes do the same (venus in Libra). Almost like you are in love with the process of being in love.

LOL, oh gosh...don't give more reasons to distrust! I think everyone is in love with being in love to an extent. We all get caught up in that initial euphoria, but how can it ever really be independent of the person? The greater the chemistry with that specific person, the more intense that feeling of being in love is.

TLS your story and mine also are very representative of this communication-connection and the lack of real communication.

We remain friends but I didn't get to grab the towel and threw it away. Anything new with you?

Venus in Aries! n ur welcome

Posted by Mstigre


Okay, so that was my way of letting him know that because I was feeling so strongly for him, I'd rather we bump the communication up to phone calls, as I feel communicating solely via text reminds me of being adolescent. His response to me confused me. You tell me I have your heart and alllllll of these things that lead me to believe you're intoxicated by me, but when the prospect of a phone call comes in to play, you don't pick up my signal. Could it really just be communication error?

Well, don't say the "adolescent" thing. It is a bit emasculating...lol. I think you're right that you should obviously be communicating by phone, rather than only text - so you can read one another's tone, etc. But I know for myself, I really get a feel for a person through writing more so than any other medium, so I do prefer it, especially at first. Texting is a little breezy for me though. I wrote back and forth with my current SO for months, and that's really what got me interested in her. So he just may prefer that and you need to assert your self more on the issue, not give clues and expect him to see them. Maybe there's a reason he doesn't' like talking on the phone, or he's nervous, etc. Maybe he's overly emotional right now, and the texts allow him to think before he speaks and curb some of the intensity.

Whatever the reason, what seems MOST unlikely, is that he is exaggerating or fabricating his feelings in his words, and that his hesitance to hop on the phone is evidence of that. That, to me, makes no sense whatsoever. Taurus/Scorp early and extreme intensity is so common. Even though Scorp moon's tend to guard their feelings at first, a Scorp moon would seem to make that intensity even greater, so his feelings don't surprise me. Why should they surprise you? Aren't you feeling them too?

I think you're scared and you'll gravitate towards distrust if you let your self speculate or over-analyze, so being direct and as open as possible is necessary to avoid these kinds of speculations.

Posted by TeaMint
TLS your story and mine also are very representative of this communication-connection and the lack of real communication.

We remain friends but I didn't get to grab the towel and threw it away. Anything new with you?

On Monday, I stayed home from work. I went to my favorite spot to drink coffee and look at art magazines. I walked in and who do I see sitting right where I usually sit? There she was, working with her notebook open, talking to someone. I didn't look long enough to see who. I made a sharp right turn, my body was shaking, I broke into a sweat. I picked up a magazine, bought it and left. It was horrifying being caught off guard like that....lol. Don't judge me.

"Whatever media we decide to use, as long as we keep each other in the loop, I'm happy.

>>>>Also - doesn't that indicate with "whatever *we* decide" that he's open to your input on how you should communicate? Sounds like he's just saying "I'm easygoing. Here's the main issue for me."

Over-analyzation, unfortunately, is one of my stronger suits. :/

Yes, you're correct. I should see it that way.

I think I don't want to believe that this will turn into anything because of my own hesitations and fears. It would be a shame to pass this up due to that, though. He's an amazing guy and accepts everything I've told him about me and I do the same for him. We talk all day, every day, for the most part ( we both have time consuming careers and I'm out of work at the moment due to a broken metatarsal), and I should be happy. I think I'm afraid of him losing interest or not being as interested as he claims. Blegh, I need to stop over thinking this and just see where it goes, without scaring him off with my intensity, as I have in the past. Haha. Some people can't handle the Scorpio intensity. It's a bother, but it's alright. Thanks TLS for the advice.

Talking to someone on notebook or someone is there?
If she was alone was the perfect opportunity for a coffee together.
Oh excuse me, don't judge, don't judge, don't judge 😉

Posted by Mstigre
Over-analyzation, unfortunately, is one of my stronger suits. :/

Yes, you're correct. I should see it that way.

I think I don't want to believe that this will turn into anything because of my own hesitations and fears. It would be a shame to pass this up due to that, though. He's an amazing guy and accepts everything I've told him about me and I do the same for him. We talk all day, every day, for the most part ( we both have time consuming careers and I'm out of work at the moment due to a broken metatarsal), and I should be happy. I think I'm afraid of him losing interest or not being as interested as he claims. Blegh, I need to stop over thinking this and just see where it goes, without scaring him off with my intensity, as I have in the past. Haha. Some people can't handle the Scorpio intensity. It's a bother, but it's alright. Thanks TLS for the advice.

