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The Return of the Taurus Female
Our separation hurt me deeply. After 6 months of no communication, she emailed asking for help on a problem with her email that I know didn't actually exist. I think she was trying to reach out. 2 weeks later I sent her a sms wishing Happy Christmas. She only replied 3 days later. I was pissed. I asked her what kind of relationship we had. If we still were friends. She was rude and hurt me yet again. I started ignoring her from that point on. Now she's trying to rekindle something.
The thing is: I missed her very much. We both did alot to each other and considered each other as family.
Before she stopped talking to me, she confessed that someone had hurt her before. So she could have been afraid. There's also the seven years age gap between us. She's older than me. Maybe she needed to think it through.
This time I'm not going to tell her point blank that I still have feelings for her. I don't want to pressure her. Anyway, she knows that I still like her in a romantic way. The patterns in my behaviour are, in this regard, telling of my feelings. She seems to incite me to keep opening up more. I'm going to respond to her incentives, only giving back what I'm receiving.
Sure, she hurt me. But given all the good things that she did to me, I think it's worth seeing where this is going.
The thing is: I missed her very much. We both did alot to each other and considered each other as family.
Before she stopped talking to me, she confessed that someone had hurt her before. So she could have been afraid. There's also the seven years age gap between us. She's older than me. Maybe she needed to think it through.
This time I'm not going to tell her point blank that I still have feelings for her. I don't want to pressure her. Anyway, she knows that I still like her in a romantic way. The patterns in my behaviour are, in this regard, telling of my feelings. She seems to incite me to keep opening up more. I'm going to respond to her incentives, only giving back what I'm receiving.
Sure, she hurt me. But given all the good things that she did to me, I think it's worth seeing where this is going.
I haven't had a gf since me and my crush separated; she hasn't had a bf also. She has told time and time again in front of me that she is single. When we met for the first time, she was dating and was also dating. My gf broke up with me. I think that my crush broke up with her bf because of me, but I cannot be 100% sure of this. If so, she sacrificed a relationship to be with me.
She has talked about another male in front of me; but I sensed that she made him up, because her bestfriend was totally clueless about whom she was talking about. I think she was trying to make me jealous to get me out of my hot and cold behaviour.
Also, some women don't accept the idea of dating younger men that easily. My crush is a bit conservative and probably the idea took a while to sink.
But as I've said. My strategy is about giving what I receive and responding only to her incentives.
She has talked about another male in front of me; but I sensed that she made him up, because her bestfriend was totally clueless about whom she was talking about. I think she was trying to make me jealous to get me out of my hot and cold behaviour.
Also, some women don't accept the idea of dating younger men that easily. My crush is a bit conservative and probably the idea took a while to sink.
But as I've said. My strategy is about giving what I receive and responding only to her incentives.
Posted by WTFudgeCongrats!
I'm feeling a very sensual energy. We havenât spent any time alone, like we used to and enjoyed very much. We are always surrounded by other people. Iâll wait and see what happens we have some privacy.
Maybe the occasion will open her up for a more sensual and intimate hug and probably a kiss.
You're in her good grace.
Strike the iron while it's hot.
Remember, if you go cold with a Bull, chances are, next time it will be permanent.
Don't overthink about why the two of you dissolved, I already explained it in your last post.
Read the post below for further details.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
You read the RIGHT signals, initially. You just didn't reciprocate or follow through. Bulls are Venusian. Charming, sensual, shy, gentle, traditional, seductive, and very affectionate. With us, it's all in the eyes. We have an uncanny ability to draw people in. It's part of our aura, our mystery. Most (not all) of us are NOT chasers. If you do not catch on the subtle signals, it's adios amigos.
As she gradually began losing interest, your GF broke up with you. You're not reading mixed signals. Just experiencing the effects of the infamous Hot and Cold behavior. At the current moment, she doesn't trust your intentions. Your sudden display of emotions, love and declaration of now and forever is confusing her. Placing you in the friend zone is the safe zone. Observe your pattern of behavior
She flirted. You rejected. She flirted. You were oblivious. She flirted. You didn't reciprocate.
Now...
Your GF dumped you. You're professing your undying love to her. Chasing her. smothering her.
