Thank Heaven I found you guys! Help and advise??

I'm close to losing my mind!

So Like, umm, I'm probably waaaaaay too old to be so caught up on a GUY but anywayz.....

I have a Taurus friend that I cannot get out ofmy mind. Starts out like every other bull story.... he made the googly eyes at me, I fell and when he didnt eturn my furtive glances i went wild (which is what he wanted I think. Form what I've read a Tuaurs man won't necessarily go after waht he wants but will wait for it to come to him?) I have been turned into a stalker! His come hither ways are getting to me. When I see him at his workplace (very public) he follows me like a puppy. I know because iam watching him watch me! I will send a text here and there, have invtied him over for movies, dinner, tv....no show, he wont budge. we havent dated, beentohis plae twice for a moive and pizza. all good, no bad vibes, no Sex! I dont want to be all juniro high like I am. He may very wel ljust like the girlie attention and that is why he follows me around. He may know that he has to reply to SOME of my texts every once in a while to keep me hanigng on.... so am I being strung or is this just another case of waiting out the interminable patience of the bull? It's been about 7 months since that one smoldering look...... Im a cap, I know we'd be great. I am not looking to get into anything heavy, have expressed this, but not into casual either.

so what you all think? His playing me for attention and GETTING it or thisis TYPICAL? HELP!! and Thank you!

tried both approaches (something more active?) but if you'd both not mind elaborating....and THANK YOU !

BTW- I did try the backoff approach, when i dated someone else (Taurus was unaware) he did make some advances in that period. small, few and far between but some lol

hmmmm- well to answer BOTH of you--- I've made it very clear that I want to know him btter, that I'm attracted and intrigued, that he has my attention--- that he's good to go! so I guess it's just the attention he's getting. SOme guys just flirt. The hot cold bit makes me crazy-- hate it when I get sucked into it like I have. Thanks all and anyone else's two cents are more than welcome!

oh this though~ Taureans have HUGE egos? so clarify this please? He has exhibited jealousy and that I translated as interest... if you have large egos then interest wouldnt HAVE to be there-- the need to be the center of attention would cause yu to be jealous despite lack of interest?

maybe I've jus tbeen misreading his signals all along-- wishful thinking!

frustrated-- that's another post!

I think i will take Bull's advice, flat ask him out on a DATE and then see what happens. if no then its no-- if yes then baby wtch out!

been sitting here asking myself the same Blue! *gah*

ok so maybe this "i gotta know once and for all thing" is maybe a way to get him to act- not cool. hmmmmmm. he's had opps, he knows im interested..... you guys are saying if he felt same he'd be on it..... only other things i can offer up are that he isnt seeing anyone to my knowledge. as typical he is utterly devoted to his daughter. HIs last relationship, the one that finally pushed him out of his unhealthy marriage and aware from said daughter (which was hard on him) that Girl promisd him moon and stars if he'd leave his sad marriage, and he did, then the girl up and dumped him after two months. Its been hard to be iwhtouth is little girl. I can only imagine hard to deal with that nasty break up.

hmmm... well I will err on with you ladies. Save my pride not look desperate and let it go. Yeah maybe i would consider heavy with him. any point in realying that? Maybe my telling him casual and fun is ok isnt what HE is looking for.

thanks again you guys. Obviously I can be thick headed and not inclinced to see writing on walls!

ok so maybe this "i gotta know once and for all thing" is maybe a way to get him to act- not cool. hmmmmmm. he's had opps, he knows im interested..... you guys are saying if he felt same he'd be on it..... only other things i can offer up are that he isnt seeing anyone to my knowledge. as typical he is utterly devoted to his daughter. HIs last relationship, the one that finally pushed him out of his unhealthy marriage and aware from said daughter (which was hard on him) that Girl promisd him moon and stars if he'd leave his sad marriage, and he did, then the girl up and dumped him after two months. Its been hard to be iwhtouth is little girl. I can only imagine hard to deal with that nasty break up.

hmmm... well I will err on with you ladies. Save my pride not look desperate and let it go. Yeah maybe i would consider heavy with him. any point in realying that? Maybe my telling him casual and fun is ok isnt what HE is looking for.

thanks again you guys. Obviously I can be thick headed and not inclinced to see writing on walls!

then add sullen regret to the mix? nah. Don't want to go to those lengths to get a guy who isn't really into me. good idea tho!!

do bulls go for casual sex? love and leave em types?

Hi everyone I am new to this site but i was reading and found it very interesting and I need some advice form the bulls. I recently in mid Nov I met a Tarus and I am a Scropio so the attraction was very strong sexually and otherwise so at first her really was like trying to get me he call me right away and he kept calling like the next day and the next day and so on for about a week and the conversation was great we learn a lot about eachother so after the conversation on our first outing it happen we couldnt help ourselves the attraction was so strong and the sex was amazing and it is now January 9 and we have been intimate a few times but lately like last week i guess I starting coming on too strong and I have read that tarus like to move slow so now i know he works a lot he has tool job and is busy but I feel like he is ignoring me. When I said coming on too strong i mean I would tect him like I want you and I want you like tonight or whatever and I know tarus likes to be in control so do you think I pressure him and he is trying to bag up and take his time.

it is said that curiosity killed the cat-- we shall see. Couldn't resist Bella- my Cappy side who needs things straight and orderly had to know so I did ask him out for a date (and i used THAT word) tonight. If he doenst find me then i will know. I will then admit that his flrity side was nothing more than a means to get attention and that I didnt see it as such. It's saddens me that not everyone is transparent and "honest" but I know we all follow our egos to a greater and lessr extent. I am guilty. I cant blame him but will add this to my tool box for "next time" will let you knwo what happens! maybe you will all say TOLD YA SO! later!

The Taurus guy I've been talking to is VERY obvious about his feelings towards me and has not given up trying even after years of knowing eachother. If he wants you, he will make sure you know it. These guys do not beat around the bush. Be unavailable. You should be willing to give it some time. Unfortunately it's a power struggle and you need to come out on top if you want his attention.

the withicng hour approaches and the phone is quiet.......

and you win. Not a peep. I think he had another date. Ces La Vie (sp?) I had a great time with my friends and met an intriguing and damn goo dlooking aquarian. I'm off to that forum to get pointers! Thanks you guys!