confused and lost ehh any thoughts?

hey guys so i've made a previous post about my situation with a virgal i've been dating..

So this month makes 5 months since we've started dating and there still hasn't been any topic of commitment that was brought up yet..i'm an aquarius and its pretty tough for me to talk about such a topic with her and emotions in general..till this day she still does the push-pull actions but it hasn't been AS often as it used to when we first started dating..she did make it a point that she didn't want a relationship (in general) because she wanted to focus on school and finish her stuff before she gets into a relationship..i pretty much threw in the towel mentally and detached myself from the situation and didn't put much effort anymore in contacting her..i noticed when i did this she blew up my phone like crazy after a week of not talking to me..texting/calling me every day/night..we hung out this past weekend and she was the one who asked me to come over..we went out for a bit and at the end of the night she admitted to me that i was the only one who she makes time for to see during the week..she told me that she doesn't make time to see her friends really, but for me she does. i didn't really know how to respond to that you know, i didn't want to fall back into things and feel vulnerable and just told her i appreciated that..i feel like shes giving me mixed signals and i'm still just keeping things cool and not getting wrapped up again like how i was when we first started dating..i just don't want to feel disappointed..any thoughts on the sitch? should i even bother keeping up with this chick?

Don't go for the mixed signals. Inquire about what is REALLY up. She's saying she doesn't want a relationship because she needs to focus on school but she's focusing on calling you when you ignore her? If she is dating you now, how is having a relationship going to be a complication?

Don't settle. Let her know exactly how you feel. If you want a relationship, you deserve one & if she doesn't want to reciprocate that then it's her loss. I know easier said than done, but hell, NEVER settle for less. Get what you want whether it is with her or not.

Maybe in the begining she was protecting herself. Especially if you came on strong. It's been 5 months now and she knows you better. She was going out on a limb to tell you she only makes time for you. I personally think she wants to be with you. How serious is up to the two of you. Both of you need to try and have "that" talk again. Then see how you feel. Just my thoughts. 🙂

@RealTalk yeah your right the way she acts just doesnt add up to a lot of the things she says to me..such as the whole not wanting a relationship with me..yet she calls me "babe" "baby" all those corny things haha...i think i'll def. bring it up next time i see her..shes pulling away from me at the moment this week lol so i'm not going to contact her maybe till the weekend or next week..ugh its so frustrating but i'm getting used to this push-pull crap..i don't get all anxious anymore when she does this..it just puzzles me why to this day she's still doing it..we've gotten to know eachother a lot more over these couple of months and i think 5 months is long enough to finally commit and make things offical, no?

@virgie yeah i remember back when we first started dating i may have came on too strong..this chick would always end up pulling me back in whenever i gave her space..now whenever she does pull me in its whatever at this point, i dont get all heart melted and shit when she does contact me LOL..i sort of have this mindset where i'm just seeing where this goes from now on but honestly its gotten to a point where i do want a direct answer from her whether or not she just wants to stay friends or actually sees this going somewhere down the road or now..when she said that she only makes time to see me, do virgos usually admit things like that"? idk i felt like maybe she was testing me to see my reaction haha

I would admit that, but I would also be looking for your reaction. LOL I know that didn't help! LMAO!

hahaha its all good virgie..i guess i didn't give her the reaction she was looking for, now shes pullin away