You did an entire 360 from showing NO interest to too much interest in 2.2 seconds!
With Bulls, it has to be organic, gradual. there is no authenticity in your approach. Nothing concrete or stable. She's a romantic, but she's still a realist.
Your actions are waving a red flag with the letters imprinted "REBOUND."
If you want to win her attention and affection again, don't demand an explanation, answers, or asking for a chance at a relationship. No more emotional declarations of love. Your gestures are too much. She's at a code red. The horns will come out. If you're not a trained Bullfighter, you will be strongly advised to get out of her way. A mashed up crab is not a pretty sight.
May I suggest, instead, some finesse in your approach. Try flirting from a distance, make eye contact, slight touches, if you're communicating with her, whisper in her ear. Wear a nice cologne.
This approach presents an incentive....without you cornering her but still holding her interest. Let her warm up to the idea.
*I meant to say in your last thread.*
Posted by TaurusBull1977TB thank you so much for the advise. I say this with all my heart: Thank you so very much.
*I meant to say in your last thread.*
My hot/cold has subsided already. I adapt quickly to situations.
During this last month (when we started talking again), I've always kept what you said in my mind: touch her. And I always do when I have a chance (of course I try to stay smooth and not too obnoxious) and my shyness allows me.
Today was an odd day. She was friendly but aloof. I tried greeting her like i did yesterday and it didn't work. For the remainder of the afternoon she seemed off. I sensed some nervousness in her. Sunday is a big day for her and our organization. So, I gave her space. Before leaving, she asked me help with some trash. I opened a bag for her and touched her while doing it, but I was it.
Can you be more specific about what you mean by "striking the iron"? I don't want to mess up. As I've said, my strategy is to act on her incentives and not be too obnoxious. If she touches me; I touch her back; etc. If the time comes (and we had many opportunities in the past; but we both were dating other people and cheating is something not coded in me or her), we are alone and she starts with the flirting and electrifying touches, I will definitely kiss her.
If Sunday comes and everything goes well, maybe she will be in a good spirit.
Posted by einrickpisceshehehehheehehe...
"The Return of the"
The title is awesome, like something legendary gonna comeback from its hidden slumber đ
believe me... it all goes well, something epic is going to happen *wink* *wink* *nodge* *nodge*
I was going for something like "The Hot Zone: Return of the Taurus Female", but i preferred the short version. It seemed more to the point đ
OP can I ask what your sun, rising, and moon sign is?
I only know that my sun sign is Cancer. I don't know the others, but knowing myself I'm probably almost all cancer.
What is your date of birth?
City and State you were born in?
City and State you were born in?
Posted by TaurusBull1977PM sent
What is your date of birth?
City and State you were born in?
Posted by NevermorePlease note that we are not riding towards the sunset and an eternal life of romance, marriage, children and the finest things.
Then it's just me that I had a bad experience to be with.
If you're fine with her and especially both taken seriously with it (in case with very sharp eyes for seeing their action) then you would be fine to do that.
As long you both are evolved with each other.
Yesterday she was doing the same. Somehow aloof. I kissed her cheek again in a very telling way, but nothing. Not even a touch or a glare.
She's tired and said that today she was turning her cellphone off, trying to recover lost sleep and spending the day with her cats.
Maybe she wasn't in the mood. But anyway I'm keeping my senses open.
This may end up in a total writeoff yet.
Your Natal Chart
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Your Natal Chart
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
.
Wow! That's a total shock! I've always assumed that I was mostly cancer!
My profile matches so much that posted on various websites about cancer males (except the mood swings), that I always thought it scary.
Does this have any particular impact in this topic? Am I reading my crush wrongly?
Posted by WTFudgeI'm so shocked that I forgot to thank you TB. Sorry. Thanks đPosted by TaurusBull1977
Your Natal Chart
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
.
Wow! That's a total shock! I've always assumed that I was mostly cancer!
My profile matches so much that posted on various websites about cancer males (except the mood swings), that I always thought it scary.
