Approaching You

How do you like to be approached?
Do you even like to BE approached--or would you rather be the aggressor?
What has been the best/worst approach ever? (either by you or someone else)
Best/worst times to approach you?

I really don't like to be approached on the streets, lmfao. I will put on the meanest face I can muster up to prevent it, but there are guys who just see this as a challenge and they strut their stupid as.ses over anyway...(-_-)

I would never approach a guy though--I don't think there's anything wrong with women who like to do the pursuing, but it's not for me. I'm a traditionalist, and I believe the man should court the woman.

Worst approach was when I was on my way home from Home Depot--this guy cornered me in the parking lot, and even though I told him I was with someone at the time he grabbed my hand, and got down on one knee in front of other customers walking towards/from the store, and they're all "omg! he's gonna propose!" and I'm like "NO! I DON'T KNOW THIS GUY! HELP!" Ugh...I never went to that Home Depot again...

Best time to approach me...hm...no clue
Worst? Hm...just about anytime, LOL! I don't know what it is, I'm fickle and picky and bit.chy--I can admit it. It just depends on the day and my mood that day, etc...I don't know...

Posted by CLCNY30
I really don't like to be approached on the streets, lmfao. I will put on the meanest face I can muster up to prevent it, but there are guys who just see this as a challenge and they strut their stupid as.ses over anyway...(-_-)

This is interesting. Now, I too don't like to be approached about 75% of the day, mainly because I'm always on the go, in a hurry, having business to tend to, ect. So, if I see someone I know, I purposely look the other way so they don't see me so that I won't have to be stopped. It's not like I dont' want to see that person, I just can't be bothered at that moment. However, in contrast to what you do CLC, I smile at complete strangers. I only do this out of habit now because a couple of my friends once told me that before they knew me, they thought I was a bitch. I realize I can come off a little cold since I'm always on the move and I walk with authority, but that's far from the type of person I am. I just like to let people know that I AM approachable even if I don't want to be approached at that moment... irony lol.

For the most part, the best time to approach me is when I'm obviously not going 70mph and in a rush. That means I'm busy and I need to focus. However, when I'm more relaxed, just strolling, feeling good, that's a perfect time to approach me. It's probably my leo placements, but when in that mood, I LOVE to engage people. I'm not so forward that I can approach people on my own, especially guys, but when I know the person and feeling confident and relaxed, I will walk up to people.

So basically, approaching me depends on my mood. If I am approached when in a certain mood, I will talk, but I'll work to get myself away. Ie, try to cut the conversation short, make excuses, ect. I don't like to ignore people if they acknowledge me (unless it's some creeper, and living by DC, there are A LOT of them).

Also, I remember this one time when me and my friends were walking from the club back to the metro late at night. My feet were killing me, I was a little drunk, and exhausted. These guys were wandering around and saw my friends and me. They started walking beside us, trying to talk to us, and one in particular really tried hard to get my number. I remember I just kept looking forward while ocassionally throwing sideways glances, smiling (I can still be a tease); however, I barely spoke, I would look the other way, I never once stopped to actually talk to him. So, right before we reached the metro, I told him that I was going to say my number very fast, and if he could remember it, he should call me. So I did that, and I could see him trying to get it down as I walked to the metro.

Posted by catguy
hahaha This how I DO NOT like to be approached: I was crossing the street at an intersection and this man is kinda walking close to me, and I'm watching him from the corner of my eye like wtf? He said something to me. And I thought he said do you want to join a company? And I said, what do you mean? And this fuckin' guy says, me having sex with you and me paying you for it. I just said I'm straight man and walked away. So, what he intially said was do you want some company. lol.

If this happens again, say yes
and invite me to videotape
ty in advance.
-CLC

yes.
Now don't forget to alert me.
Once again, ty in advance.

-CLC

Candeh, yeah--I can't put a smile on or people instantly try to engage me in conversation--and I'm THAT chick, the one people come out of the closet to/tell that they've got 10 days to live/tell that they've been molested/tell that they've just committed a crime/tell that they like to do freaky deaky sh.it (ex: one guy blurted out that he likes to have his dog lick his balls when he's f'n a chick. My reply was "*looks down at watchless wrist* wow, would you look at the time" and this all stemmed from me giving a friendly smile to a guy on line at the bank, and him waiting for me outside to continue talking...so...yeah...)

I made the mistake of kidding around w/my landlord and he thought that an open invitation to tell me he was on his way to the train station to pick up some chick for sex. I was like (o_O) wtf? Do I LOOK like Dear Abby?!

People tell me WAY too much, so I try to block myself off from everyone as much as possible.

Posted by Candeh15

This is interesting. Now, I too don't like to be approached about 75% of the day, mainly because I'm always on the go, in a hurry, having business to tend to, ect. So, if I see someone I know, I purposely look the other way so they don't see me so that I won't have to be stopped. It's not like I dont' want to see that person, I just can't be bothered at that moment.

Bingo, same here.

I have to be in a mood to be approached with nothing pertinent to be done. Which is rare.

Posted by CLCNY30

Worst approach was when I was on my way home from Home Depot--this guy cornered me in the parking lot, and even though I told him I was with someone at the time he grabbed my hand, and got down on one knee in front of other customers walking towards/from the store, and they're all "omg! he's gonna propose!" and I'm like "NO! I DON'T KNOW THIS GUY! HELP!" Ugh...I never went to that Home Depot again...

LMFAO

i'm "that girl" too. i think it's because a lot of people learned how to socialize by watching tv, which is not a very good example. so they'll just blurt things out. and men who say disgusting things to strangers probably watch too much porn, and don't realize that real life usually doesn't work like that.

in other words, there isn't really a "that girl". just a lot of creeps and losers who should learn to stfu.