I understand all those feelings completely - all rooted in fear. Fear kept me from ever pursuing any real contact. I think, when the connection is so strong like this, it amplifies the potential for both pleasure and pain. I was (and really still am) terrified of her. I felt like it would be devastating for her to reject me, get bored of me, lose interest, or have her feelings wane even just a little. I'm sure if you were open about the feelings you're having, he would understand all those things, and has had the same himself. I've known couples who are so afraid of losing interest in each other, getting bored complacent, and open about this with each other, that they try not to see each other too often in the beginning, to keep things interesting and fresh. Familiarity breeds contempt as they say. With Taurus/Scorp I don't think you would be able to have that level of restraint though...lol.

Posted by TeaMint
Talking to someone on notebook or someone is there?
If she was alone was the perfect opportunity for a coffee together.
Oh excuse me, don't judge, don't judge, don't judge 😉

It may have been either. You see, she works from home now, so she may set up shop in that coffee spot.

LOL, how would I approach her about coffee?

"Hi there. I know you hate my guts right now because I looked at you for a year like you were the love of my life, then completely ignored you every time you came near me. I can feel you telepathically cursing my family for 1,000 generations from across the room. Do you mind if I sit down? Pay no mind to the sweat dripping from my forehead. Its perfectly normal."

Regarding his short response to you pouring your heart out, this is a major thing with Scorps. You folks will be slightly put off or hurt by something and not say anything. WHY—?? Then you start speculating, distrusting, etc. He may have just been tired, busy, or a little lazy at the moment. He could feel the *exact* same way as you emotionally, and still offer a short response for those reasons. I would feel insecure too, but you have to ASK. If I wrote a long emotional note, and got a short response back, I'd just bring it up - I'd say "Was that too heavy? I'm pouring my heart out here and you tell me 'aw, that's nice.'?". Hasn't he also been fairly expressive emotionally with you at other times?




This, what TLS said, actually demonstrates my earlier point more eloquently than I put it.

I have learnt with my Taurus that just because I have sent a longer message or more deeper message and he just responded with a few words, it doesn't mean he's not feeling it too. I have learnt not to read into his response or to be disappointed that he's not matching it.

Sure, he shares stuff in his own way and own style . Sometimes it's longer and sometimes it's more deeper. I don't want to force him to share in the way I want him to. I'd rather he feels free to share in his own way but more importantly I want him to want to share in whatever way he wants and I'll be receptive to him.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by Mstigre
Over-analyzation, unfortunately, is one of my stronger suits. :/

Yes, you're correct. I should see it that way.

I think I don't want to believe that this will turn into anything because of my own hesitations and fears. It would be a shame to pass this up due to that, though. He's an amazing guy and accepts everything I've told him about me and I do the same for him. We talk all day, every day, for the most part ( we both have time consuming careers and I'm out of work at the moment due to a broken metatarsal), and I should be happy. I think I'm afraid of him losing interest or not being as interested as he claims. Blegh, I need to stop over thinking this and just see where it goes, without scaring him off with my intensity, as I have in the past. Haha. Some people can't handle the Scorpio intensity. It's a bother, but it's alright. Thanks TLS for the advice.

I understand all those feelings completely - all rooted in fear. Fear kept me from ever pursuing any real contact. I think, when the connection is so strong like this, it amplifies the potential for both pleasure and pain. I was (and really still am) terrified of her. I felt like it would be devastating for her to reject me, get bored of me, lose interest, or have her feelings wane even just a little. I'm sure if you were open about the feelings you're having, he would understand all those things, and has had the same himself. I've known couples who are so afraid of losing interest in each other, getting bored complacent, and open about this with each other, that they try not to see each other too often in the beginning, to keep things interesting and fresh. Familiarity breeds contempt as they say. With Taurus/Scorp I don't think you would be able to have that level of restraint though...lol.

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I think isn't familiarity so disgusting it's modern crazy life and people.