Does this have any particular impact in this topic? Am I reading my crush wrongly?click to expand
Posted by TaurusBull1977So, I pulled up a natal chart/report. Read the entire 16 pages and came up with the conclusion that, while I have a lot of placements that enhance my intuition, perception (even when dealing subtle things like emotions and body language) and analytical skills - skills that I do know for a fact that I have -, my Mercury in XII makes me overanalyse hunches and motives.
Your Natal Chart
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
Plus, I have placements that make me fiery and carnal in love and, thus, very impatient.
Putting one to one together: I'm capable of reading signs correctly, but my intuition is thrown off by my obsession with analyzing stuff. If I sense something different or off beat with her signs, I start going nuts about why. I need constant reassurance and a clear pattern of behavior. That's why, last year, even with all those signs that she sent me and all my research, I STILL WASN'T SURE about her intentions. I NEEDED MORE CONFIRMATION.
My fiery passion makes me impatient, which, in turn, makes matters much worse. That's why, last year, I made a sudden U-Turn and chased her passionately. I wanted to make love to her NOW!
Those were my mistakes.
I have to CALM DOWN. I have to chill both my carnal urges and my over analysis.
Posted by WTFudgeCancer and Taurus. So fricking romantic! If my lover was to be rekindled after sometime the best gestures would be action. Write a poem...flowers. A nice dinner by the water. Don't bring up the past unless she wants to and if she does don't avoid it. If my cancer love did this I would go right back. Unfortunately at least you love her and want to be around. Mines act cold and aloof and I have no choice but to move on and date others. Whatever you do, don't make her jealous.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/need-help-with-a-taurus-woman-5036609/
So, after almost a year since she went hot and cold (see link above for more details), my crush is coming back. Sheâs trying to rekindle our friendship probably with the intention of evolving it to something more romantic. She has placed her hand on my lower back, which drove shivers up my spine that persisted for an entire afternoon; and passed the tips of her fingers around my back, around the waist. I havenât caught her staring at me, but the first day we started talking I noticed her looking at me with dilated pupils. Yesterday, when we met, her body language was very sensual and telling but it mellowed down. I was desperate to touch her, but I couldnât because we werenât alone and I like my privacy.
I have been a little hot and cold. She hurt me badly (and knows it, although she clearly doesnât want to talk about it) and my defenses were up for a few days. But her behaviors are slowly opening me up and inciting me. Yesterday, I kissed her cheek in a more intimate way and, at night, when weâre saying our goodbyes, when I kissed her on the cheek, I placed my hand around her waist and lower back. I think she liked it because when we finally parted away she touched me on the shoulder, instead of avoiding me.
We came very close to full body contact. I was behind her, while she had her back turned to me loading packages to the back seat of her car. I donât know if both of us desired for some âaccidental bumpâ that might have connect both of your bodies.
Things are going well. I'm feeling a very sensual energy. We havenât spent any time alone, like we used to and enjoyed very much. We are always surrounded by other people. Iâll wait and see what happens we have some privacy.
Maybe the occasion will open her up for a more sensual and intimate hug and probably a kiss.
Taurus sun Virgo moon here.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Wow can you do one for me? pm sent if so
Your Natal Chart
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Libra
Venus: Gemini
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Taurus
Your chart is mostly made up of the element, "Air."
Posted by ShaniajamSorry for the late reply. Been very busy at work and I'm very very tired.Posted by WTFudgeCancer and Taurus. So fricking romantic! If my lover was to be rekindled after sometime the best gestures would be action. Write a poem...flowers. A nice dinner by the water. Don't bring up the past unless she wants to and if she does don't avoid it. If my cancer love did this I would go right back. Unfortunately at least you love her and want to be around. Mines act cold and aloof and I have no choice but to move on and date others. Whatever you do, don't make her jealous.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/need-help-with-a-taurus-woman-5036609/
So, after almost a year since she went hot and cold (see link above for more details), my crush is coming back. Sheâs trying to rekindle our friendship probably with the intention of evolving it to something more romantic. She has placed her hand on my lower back, which drove shivers up my spine that persisted for an entire afternoon; and passed the tips of her fingers around my back, around the waist. I havenât caught her staring at me, but the first day we started talking I noticed her looking at me with dilated pupils. Yesterday, when we met, her body language was very sensual and telling but it mellowed down. I was desperate to touch her, but I couldnât because we werenât alone and I like my privacy.
