Why Does Taurus Act This Way—?

I have noticed about a Taurus woman I know that when we are together she is very sweet, open, has a soft spoken tone, and likes to be in my personal space. When other people come around or her friends she acts different. She has a normal tone, in her own space, doesn't really talk or be open much. It's kind of confusing because I would think that she would act the same with her friends the way she acts with me. We haven't really gotten to know enough about each other to really say we're friends but we do have an effort less connection and we just seem to click. I can definitely see us getting closer in the future and being in each others life.

Posted by darksecret83
I have noticed about a Taurus woman I know that when we are together she is very sweet, open, has a soft spoken tone, and likes to be in my personal space. When other people come around or her friends she acts different. She has a normal tone, in her own space, doesn't really talk or be open much. It's kind of confusing because I would think that she would act the same with her friends the way she acts with me. We haven't really gotten to know enough about each other to really say we're friends but we do have an effort less connection and we just seem to click. I can definitely see us getting closer in the future and being in each others life.

Major RED FLAG here.

Beware of this.

My former Taurus was whining about wanting a 5K dollar engagement ring from me in private.

But the next day, she refused to hold my hand in a restaurant when her DUI cun.t "friend" capricorn was sitting nearby.

It seems as though these women love you CONDITIONALLY.

As in, only when the conditions THEY believe are appropriate, will they be loving and sweet.

Beware of a woman who loves you conditionally.

You will end up very miserable if you are not careful.

People in general tend to act differently in one-on-ones than in a group of people. A positive, relaxed intimate atmosphere between two individuals encourages you to be your true self, while in a group, people feel the need to put up a bit of a shield because they want to come across in a certain way. She probably likes you though, we don't act that way with just anyone.

Taurus chick that is in the way does the same crap. She comes off super sweet Angel that loves everything. Really shes creepy manipulative and plotting. I haven't observed the men to be like this, but the women, be careful.

I've known her for almost 2 years. It's so hard to really tell who she is being genuine with. I'm a Capricorn and I normally know when someone is not worth knowing or being around. I don't get any bad vibes when around her. I wonder if maybe she doesn't really like her friends or don't feel she can be herself. I've never been so confused about someone before. If her friends are around and say something or ask her something then she would answer their question while looking at me like I'm the one that asked the question.

She likes you but she's not ready to claim you in public yet or at least around her friends. You're not hers yet. I personally don't like it when a romance is in the really early stages and the guy is all touchy around people I'm close to. Like he publicly acts in a physically claiming way, but he hasn't verbally claimed me. I sort of feel like if the relationship isn't cemented, don't act like it is. If that makes any sense. Lol I think I just take "touch" more seriously than others.

Besides maybe she really cares about her friends' opinions. None of my exes ever met my Dad, siblings yes, but meeting my Dad is so important to me, that I feel as if the relationship should be undoubtedly, permanent if that were to ever happen. Like I should be pregnant with your third child or something lol jk!

She's just being self-protective...what if your little courtship ended? How does she explain to her friends the absence of the guy she was acting all lovey-dovey with before?

Dude, if she refuses to hold your hand or do affectionate things in public, then you are with a person who loves you conditionally.

Not a psychologically healthy environment for a good man to be in.

A d-bag, yes. A good man, no.

You are observing a major red flag here, and you need to decidr how to respond.

I have different levels of intimacy with different friends. Some I share more with and others less. Some I know I can't open up to because they can't keep a secret or they try to fix my life when all I'm doing is venting. Some bring out my hyper and silly side while others are serious and we don't have that type of playful friendship. I tend to enjoy one on one with people over a group. Even with my friends, most of them don't hang out together. It just gets to complicated. As for her not touching you while they were there. Its respectful to others not to be all touchy feely with your guy while their there. Is your relationship new? Has it been established that you guys are exclusive? I would only touch my man in front of others when I knew we were exclusive and I trusted him. I personally love PDA once a relationship has been established. Maybe she isn't sure you'll like that.

I have a different tone and demeanor when dealing with business. I never show my soft side or weakness there. I would never speak to my friends in a soft and sweet voice it would seem like I was hitting on them. That would be weird. She speaks to you that way because she cares for you, wants to make you comfortable, and shes flirting with you. It's just saved for special times with special people. You should appreciate it.

Posted by Taurusgirl3
It's just saved for special times with special people. You should appreciate it.

Question:

Say you are with someone who loves you and has been with you for years, and he tries to hold your hand at a restaurant with other "friends" at the table.

