To pursue or Fall back?

Hey guys just need a bit of insight really on whether I should pursue this Taurus guy I've recently started to talk too or just leave it? We met on tinder around 3 weeks ago swapped numbers and started texting although since then and up until 4 days ago I've been the one that initiates it which is kinda annoying! He always replies and has been such a gent, he works all the time and after work he goes to the gym! I made a move and asked if he wanted to meet up one evening (a date) and he was very much up for it but because of how busy he is he said he couldn't really say when. He's never been rude always replies to texts but being a Libra him not initiating contact or making movements is winding me up a bit :/ it's been 4 days of no contact just need to know shall I pursue or just leave it be?? I am older than him he's 23 and I'm a woman in my 30's he knows I'm up for dating and not hook ups.... Cheers

What do you see in him? And I'm looking at your ages right now.

Although 290 is correct..

What direction are you at right now in your life?

What are the good things about him that attract you to him?

Can you compromise and adapt? Cause he will work alot and but you off till he isn't working or too tired.

Hi thank you for your response 🙂 yes I have taken a step back and will just wait and see what happens.. I really appreciate your advice even at my age I still get it wrong sometimes lol.

Something people should know. You must be stable and we can work so much that we may lose an opportunity because of an extra shift available, or even our work schedule.. so yeah this point it's about compromise and communication, understanding, and space...but you can always text too. Just to know we are still thinking about you. And later in relationships that's usually something to talk about....

tinder isn't that bad lol he actually is really sweet it's just I'm so impatient and want things like yesterday I have no chill which I need to learn to have! Ive been single 5 years now and I'm at the point in life that I'm looking for a companion! Ive done the marriage and kids just want myself company.. I know the age difference isn't ideal but hey ho

Oh and I'm very stable my own house job car etc 🙂 just impatient lol I will eventually shoot him a message but will give him space for now

Can be a bit of a worrier but yes I would say so! Ive been through a lot over the years I'm a strong confident woman but have my days like we all do I guess

His profile had 31 years old on it when I came across him and when confronted he did say he was only 23 so I was purposely wasn't looking for someone as young as him although I do always attract the young ones never any man my age or older. I know we are at different stages of our lives but the way he has come across to me I like it also we do have a mutual friend as I found out later on. He does seem mature for his age but is maturity defined by age these days?!? I'm going to leave him be for a while and shoot him a text next week or something.

Sorry I meant I WASNT purposely looking

too small, throw him back.

Yes I've thought about it more today and I'm just going to leave things be! If I hear from him then all good if not then it's no big loss.

Posted by jeane
too small, throw him back.

Ha ha ha... Always plenty more fish...

Posted by Tdlight76
His profile had 31 years old on it when I came across him and when confronted he did say he was only 23 so I was purposely wasn't looking for someone as young as him although I do always attract the young ones never any man my age or older. I know we are at different stages of our lives but the way he has come across to me I like it also we do have a mutual friend as I found out later on. He does seem mature for his age but is maturity defined by age these days?!? I'm going to leave him be for a while and shoot him a text next week or something.

He's 23 but put he's 31 on his profile.

This means one of three things:

1) he doesn't know how old he is

2) he can't add up

3) he purposefully changed his age because he wants to fuck an older chick or chicks and the only way he can get their attention is by putting himself in the 'pool' of guys that a early 30's lady would be searching for... And that ain't gonna be a 23 year old... is it?

At 35, the only uses I'd have for a 23 year old are:

1) sex - ego boost of younger man

2) house keeping or maintenance/fixing stuff

3) more sex - at my beck and call or on my terms, of course

4) nope, can't see 'lasting and meaningful adult relationship' on this list...