Still don't understand why people stupidly believed that their relations in the traditional style will work in a in an modern age. They will not! Maybe some exception with all the stars in conjunction, a miracle. It isn't something for people, people are suffering from their own stupid life, it's impossible to work well your wearyring an anti-natural life, against yourself.

I grew up in a very

agh! ...small village with my scorpio grandmother and my taurus grandfather and familiarity is not horrible, it's a life, not fake live.

Posted by Infinite8
What is there to distrust?!?!

I guess, since you wrote "Not sure how the words connect to what he feels inside", "*If* his actions follow his words, then all is well with the world.", and you raised the possibility of being in love with the concept of love, I was thinking you were advocating suspicion with regards to his true feelings. I'm with you on all the other stuff. I don't put flowers in my hair, but I will pick them now and then and play the occasional "she loves me, she loves me not"...lol.

"Good morning, baby girl. I hope you got a good night's sleep."

Those are the words he sent me this morning, though the only ones I've gotten today ( I'm sure he's swamped at work).

I'm just enraptured, intoxicated, and smitten with him. He makes my soul feel at peace yet enthralled. I want to share silences and laughter with him, because we seem to get each other, but almost in a "I've known you my entire life so there's no need to impress you" way. Is it bad to be so comfortable so soon? Is it bad to not feel like I need to impress him, when I guess that's what is "supposed" to be going on between us so early on?


I just found out I have to cancel our date this weekend, and I'm terrified of telling him out of fear he will think I'm flaky or insincere. Taureans take that sort of thing to heart, do they not?

Posted by Mstigre
"Good morning, baby girl. I hope you got a good night's sleep."

Those are the words he sent me this morning, though the only ones I've gotten today ( I'm sure he's swamped at work).

I'm just enraptured, intoxicated, and smitten with him. He makes my soul feel at peace yet enthralled. I want to share silences and laughter with him, because we seem to get each other, but almost in a "I've known you my entire life so there's no need to impress you" way. Is it bad to be so comfortable so soon? Is it bad to not feel like I need to impress him, when I guess that's what is "supposed" to be going on between us so early on?


I just found out I have to cancel our date this weekend, and I'm terrified of telling him out of fear he will think I'm flaky or insincere. Taureans take that sort of thing to heart, do they not?

Firstly - remain calm. Its totally *okay* to cancel a date. Just express to him that you really wish you didn't have to and you were looking forward to hanging out. I'm sure he will believe you. You are in such a high state of anxiety right now, you are going to drive your self up a wall.

I think it is great that you feel so comfortable with him early on. Just enjoy it, as it is, and don't worry about how things *ought* to be. I have a female Scorpio friend, and we are both taken, but I feel SO relaxed and comfortable around her, like there is just this total acceptance between us, when we hang out in a group. We always gravitate to each other. It is totally platonic but it is like heaven; I just truly honestly love her and it was an instant connection. So I can relate to that feeling somewhat. I think it really is something special. Enjoy it. Put on some music and let your imagination run wild - but keep it positive.

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Posted by TeaMint
Talking to someone on notebook or someone is there?
If she was alone was the perfect opportunity for a coffee together.
Oh excuse me, don't judge, don't judge, don't judge 😉

It may have been either. You see, she works from home now, so she may set up shop in that coffee spot.

LOL, how would I approach her about coffee?

"Hi there. I know you hate my guts right now because I looked at you for a year like you were the love of my life, then completely ignored you every time you came near me. I can feel you telepathically cursing my family for 1,000 generations from across the room. Do you mind if I sit down? Pay no mind to the sweat dripping from my forehead. Its perfectly normal."

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I'm sure, sure, she will not tell you that. She will be hurt but glad you talk to her.

The progression of things is back to normal, and as I figured, I was over-analyzing one particular conversation and letting it trump all of the positives. Gotta get better about that, haha! Hopefully my illness subsides and he and I can still be together this weekend. I have 3 more days so maybe! Thanks again, everyone.

This is interesting story but I don't know where it's going. Since Mstigre still very young...

Scorpio evolve at their 30's.

This is almost exactly how things went with my Taurus Sun Scorpio Moon (I'm a Scorpio Sun as well). After the shortest most intense courtship ever (although our first phone conversation was 7 hours straight and he prefers to talk rather than text) we introduced each other to our respective families as our respective future spouses (all one big family gathering) and he and I moved to San Francisco together. WHAT HAPPENED WITH YOU??