Do you resist his hand? Or do you take it, and hold it?

Posted by anonymousheart
Taurus chick that is in the way does the same crap. She comes off super sweet Angel that loves everything. Really shes creepy manipulative and plotting. I haven't observed the men to be like this, but the women, be careful.

Yeah, it's pretty fouled up that a woman who has been with her man for a couple years would refuse to hold his hand or give him a kiss just because her ruthless cun* "friends" are in the same room.

That kind of sh!t is a major foul up, and should not be tolerated.

If a man reaches for his woman, she better damn well reach back.

Tolerating anything less is a fool's life.

Posted by ScorpioFish

Posted by Taurusgirl3
It's just saved for special times with special people. You should appreciate it.

Question:

Say you are with someone who loves you and has been with you for years, and he tries to hold your hand at a restaurant with other "friends" at the table.

Do you resist his hand? Or do you take it, and hold it?

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I wouldnt be able to take his hand because my hands would already be on him. 😄 I'd take his hand. I'd accept any affections he offered.

Unless I was upset with him then I wouldn't touch and I'd refuse his hand.

Once when i was out to dinner with my boyfriend and his family I saw him looking past me and smirking. I looked where his eye contact was and saw that he was checking out the waitress that was walking behind me. He tried to hold my hand after dinner to help me down some stairs I refused his hand.

We aren't together yet but getting to know each other and becoming closer. I just wanted to know what was up with her behavior but after reading all the comments I can see why she would be acting different in different environments. Today she was comfortable being close in front of others. I'm just going to see where this goes whether intimate or just friends I will be happy with the results :-)

Posted by darksecret83
It's kind of confusing because I would think that she would act the same with her friends the way she acts with me.

I wouldn't put too much emphasis on this....Don't be alarmed.

When I'm with someone I really like, I'm softer, more demure, shy, affectionate, nurturing...This is just the initial stages, all other aspects of her personality will be revealed at the end. Is she being pretentious? I doubt it. Her reaction to you may just be the normal reaction of interest.

My personality? If you ask individuals who have known me for 20+ years, they will tell you I'm opinionated, ballsy, honest, passionate, hilariously funny...and if I'm in a real good mood...one hot mess! LOL.

If you ask my boyfriend...he did not see any of those characteristics, initially, but he has seen it now. LOL! Initially, I was sweet, soft spoken and very affectionate. I'm still sweet and affectionate, soft spoken? Not so much. LOL.

Being around her friends when she's around you as well, puts her in two completely different zones. She may still be feeling you out, and do not want anyone in her ear asking questions about the two of you she may not be prepared to answer.

She may not be too sure where the two of you are headed.

I know when my family members and friends were in my ear initially about my current boyfriend, (this is when we started dating) I simply told them we were just friends. My movements with him were different when I was around them. I didn't say much.

PDA makes me very nervous, now if my significant other gave PDA in front of fam n friends I would do it but not necessarily like it. Im kinda shy n private. I wouldnt like to argue n public either.and dont like people to see me cry...its just no ones business..and I always protect my image..because we dont get the rep of being stable and together for nothing......I really wouldnt take it personal........

It seems as if she doesn't treat everyone as nice as she treats you?
That sounds like a compliment to me...
I'm generally not super lovey me to the general public or even all my friends...
When I find someone to express that mushy stuff to, it's quite a relief and a symbol of trust...
If i was nice to everyone they might think I'm a nice girl and not a tough one :-P
Try bringing it to her attention bc maybe she's unaware of it?
If she is, it could open up for some interesting convo...

-heather

Yes, I noticed this behavior with Taurus, both males and females. When they are in a large group they act as they want to be the leader of the group, a bit like Geminis do too.
I don't get along well with other Taurus because they put so many conditions you realize it's not worth it. And the "diamond ring" story, heard this a million times. Being a sucker is a choice you can avoid if you want.

I'm honestly am pretty picky on the Taureans I'll put up with lol I know how I am lol
But most the time I just shake my head and laugh at them bc I know, man.... I know..... Lol
I catch myself in endless "discussions" with one other Bull Buddy, to which I only notice when our Scorpio friend starts to shake his head and giggle lol
All in all, noone is gonna like everybody bc we are not only Taureans but individuals...
I dig the common Taurean traits we share but to each his own, right?

-heather

Would a Taurus tell you straight up if they aren't interested or will they string you along?

I 100% agree with robyn808.hit it on the nail