I have been a little hot and cold. She hurt me badly (and knows it, although she clearly doesnât want to talk about it) and my defenses were up for a few days. But her behaviors are slowly opening me up and inciting me. Yesterday, I kissed her cheek in a more intimate way and, at night, when weâre saying our goodbyes, when I kissed her on the cheek, I placed my hand around her waist and lower back. I think she liked it because when we finally parted away she touched me on the shoulder, instead of avoiding me.
We came very close to full body contact. I was behind her, while she had her back turned to me loading packages to the back seat of her car. I donât know if both of us desired for some âaccidental bumpâ that might have connect both of your bodies.
Things are going well. I'm feeling a very sensual energy. We havenât spent any time alone, like we used to and enjoyed very much. We are always surrounded by other people. Iâll wait and see what happens we have some privacy.
Maybe the occasion will open her up for a more sensual and intimate hug and probably a kiss.
Taurus sun Virgo moon here.click to expand
I know. The potential for romance is there.
But I'm afraid of being overly romantic and getting rejected again. I really want to court her, but I'm afraid. I already tried it and got shot dow
Sorry for the late reply. Been very busy at work and I'm very very tired.
I know. The potential for romance is there.
But I'm afraid of making romantic gestures and getting rejected again. I really want to court her, but I'm afraid.
A year ago I was talkative and confident, and things were going great. Now, after a year of rejection and no communication, I don't feel as confident as I did and I just get nervous and shy, and don't say nothing/much at all.
Last time we were together, It was at a friend's party some 4~5 weeks ago. I was very quiet and shy, and she tried talking to me. I started opening up but very slowly. She was a little seductive, which was a positive sign. She brought her sister, and I talked with her mainly about my crush when she was younger. She left without saying goodbye though.
I can feel that she is nervous too. She barely holds eye contact and gets jittery.
I don't know. Maybe its just better let things run naturally and hope for the best.
I know. The potential for romance is there.
But I'm afraid of making romantic gestures and getting rejected again. I really want to court her, but I'm afraid.
A year ago I was talkative and confident, and things were going great. Now, after a year of rejection and no communication, I don't feel as confident as I did and I just get nervous and shy, and don't say nothing/much at all.
Last time we were together, It was at a friend's party some 4~5 weeks ago. I was very quiet and shy, and she tried talking to me. I started opening up but very slowly. She was a little seductive, which was a positive sign. She brought her sister, and I talked with her mainly about my crush when she was younger. She left without saying goodbye though.
I can feel that she is nervous too. She barely holds eye contact and gets jittery.
I don't know. Maybe its just better let things run naturally and hope for the best.
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So, after almost a year since she went hot and cold (see link above for more details), my crush is coming back. Sheâs trying to rekindle our friendship probably with the intention of evolving it to something more romantic. She has placed her hand on my lower back, which drove shivers up my spine that persisted for an entire afternoon; and passed the tips of her fingers around my back, around the waist. I havenât caught her staring at me, but the first day we started talking I noticed her looking at me with dilated pupils. Yesterday, when we met, her body language was very sensual and telling but it mellowed down. I was desperate to touch her, but I couldnât because we werenât alone and I like my privacy.
I have been a little hot and cold. She hurt me badly (and knows it, although she clearly doesnât want to talk about it) and my defenses were up for a few days. But her behaviors are slowly opening me up and inciting me. Yesterday, I kissed her cheek in a more intimate way and, at night, when weâre saying our goodbyes, when I kissed her on the cheek, I placed my hand around her waist and lower back. I think she liked it because when we finally parted away she touched me on the shoulder, instead of avoiding me.
We came very close to full body contact. I was behind her, while she had her back turned to me loading packages to the back seat of her car. I donât know if both of us desired for some âaccidental bumpâ that might have connect both of your bodies.
Things are going well. I'm feeling a very sensual energy. We havenât spent any time alone, like we used to and enjoyed very much. We are always surrounded by other people. Iâll wait and see what happens we have some privacy.
Maybe the occasion will open her up for a more sensual and intimate hug and probably a kiss.