THE THIRD PARTY

Well I'm a Taurus to start, and well I've never had a boyfriend
I've only dated a few. Well my problem is every guy that likes
me and would like to get with me already has a girlfriend! We
both understand that fact too but for some reason we will end
hooking up for a while ( a secret thing of course). Then theres
this one guy that has like me for a yr now and he knew I liked
him but he never asked me out! He has another girlfriend right
now but he doesnt treat her good at all and I know if it was me
he would be treating me soo much better and like the princess
he knows I am. He claims he never asked me out because he
thought I would reject him and I always here that from guys and
I CANT STAND IT! The thing is he still constantly flirts with me and
tells me all this stuff. Well now I'm dating this guy, he treats me
good and really likes me his family loves me also. The thing with
him now is I dont like this dating thing. We would be at a party and
Im off flirting with other guys and not with him..Theres times when he
just gets on my nerves, and other times I really like him. He's really
rich also and is always wanting to pay for things and that makes
me really insecure about me... Ive told him dont pay i will and all
other things. we Havent done anything togerther so its not that I jsut
dont konw what to do! Am I going to be insecure about guys forever? please anser me back!!!

Hey girl I just wanted you to know that you're not the only bull who feels this way. I too feel very insecure about my relationships because I always want and expect a lot from a guy but at the same time I tolerate a lot of s*** they don't do that they should. It's like I feel I don't deserve anyhting and whatever I want or need I can do it myself. I have a tendancy to keep my distance when I feel things are getting to close. I too have dated guys who have girlfriends. I think for us as being taureens, we like a challenge and we like to feel wanted and desired..we are natural seductress with our laid back attitudes and sexy bodies and magnetic eyes who can lure any guy in. Even if he doesnt belong to us! we need to stop that though. Also I don't know about you but when I finally fall in love with someone, it's hard for me to tell them and when I finally do I think I am too obsessive-just too much to handle! Oh and one more thing-as far as the money goes..we love it but we love our own. So why everyone says we are materialistic bossy bitches-they got us all wrong. example: I've been seeing this guy (on the sneak tip of course) and he gave me $ 300 to pay this bill..I was just telling him how much i owed and he came over with the money in his hand...most girls would keep it..I have it in an envelope with a thankyou card I plan on giving to him today! Hey not to get off your subject but why dont you take a looksie at the pisces message board..I wrote a book yesterday talking about this guy that i have been friends with for yrs.and now I'm in love with him. It's titled:"Need some advice from a pisces (man preferably). I'd love to hear what another taurus who has the same problems as me thinks about my situation. Be honest...(and open minded-hee hee)
Lady Bull~

i have been with a guy for two years he pays for stuff. And at first I thought hte same wa you do. But I talked to hem and he said he does it becouse he cares. About the guys with girlfriends, don't break enybody up. You have to chose and so do the guys.I hope everything works out. My love-live is great.

I am a grrl bull too and I know what everyone is saying. However years of being that way, wanting more than getting from guys, 3rd parties involved, seducing ungettables has taught me that for Taurians it all comes down to security. I dont mean just financial, i mean confidence! You have to keep telling yourself you are worth more innately and you don't have to settle for anything but 100% perfect guy for you. That means for bulls: cute, loving, stable but head in the clouds. You all can grow up and ask for more and guess what? You'll probably get it

I agree with 151. It's sorta nice to know that there are other cancers
out there exactly like me. Always putting up with the "bull" not pune intended.
We are to nice and easy going for our own good. The opposite of what
of what everyone thinks the term "the bull" really means.
I'm far from materialisitc but I like nice things and nice places.
Back onto you. You are a taurus, if you loving something you may let it go emotionallyl somday,
but while you have it- you love deep and always will. That will
never change it's in our blood.
Unfortunatly I'm probably older then you.
And have to say having several relationships as a taurus female,
you will probably always be deeply hurt at the end of a relationship.
And yes we do hold feelings reserved , and do cling on after we have
told that person how we feel. We crave security of knowing there ours
. You wont ever be insecure as long as you are sure of who you are.
You will probably always be scared to get hurt again- , and taking chances
on a guys will be take long as you get older because we love deep and with 110%
of what we have. I'm pretty sure that wont change. Know who you are, be secure with that.
We tend to lose ourselves in relationships to the point we don't know who we are anymore.
Good luck. and word of advice stay away from male cancers. They
will drive insane. Trust me on that one.

I agree with 151. It's sorta nice to know that there are other taurus's
out there exactly like me. Always putting up with the "bull" not pune intended.
We are to nice and easy going for our own good. The opposite of what
of what everyone thinks the term "the bull" really means.
I'm far from materialisitc but I like nice things and nice places.
Back onto you. You are a taurus, if you loving something you may let it go emotionallyl somday,
but while you have it- you love deep and always will. That will
never change it's in our blood.
Unfortunatly I'm probably older then you.
And have to say having several relationships as a taurus female,
you will probably always be deeply hurt at the end of a relationship.
And yes we do hold feelings reserved , and do cling on after we have
told that person how we feel. We crave security of knowing there ours
. You wont ever be insecure as long as you are sure of who you are.
You will probably always be scared to get hurt again- , and taking chances
on a guys will be take long as you get older because we love deep and with 110%
of what we have. I'm pretty sure that wont change. Know who you are, be secure with that.
We tend to lose ourselves in relationships to the point we don't know who we are anymore.
Good luck. and word of advice stay away from male cancers. They
will drive insane. Trust me on that one.

To 216, get rid of the "princess" persona and you'll attract the RIGHT kind of men. PS, how old are you anyway? You sound quite young.

To the original poster, I've found that if you (wordlessly) command respect from men, they'll give it to you. Don't flirt back with guys who are in relationships, and chances are you won't have to deal with guys pursuing you who are in relationships. It's unnecessary stress that you don't need. If these guys really liked you and wanted to be with you for more than superficial reasons, I *guarantee* they would drop their current girlfriends and pursue a relationship with you. Since that's not what they do, you can pretty much be 100 percent sure that they are interested in you for superficial reasons (whether they think you'll give them sex or whatever the case may be)--which makes them unworthy of you in the first place. Also, a big red flag should be flying when you see that a guy is treating his g-friend badly. It's a huge indicator of his disrepect for all women, including you. I hope this sinks in for you, otherwise you will have to learn all these lessons the hard way. Trust me, don't start creating bad relationship habits now, or they'll haunt you forever.