Can I Just Vent Out?

New here. Been lurking for months on this site and finally, I have decided to let all my thoughts out. Pardon me for my first post which is definitely full of questions and emotions. Possibly annoying but i will speak anyway.

I knew this virgo for a year. He had been pretty open about his stress and all other stuff about his life. I fell for him but he told me that he likes me as a friend. I decided to move on and date. He did express his jealousy but at the same time won't offer me a relationship so I proceeded seeing other guys. in the past few weeks, a new girl came in the picture. a cappy. he added her on fb but never added me telling me that it's because he knows i will get jealous if i see girls in is fb. he kept expressing the fact that he doesn't want me to continue seeing other guys but also, still, won't offer me anything at all. aside from that, we tend to fight quite often lately until i finally gave up. although i started taking his criticisms lightly, he seemed to go crazier because of that and gets angry easily. last friday, he told me that he is like that even with his parents. possibly, when a person gets too close to him, he said, he expects them to understand him.

so now, i still do not know where i stand. what i am to him. and should i get jealous with this new girl?

If I were you I would just delete/forget him from my memory & life and just move on & date other guys (not just date to get that virgo guy jealous or whatnot, but look for a guy who can give what I want -in this case, a relationship-).

I think your virgo guy just enjoys the attentions you give him. He's got a new girl as you wrote and accepted her to his life (FB?), yet did not offer you anything (not even FB) in return, so why bother further?

I don't know, I can be persistent if I really feel like to, but there's a limit for everything and if a guy says 'I don't want you,' then I take it at a face value and just move on. Not worth to invest my time and energy in someone who would not appreciate, let alone reciprocate.

Just my two cents... 🙂

I am saying this, because, recently I was seeing a guy for about six weeks then the guy said he got a new girl and even though he wanted us to remain friends, he thought it'd be hard on both of us - I got the hint (i.e., he does not want me!) lol So I said 'goodbye!' to him lol 🙂
And now I am meeting other guys lol One is virgo, other's cancer - but the virgo is almost out! lol

I am thinking of that too. Yes. It is pretty annoying. I just wanted to hear it from other people. I will move on in that case. Yes, maybe he likes the attention but it can't be one way. I'm a gem btw. So, yes. Possibly not the one for me. Told my mom about the situation and she scolded me for it. Lol. I am seeing other guys. A libra, an aqua and another virgo. Aqua is getting ahead. Oh, also a taurus. Iu just can't be stuck in uncertainty.

Lol I am a gemini, too! I have dated with both aqua and libra and both were fantastic, but personally, aqua was much better! So much fun, open-minded and mind stimulating conversations... The guy I said goodbye to was another aqua but he was not really my type (looking department I mean) but I thought 'just give it a try,' and it did not work out...
A taurus... I don't know, I attract lots of them and while I am attracted to them in the initial stage, but as time goes on, they are too serious and sometimes appear too conservative to me - usually I left and they did not pursue me, so things ended there.

Anyways, good luck!

Thanks! I wonder, is your chart full of earth and water? I'm a gem with sagittarius rising. I have amazing chemistry with geminis, sagittarians and aquarians. Dated a libra before and sex was amazing but he was too romantic it lacked adventure! Aquarians seem to provide me air to breathe. We get mushy sometimes but we also give space to each other which is perfect as I like to do stuff on my own. The sagittarian though was always like hot and cold but we can't get enough of each other. Taurus..my first time actually. Not sure what to expect!

I'm not really knowledgeable with the chart thing, because I am fairly new to this lol recently joined this site 🙂

My chart has lots of air and water signs. I am aries rising.
Yes, my experience with libras, they were easy going people, very romantic but as you said lacked of adventures - they preferred to dine at fancy restaurants and enjoy high arts and such but not really into trying out new, weird, even bizarre things whilst aquarians were more like ready to try anything for once in a life time - which I so enjoyed with them 🙂

Yes, my aqua ex and I understood perfectly the need of our own time and space.

I have dated one sagittarian, it was fun, too 🙂

With tauruses... they certainly ooze that dependable and secure appealing, and that's why I was firstly attracted to them, but a time after I realised they had certain norms and expectations of their own which were, sadly, compatible with those of mine 😢 They are oftentimes old-fashioned and conservative, which is good itself, but just clash with me. I think they are down to earth and reliable, but probably cannot expect lots of excitement from them.

incompatible*, not compatible lol sorry!

Posted by Aria
I am thinking of that too. Yes. It is pretty annoying. I just wanted to hear it from other people. I will move on in that case. Yes, maybe he likes the attention but it can't be one way. I'm a gem btw. So, yes. Possibly not the one for me. Told my mom about the situation and she scolded me for it. Lol. I am seeing other guys. A libra, an aqua and another virgo. Aqua is getting ahead. Oh, also a taurus. Iu just can't be stuck in uncertainty.

——??How is this Virgo the bad guy here when he told you from day one FRIENDS ONLY? What part of that did you not understand??

I wasn't saying he is the bad guy. All I was saying is that he says something and does the opposite. So I got confused. That was it.

Posted by Aria
I wasn't saying he is the bad guy. All I was saying is that he says something and does the opposite. So I got confused. That was it.

I got that...however his behavior is consistent in that he is acting on his original statement, he's not in a relationship with you.

Why would you want to be with someone who confuses you? Is that his problem or yours? For all we know he might be playing with you due to the fact that you are shoving men you are dating down his throat. What's that about? Why not move on and away from this guy and the "confusion" and concentrate on the men you are out there dating?

I'm trying that now. Keeping my distance. His statement last Friday just made me think if I was doing the right thing or if I was being the impulsive me again. Of course, I do not want to be in the confused stage for too long. Gemini as I am, I still want stability. The way he apologized for the wrong things he said lately and the way he said that he must be like that because we are close..and that he was wrong to be treating me that way and expects me to understand.. I dunno. I am just weak maybe. I forgive easily even if I get hurt. Or maybe because I love him and I seldom fall inlove. Or maybe I am just an idiot... I just want to let my thoughts out. Been keeping this for too long..